More like they're deliberately and intentionally trying to cause harm to people, they literally have a community dedicated to transphobia calling transgender people groomers.

It's one thing to disagree with someone, it's another to make disgusting accusations based on a person's orientation/identity. They're literally trying to say that all LGBT people are pedophiles because they disagree. How do you think that is okay?

Defederation is not censorship. It is refusing to listen to or platform things that you don't agree with i.e. bigots or nazis. Lemmy.world has defederated exploding heads so it stands to reason that they wouldn't want to listen to the same assholes spewing the same crap on rammy.site

No the aim is to keep Bigots and Nazis out of Lemmy.world by cutting off the instance they're using to propagate their toxic shit to the rest of the Fediverse. Honestly you sound just as toxic as them, maybe you should go hang out on their instance and not spread your toxicity here.

Oh I'm not threatening you sweetie, I'm just saying that if you continue it's very likely the admins will ban you for being associated with these people, they may see you as a liability due to the fact that you're also a participant over on exploding-heads

Can't deny it, you said it yourself. Also I'm not sharing anything that wasn't already public knowledge, Federated DMs on Lemmy aren't secure any instance admins can see them, meaning any one with a PC capable of running docker can view your federated DMs.

You know even though this is my home instance I fully support you defederating from it, I'd rather move to another instance than than have these assholes posting transphobic bullshit be allowed to come and harass the wonderful people here on lemmy.blahaj.zone as they please.

Lemmy.world defederated EH a while back and now the same people from EH are posting wild on rammy.site, seems like a pretty cut and dry argument for defederation to me, if the admin were here and cleaning these posts and communities up that would be different but he's not and they're still here so best to treat is the same as EH because for all intents and purposes it is the same as EH.

You won't if the admins ban you for being associated with these bigots

It's a shame it had to come to this, I liked rammy.site very stable and almost never goes out, why do bigots have to ruin everything for us...

I remember being told similar things by my "friends" in school due to me being a femboy who wears girl's clothes, and also for being gay, they used a similar argument with me when I would respond to their questions about why I don't want to be a girl because I didn't know then a better way to respond and I wasn't aware of what they were doing to me. They also teased me for being gay telling me "boys aren't attracted to other boys". I'm very glad I found better friends, those people weren't really my friends, they treated me like dirt.

It's not his instance though, he's not an admin he can't do anything about it.

No you aren't weird, gender identity isn't defined by a person's gender conformity or lack there of. Wear whatever makes you feel comfortable, don't worry about it making you one thing or another.

If you have any doubts about your gender identity you should by all means question. I'm not saying you shouldn't. I'm saying the idea that you should wear what you want without worrying so much about what it makes you. You should identify in a way that feels right for you, that's what gender identity is based on, not whether some piece of cloth is semantically considered feminine or masculine.

It was very nice of your sister to give you her old clothes.

You'll no longer be able to retrieve content from the de-federated instance and they'll no longer be able to communicate with yours.

Yeah, why do stupid Nazis always have to ruin everything anyway?

Glad I could help

They'll just create more communities, have you seen the community spam on here lately? If they did that fighting against each other do you really think they wouldn't evade community bans on lemmy.world? Defederation is the only way unless the admin comes back and does a sweeping IP ban of everyone posting shit on here, followed by defederating exploding-heads. I don't foresee that happening though, admin has been MIA for over a month with no sign of returning and there's almost no activity here besides me and the assholes from EH.

Tell me about it, I just logged on the other day expecting to go post in ![email protected] and I'm greeted with transphobic and climate denial posts on the front page. Really didn't know what the hell was going on.

Yeah I hope he can salvage the instance whenever he gets back, if he ever gets back. He'll probably have to wipe it clean and get a new domain honestly. This is why if setting up a Lemmy instance it's important that you always get a team of people to work together as admins, that way there's always someone there to take care of the problem and you don't end up in situations like this.

Yep they trash smaller instances until larger ones defederate them and all the users on them. I'm thankful I don't have many posts or comments on my account but it absolutely sucks that I'm going to need to find another probably less reliable server.

Any suggestions for good servers to use as my new home server? I can't really host one because I have potato internet in a mobile unit (don't believe what they say, Starlink is absolutely awful) and I also don't really want to buy a static IP. Just want a small instance with good uptime like rammy did but better moderation.

further proof that I am totally cis and should stay away from all things feminine

Why would being cis imply that you should stay away from all things feminine? I mean if you enjoy feminine things then you should do what you like, don't avoid things that bring you joy in attempt to conform to some made up standard.

My account is actually on Rammy.site, though after what has happened I'm definately going to be moving on, I heard lemm.ee is pretty good.