I also think the point here is considerably more nuanced than non-passing=bad.

I read it as a critique of how trans people are stereotyped as non-passing. The fact of the matter is, a lot of us do pass and go about our daily lives, and the average cis person doesn't even realize. We assimilate more often than most would admit.

So while I don't think there should be moral value to passing per se, I also think it's pretty fucked up the way we're all sort of stereotyped as being the most visible until proven otherwise...

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I remember that feeling so clearly. Mood boost is one of the earliest benefits of HRT, or at least it was for me. Congrats!

Also for what it's worth, I could never really date all that much before hormones. A month into HRT I had a cute little fling and later that year I met my boyfriend. 5 years and going strong.

This is so encouraging imo thank you

Big changes! HRT and surgeries are often inflection points for breakups. Sounds like you’re on the right track. Breakups are hard during any time let alone during second puberty. Good luck 🫶

Do you know who I would even talk to in order to find out if this instance is comfortable hosting them? In the long run I am working on setting up my own server but that won’t help if the sub is banned tomorrow for example

I think Canada, Mexico, & EU should coordinate so that a tariff on any of us is a tariff on all of us. Hit back dollar for dollar on any tariff affecting any of our economies.

Yes this was basically exactly what I was thinking! It's very reassuring to hear that could be possible in the real world and not just in my head :D

Nice to see the EU joining in

Okay that's rad. I'd been privately thinking of something similar to that myself but I'm new to the fediverse and didn't know whether it was possible. If it's like what I'm thinking you're suggesting that would solve a HUGE issue in our community for balancing visibility (to help others and give information) with privacy (to support each other and avoid bigots). Centralized social media/messaging platforms have never prioritized this need in their design so we are always switching between apps to fulfill either function.

I have talked to the mod at Transgender_Surgeries and the vibe is they’ve worked tirelessly for years doing a thankless job and are too burned out but are open to others taking the lead—probably more likely they would add it to a list of resources if someone else takes the lead on this

I agree with getting off of simply mirroring Reddit content but I think we need a bridge in order to get people posting here. Like if I reply with helpful info here then people have follow up questions maybe they’ll ask me here instead of there type of thing & slowly migrate over

She’s submitted an application to blahaj to join and I pointed her to this thread

Thanks so much! It's great to hear from you. I have a few concerns about some of the details of how that might work & could use your advice. I sent you a DM :)

Thanks! She’s submitted an application to join blahaj and I’ve also pointed her to this post

Thank you for tagging her for me! If she doesn’t see it I’ll reach out to her soon ❤️

Thank you! 😊

That's an awesome response tbh and clears up some of my questions I didn't even know I had too

can't say for sure but I know mine are doneskies ✂️🍆

Yeah I agree. It’s progress and personally I’m very impressed by lemmy. It feels good to get connected with people who are charting paths forward in this environment.

It sucks but historically trans people have always been a bit underground by necessity and needing to find solutions outside the mainstream (in the case of the fediverse maybe one day it will be mainstream). And a lot of us do work in tech, can help those who aren’t as savvy out. We were always active on irc and Usenet back in the day

I think at the end of the day it’s good we’re working on this now because if things go downhill fast we can minimize our losses

Yeah personally I think linking to a Reddit thread is fine because it can be deleted on Reddit still. And then just replying to it here with info so the people have to click through and poke around to get the info they need until eventually they decide to join, etc.

All the more reason to work with the communities to establish a backup.

Right which is what brought me here 😅