there were also times i’d call out a racist and they’d edit their comment to make it look like i’d called out as racist someone who was saying something totally innocuous.

This is why you I pretty much always quote what I'm replying to.

@VoxAdActa called me a “cry baby” out of nowhere, “for having to go somewhere else to see hate speech”.

Perhaps you should report them. From the lemmy code of conduct:

"Personal insults, particularly those related to gender, sexual orientation, race, religion, or disability."

Oh wait, being ageist is perfectly acceptable.

"Crying like a bitch" does not refer to women at all, it refers to a female dog. The full phrase is "crying like a bitch in heat" and refers to the whining female dogs do when they're in heat.

Being able to defederate in the fediverse is significantly better than anything else out there.

Maybe, maybe not. I've not tried all the alternatives and I doubt you have too.

It’s not like Reddit.

Yes, I know. That's what I said. Many people are leaving reddit and checking out lemmy only to discover all these quirks that ensure it wil not replace reddit. Since, that is what people are looking for, they continue looking.

Idk why it’s so hard to understand.

It's not hard to understand in the slightest. I don't know why you thought I found it hard to understand. Did you just read my comment, completelty ignore it, the repond to some completely imagined bullshit? Why yes, you did!

If you want to be a piece of shit child trol

Like you with your passive agressive bullshit above?

Do you think everybody you speak to is an idiot that doesn't know when you're sneering down your nose at them like some toff on a high horse?

Yes, you hurt my feelings but I reject your apology as it clearly isn't serious. So, you can either apologise properly like an adult or admit you're just a childish troll trying to abuse people online but not having the wit to do so.

Like I said, this federated shit isn't for me and no, I will not be making an account with explodingheads at all, I'm as left wing as they come, the hint to that is in my name.

The problem with this federated censorship is that minority owners call all the shots, and refuse to put these decisions to a democratic vote. I'm leaving reddit to get away from that shit. Some Kum ba yah circlejerk where everyone defederates from everybody over the slightest offense is the last thing I'm looking for.

Let's say that was the case. Do you think you would just wake up one day and be anti-slavery all of a sudden? Or, is it far more likely you were brought to that position by debating the issue with other people and finding their arguments convincing?

I was hoping Lemmy could be the reddit replacement I was looking for, but obviously not. This type of idiotic bullshit "by design" is precisely why none of these federated sites stand a chance of replacing something like reddit.

I've only been here a week and there's already been a bunch of defederations. I wonder how long it will take for all instances to defederate from each other?