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general·General DiscussionbyDamaskox

The powerful need/feeling not to try sexualizing specific people or fictional characters

Have you ever come across a person/character that you may feel deep connection, or respect, or deep admiration towards - and then, at some point, all of the sudden, they are somehow about to come in light in a sexual perspective, and then you suddenly find a strong feeling in yourself that seeing them as a sexual creature all of the sudden feels terribly weird, wrong, crazy, scary, horrible etc?

Why do we not want to see or consider some people or characters as sexual people at all? (I'm not looking at people you'd find normally unappealing to start with).
Even if we would get somehow interested at this new point of view, at least to a point, we just cannot seem to be able to cross that strange border?

Is it some kind of "ruining your childhood" effect?

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asklemmy·AsklemmybyDamaskox

She scolds me about not buying anything in the bar we hang at

Greetings.
I'm in quite of a pickle here, and just thinking about it will get me nowhere.

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I attend a group hobby weekly.
Quite often we go for a follow-up hang-out in the local bar. I recall everyone else buying a drink and coming to sit down to have a chat.
I don't buy anything. I wait for the first of us ordering and then I follow them to the table.

One of our attendees has commented on my behavior twice so far.
First she said that I'm a bum. That I use the bar's staff and the place for my own benefit. There's a chance that she said that in front of someone else.
Last night she commented that I'm still doing this (we two sat alone for a while). She's afraid that they'll throw us out because of my behavior.

I explained that I rarely buy stuff from bars.
On the second comment I said that I'll probably continue this behavior to the end of times and they won't throw us out because everyone else spends money. And that my friend said that she or her friends do the same thing quite commonly.
I could have felt her loathing upon me.

I don't have the money to buy pricy consumables.
I have my own water bottle and sometimes snacks from a market to keep my belly full enough. Or then I don't eat anything and eat later.
I'm there because of the company.

The employees haven't commented anything about my behavior. I don't know, would they even care.

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Thoughts?
Am I unfair or is she?

I'm thinking about asking her next time that should I just leave if I'm such a bother to her.
I'm also thinking about suggesting us to talk about this as a group.

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EDIT: I don't think this is about alcohol. I believe most of them order something else cos it's late Monday and most people go to work the next day.
EDIT2: We don't have the tipping culture here.
EDIT3: Thanks for all the comments! You give my mind and feels some peace 💗

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english·English usage and grammarbyDamaskox

"woo"

"I'll woo her again! One day she's mine!"
"I wood her before but she wasn't sure yet..."
"I woo'd her before but she wasn't sure yet..."
"I woed her before but she wasn't sure yet..."

How does this word work?

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nuclear·Nuclear EnergybyDamaskox

[@Emil](https://feddit.nl/u/Emil)

@Emil

I wish to see a better tomorrow through greener choices that more and more people choose. I play my part to make a difference, no matter how small it is compared to something else.

I trust that nuclear energy is one of the choices we can make that take us to a cleaner future.

Even though I'm not subscribed to the Nuclear magazine because I get to read through every thread, I am nonetheless happy every time I see you posting one more nuclear thread.

Maybe we get more chances to make a cleaner difference?

Thank you for your work here!

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(Did I use the @ user mention correctly?)

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