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[Vent] Maybe I **am** the problem... [CW: suicide, CW: maybe abuse (?), CW: references to SA]

From Czech law (Občanský zákoník / Civil Code, Book 5, § 3021):

  • (1) Domácím násilím se rozumí násilné jednání vůči oběti v jakékoli formě, při kterém zpravidla dochází ke zneužívání moci nebo nerovného postavení a kterým 
    • a) bylo nebo mělo být neoprávněně zasaženo do její tělesné integrity, 
    • b) bylo nebo mělo být neoprávněně opakovaně nebo vážně zasaženo do její duševní integrity, svobody nebo důstojnosti, zejména v intimní oblasti, do její vážnosti, cti nebo soukromí nebo 
    • c) byla vážně ohrožena nebo narušena její schopnost uspokojovat své základní potřeby nebo základní potřeby členů společné domácnosti.)
  • (2) Obětí domácího násilí může být
    • a) osoba, která s osobou dopouštějící se domácího násilí žije nebo žila ve společné domácnosti, nebo osoba, jejíž domácnost osoba dopouštějící se domácího násilí opakovaně a dlouhodobě navštěvuje,
    • b) osoba blízká nebo ten, kdo jí dříve byl, nebo rodič společného dítěte nebo ten, kdo s osobou dopouštějící se domácího násilí vykonává rodičovskou odpovědnost. Ustanovení § 751 až 753 se použijí obdobně v případě společného bydlení jiných osob, než jsou manželé.

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  • (1) Domestic violence means any conduct towards a victim that involves an abuse of power or an unequal relationship, and which takes the form of done or attempted deeds:
    • a. Violations of physical integrity,
    • b. Repeated or serious violations of mental integrity, freedom, dignity, honor, or privacy, or
    • c. Situations in which the victim's ability to meet basic needs is seriously impaired.
  • (2) The provisions on protection against domestic violence (Sections 751 to 753) apply accordingly if such conduct occurs between spouses, former spouses, persons who live or lived together, or persons who are parents of a common child, regardless of whether they share a household.

This is clearly domestic abuse. I'll check your options at counselling providers. You can confide in any doctor or therapist, too. Your sexuologist is top of his class and must have dealt with this at some point.

Here are some of your options from a legal perspective. You may not choose to pursue a legal claim but please follow the steps to be ready to have a good case, even just for a doctor/counsellor: English / Czech

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I'm willing to sacrifice about 10 % of the range by re-rolling if the number generated has too low/high value or low entropy (for example if its GZ compression is shorter than original). The range should taper off too, for instance if 2¹²³+1 is the technically lowest number possible, it should still have a 99% chance for a re-roll, so there's no "hard" lowest possible number. I don't want to be in the "front line".

Of course, here the RNG was clearly compromised.

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Well, since most people I know IRL don't know that "she used to be a man" is considered inaccurate or hurtful by many, I try to spread awareness... I was pretty sure you were aware but I can't detect jokes very well so I figured it's best to just make you feel affirmed and inform others.

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Do Greeks have astronomically high standards? The only thing indicating you're not a cis woman is the trans flag pin. I haven't heard your voice or seen other pics but I don't really need to: if this is what you look like to strangers, there shouldn't be any ambiguity whether you are a woman.

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Hmm... This is hard to research so I'll try my best so summarize for folks finding this, and I invite Phnelope to correct me if I'm wrong. I will be sounding like an LLM but please bear with me...

The first results I get for "σλαττινα" are Romanian, Czech, and other Slavic place names since "slatina" means "salt bog". That's not correct...

What you're referring to is Greek Gen-Z slang, usually written as "σλατίνα" and documented, for example, in this news article (Greek).

What you first notice in the article before Firefox's translation loads is the English word "trap". Careful, that is also a slur for trans women but here it fortunately refers to trap music mostly by Thug Slime. He inspired girls to adopt a "Slime Love All the Time" (SLAT or SLATT, plus the feminine -ina ending) style, characterized by extreme femininity (makeup, colorful nails, plastic surgery) and revealing outfits. Think the Kardashians or Cardi B. It also contains "Latina" (Latin woman), which is associated with a darker skin tone and round curves.

Thug Slime's trap music (also with hip-hop elements) shares some superficial similarities (synth drums) with OP's favorite musician Pan Pan's electropop, synthpop and indie dance songs but it's otherwise a very different genre.

To OP:

There are many valid ways to be a woman. Don't worry, there are boys who certainly don't want a σλατίνα. Personally, as a mid-20s cishet Czech man, I'm rather repulsed by their hypersexual presentation and I'm sure some Greeks, even your age, are too... Even if they're a minority, you are gorgeous and you only need to find one person who likes your style (and vice versa) to get a partner (if you choose to).

"Passing" generally refers to when a trans person's gender can be generally correctly guessed by onlookers. When you go out like this, you'd have a hard time finding someone who wouldn't think you're a female, which means you are passing. Some elements of your body might not be as feminine as people expect but you're successful at hiding them in this photo, which is a valid strategy and encouraged if it makes you feel comfortable. Of course, it takes effort such as shaving or makeup but cis women do it too, plus as the hormones start to do their thing, you'll find it easier to present as a woman successfully. Only people who accept you as a woman, such as your friends or potentially partner(s) deserve to see/hear more of you than what you show in public.