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Holy shit this hits so hard for me. In a good way. Was in a bad relationship a while back and got pregnant right toward the end of it. I did struggle with the decision to get an abortion because I was still in this stupid place of sugarcoating how bad he and I were together. But jfc I am SO RELIEVED every time I reflect back on that time and my decision to abort. If I hadn't, he 100% would still be fucking up my life today. Instead I am free ❤️

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I need relationship advice? This hurts a lot

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Girl, I am saying this with so much love and compassion for you- any person who is worried about body count is not worth your time. Him asking alone would be enough of a red flag for me that I would be telling him we're done if I were in your shoes. And then when he hears 5, he is sobbing? Massive red flag, I don't care how nice he may seem, he is not mature enough to be in a relationship and you deserve better.

Sex is just a thing that two consenting adults can do, you having sex before you met him is nothing to be ashamed of, especially if you are practicing safe sex. It's also pretty unhealthy for you to take on the burden of his shame over your sexual life. If you were able to get him to come back, I fear his jealousy and insecurity would be riddled throughout your relationship. I spent all of my 20's in relationships with insecure men (I am a cishet woman) and I want to try to advise you against making a similar mistake. I could have been enjoying those ten years either on my own, or trying to find someone who really valued me. But instead I took on their problems and when I look back on my twenties I SO FUCKING WISH I had broken up with those men sooner (it was 2 long term relationships, one was 6 years, the other was ~3.5 years). I don't know how old you are, but I get a young vibe and I just want you to know that you will find someone who sees your beauty and isn't worried about such trivial things. "Forced love the worst love, throw that shit in the can." -a line from YBN Cordae's song Family Matters https://youtu.be/j8Xg0Y60Tr4

As for messaging people for money and some of the concerns about breaking his trust (as well as being accosted by online horndogs), the best you can do is learn from that outcome. I am not going to shit on people who sell companionship, whether that's just chatting, pics, or otherwise, but as you have found, men online who engage in this trade are dick pic machines. My personal takeaway is that whatever money you made was not worth the stress and the damage it wrought in your personal life. I won't, and can't, tell you not to do it, but to me it doesn't seem worth it.

Take care of yourself first and foremost, and know your value 💖

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Crossing the rainbow bridge today, ilysm Juneau

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Thank you 🙏

Your boy is also gorgeous, they'll make a striking duo ❤️ I will have you in my thoughts tomorrow, sending you strength and support.

I've had and lost a few other dogs, but it hurts just as bad each time. I do know it was his time, but it's so tough when they still have that youthful glint in their eyes. Just grateful that my clinic does at home visits, so he got to go at home with his other animal companions, favorite people, as cozy as possible.

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Do you have kids? Do you want to have kids? Did you regret having / not having kids?

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Mood. There was a time I was standing in line at the post office and some haggard looking mother was doing her best to calmly reign in her child who was busy running away from her, screeching and pulling over every display he could reach, and having zero regard for anyone else in the vicinity. I could see her exhaustion and I wouldn't wish that on anyone. I usually just grit my teeth and try to ignore it until I can escape, but this time I cut off the kids path when he got close, said "Stop" in the harshest tone I could muster, and ngl was pretty pleased with myself when he went crying to his mom. I did realize in that moment, tho, that I probably shouldn't have kids.

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Spinning dancer

I feel like I am the only person who CAN'T see the counter clockwise spin. Have tried all the tricks people suggest to make the spin reverse, still only clockwise. I feel robbed by my own brain. I WANNA SEE THE COOL SHIT, BRAIN, JUST LET ME SEE HER SPIN THE OTHER WAY (╯°□°)╯︵ ┻━┻

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Crossing the rainbow bridge today, ilysm Juneau

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Thank you 🙏 Been crying on and off for the 3 days leading up to today, surprised I have any tears left to shed. And indeed they will, he was such a great, loyal dog. And a hairy one, too, I think I will find tufts of his hair around my place for as long as I stay here. Hairstorm was his special power ❤️

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How you y'all feel about 196?

Already blocked lemmy.world's 196. Sad to see Moss make 196 jump ship, but if what's important to Moss is visibility to as many instances as possible at the expense of user experience, then I don't think we need that community here anyway. We can always revive ours, or make a new one c: