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High functioning autistic eight year-old daughter asking for your guys advice.
Perhaps asking too much, but educating and asking for help from the older brother may also help. Something like,
"Hey, this seems really stressful for you, let's take a 5 min break and continue after."
Though that's asking a lot from a sibling or similar age!
Unfortunately, this is something that can only really improve with age/time.