My coworkers write me "hi, do you have 5 min?" without telling me what it is because they know I would drop what I'm doing and directly focus on the new task. (It's how I am, and they know how to deal with it).
With a little hi... they give me the option to say "sure, lets talk in 10 min" and finish what I'm doing.
But even "hi do you have 5 minutes" is more than I get from one team. I get "hi" and then they wait for my reply before anything else. If I don't reply right away, nothing, silence.
I get that, but counterpoint is that you don't have to react and reply to each message IMMEDIATELY. The time stamps show that the messages all were within 3 minutes of the start. If this even happened at all.
Maybe it's because I'm old, but text messages don't require an immediate reply. Take a breath and be patient.
Even if I wait, I still have to listen to multiple notifications instead of just 1. Anyone who does this gets left on read for at least an hour from me (often times I just forget entirely).
It's not an anger thing. I'm not mad when people do it. But it's a time wasting thing and I'm not gonna waste my already under-available time. This gets pushed a lot within my work. Senior devs get a lot of messages. I regularly am spending a substantial amount of my day dealing with messages asking for help, reviews, and more, so anything they can do to be more actionable makes things go better for everyone.
Also, there's some people that take "hi" messages to extremes, as they won't even send their actual message until you reply to the "hi".
Yeah no, it's not something I do in a professional setting since in that instance I contact you if I need something from you which I can rightfully request.
There were replies between the messages so the notifications wouldn't show messages that were already considered read. Just seemed scripted. Unless the wife was the one who sent the first 2 replies.
Not worth getting hung up on authenticity though since there will never be a way to prove if it's wrong or real. I just try to appreciate the humor and assume it was faked either way.
Message comes in, lights up the screen, boss picks it up and replies, turns off the screen, puts the phone back on the table, next message follows, lights up the screen and there you go, that's the one you want the wife to see.
Not worth getting hung up on authenticity though
Oh I agree I was just thinking how this could work if it was real
It's pretty normal for people in a workplace to exchange numbers and text and no, that doesn't violate any laws if people choose voluntarily to communicate via text. My wife sees my texts on my personal phone sometimes. No need to go onto why as it doesn't matter. The big difference is that my wife is not so insecure to jump to conclusions if I get a weird text. In fact, my wife would probably joke about it. So that's the real issue... The guy has a cripplingly insecure wife. Also, I'm sorry if you've never had a good relationship with your boss. It's almost always the boss' fault, but it should be normal to be able to talk to your boss easily like a good acquaintance.
I don't know where you're getting that his wife is insecure. All he did was text in all caps. His wife could have just asked what was going on. Doesn't mean she was breaking down crying or on a rampage.
What on earth are you talking about? I never said there was anything wrong with texting your boss, and I didn't say anything about this being illegal, I'm saying it's unprofessional for your boss to give his wife open access to the work related texts his employees send to him unless she's also involved in the business. They could contain personal information that he shouldn't be sharing with anyone, not even his wife. It has nothing to do with her being insecure or not.
The better question is why are you texting your boss to say this? Even if your work is in close relation to what your boss does and/or your his assistant or something, texting about maternity leave isn't exactly the most appropriate.
I'm close with my boss and I text her stuff I'm comfortable telling her but not HR.
She also texted me when she found a job that I was super qualified for at another company that pays 50% more than I make now. If she'd done that over company email she could have gotten in trouble.
Sometimes taking things off the record is good if you have a good relationship with your boss.
I think it's different to have privacy and need to have password protection to get privacy. Preferably you'd respect each other's privacy enough not to need password protection.
Still should have it, it's just sensible data safety. Someone might steal it and shit
It's a fairly common feature. Message comes in, lights up the screen, you can see which app the notification is from, who sent the message and what they wrote. Usually there's privacy options to hide the message content or even the sender.
Might've just seen them light up the screen. I'm constantly seeing the messages my wife gets because they light up her screen and the automatic reaction (at least from me) before realizing is to glance at the screen.
Though from options you can hide the sender and content and even disable the screen from lighting up.
Who seriously addresses their boss as boss? I'm also not sure why it would need a couple of days leave to discuss this too. Unless the baby isn't the boyfriends...
I at least appreciate the ellipses. When I text I try to keep within the 160 characters or 313 characters limit. So I use ... to indicate I haven't finished my thought or prepend a ... to show that it is a continuation of my previous message.
Are you talking about SMS? Why do you worry about the character limit? Aren't you going to use the same amount of messages regardless of if you break it up or not?
I used to have to pay 35c per message. I can fit 160 characters in a single message, or 150ish if you combined messages. Years later my messages became free and so I used fewer shorthands but that habit stuck.
100% the very last paragraph. Why do I have to wait for 78 messages to trickle through for one thought?
To add to that, starting with "hi" and waiting for a reply is a great way to not get a reply from me.
Well guess what
I’m pregnant…
So...
Hi
It depends.
My coworkers write me "hi, do you have 5 min?" without telling me what it is because they know I would drop what I'm doing and directly focus on the new task. (It's how I am, and they know how to deal with it). With a little hi... they give me the option to say "sure, lets talk in 10 min" and finish what I'm doing.
But even "hi do you have 5 minutes" is more than I get from one team. I get "hi" and then they wait for my reply before anything else. If I don't reply right away, nothing, silence.
I get that, but counterpoint is that you don't have to react and reply to each message IMMEDIATELY. The time stamps show that the messages all were within 3 minutes of the start. If this even happened at all.
Maybe it's because I'm old, but text messages don't require an immediate reply. Take a breath and be patient.
Even if I wait, I still have to listen to multiple notifications instead of just 1. Anyone who does this gets left on read for at least an hour from me (often times I just forget entirely).
Patience is a skill that nobody sends to bother teaching their kids anymore. They just hand them a
pacifiersmart phone to shut them up.You sound like someone who rarely interacts with young people
https://nohello.net/ https://dontasktoask.com/
I think boss shoud reply with 100 Continue next time
https://nohello.net
and its cousin: https://dontasktoask.com/
And my personal favorite: dontusedomainnamesasmessages.com
why?
because.thatswhy
Shit message tbh
Salutations in written exchanges are a way for me to soothe my social anxiety by informally requesting permission to talk with someone ^^'
I agree, me too. People are so easily angered these days. Saying "hi" to start a chat is not a sin.
If this angers you, you get angry too easily.
It's not an anger thing. I'm not mad when people do it. But it's a time wasting thing and I'm not gonna waste my already under-available time. This gets pushed a lot within my work. Senior devs get a lot of messages. I regularly am spending a substantial amount of my day dealing with messages asking for help, reviews, and more, so anything they can do to be more actionable makes things go better for everyone.
Also, there's some people that take "hi" messages to extremes, as they won't even send their actual message until you reply to the "hi".
Yeah no, it's not something I do in a professional setting since in that instance I contact you if I need something from you which I can rightfully request.
oh no!
anyway
I usually wait 5 to 15 minutes before responding to the "hi". Most of the time people send their question on minute 3 and then I respond instantly
Why is his wife reading his texts from his employees? Unless it's a family owned business that doesn't seem too professional.
Because it's obviously fake
Obviously, I'm just questioning the logic of the scenario.
Boss's phone (could be a personal phone) is on living room table, screen lights up from the message, wife sees it, done.
There were replies between the messages so the notifications wouldn't show messages that were already considered read. Just seemed scripted. Unless the wife was the one who sent the first 2 replies.
Not worth getting hung up on authenticity though since there will never be a way to prove if it's wrong or real. I just try to appreciate the humor and assume it was faked either way.
Message comes in, lights up the screen, boss picks it up and replies, turns off the screen, puts the phone back on the table, next message follows, lights up the screen and there you go, that's the one you want the wife to see.
Oh I agree I was just thinking how this could work if it was real
It says she read the first couple of messages not just the first message.
It's pretty normal for people in a workplace to exchange numbers and text and no, that doesn't violate any laws if people choose voluntarily to communicate via text. My wife sees my texts on my personal phone sometimes. No need to go onto why as it doesn't matter. The big difference is that my wife is not so insecure to jump to conclusions if I get a weird text. In fact, my wife would probably joke about it. So that's the real issue... The guy has a cripplingly insecure wife. Also, I'm sorry if you've never had a good relationship with your boss. It's almost always the boss' fault, but it should be normal to be able to talk to your boss easily like a good acquaintance.
I don't know where you're getting that his wife is insecure. All he did was text in all caps. His wife could have just asked what was going on. Doesn't mean she was breaking down crying or on a rampage.
What on earth are you talking about? I never said there was anything wrong with texting your boss, and I didn't say anything about this being illegal, I'm saying it's unprofessional for your boss to give his wife open access to the work related texts his employees send to him unless she's also involved in the business. They could contain personal information that he shouldn't be sharing with anyone, not even his wife. It has nothing to do with her being insecure or not.
sharing confidentential employee info with 3rd parties is also a privacy violation.
Why can't his wife read past the first two messages? Does she have some kind of affliction?
She’s probably one of those rare people who loves to get upset and hates to get corrected
Shhh, we're having fun pretending it's not 😉
rare? shit I should go buy a lottery ticket
The wife might have only seen the first two messages come in.
The wife might need to assess a situation before reacting
I think pretty much anyone would go "yo wtf" if they saw their husband receive those messages, at least as an initial reaction
Boy I'm sure glad there was a bright yellow circle on this meme highlighting the key aspect of the conversation that I missed have otherwise missed.
Is there a useless red circle community here?
The better question is why are you texting your boss to say this? Even if your work is in close relation to what your boss does and/or your his assistant or something, texting about maternity leave isn't exactly the most appropriate.
I'm close with my boss and I text her stuff I'm comfortable telling her but not HR.
She also texted me when she found a job that I was super qualified for at another company that pays 50% more than I make now. If she'd done that over company email she could have gotten in trouble.
Sometimes taking things off the record is good if you have a good relationship with your boss.
NOT WHEN YOU JEOPARDIZE HIS MARRIAGE
So this community is basically any image with text on it?
Password protect ya phones y'all and don't share em.
If you need to password protect your phone, get out of the relationship.
Unless you have kids. My kid bought a $200 Mickey Mouse Amazon Fire after she swiped my phone last year. Since then passwords on all devices.
Exactly. Get out of that relationship.
And that's also why you don't save credit card info on sites or PayPal/bank passwords.
It's not my family i am worried about getting into my phone
I would but the government won't let me break up with it.
So there is no privacy in your relationships? If you can’t trust, get out of the relationship.
I think it's different to have privacy and need to have password protection to get privacy. Preferably you'd respect each other's privacy enough not to need password protection.
Still should have it, it's just sensible data safety. Someone might steal it and shit
There's plenty of privacy. It's called respect. We don't go into each other's stuff because we don't need to. And if we need to, then it's ok.
I don't lock my phone to keep my SO off it.
I lock my phone to keep everyone off it.
I do too. My wife has my password because I need her to do stuff for me sometimes
Wife doesn’t trust you? Just lock your phone. Problem solved.
do you people not have notifications on the lockscreen? fuck having to open the phone to see what's going on.
No? I might have tweaked mine but have no memory of it.
It's a fairly common feature. Message comes in, lights up the screen, you can see which app the notification is from, who sent the message and what they wrote. Usually there's privacy options to hide the message content or even the sender.
Mine doesn't need to be opened, but it does need to be unlocked.
Might've just seen them light up the screen. I'm constantly seeing the messages my wife gets because they light up her screen and the automatic reaction (at least from me) before realizing is to glance at the screen.
Though from options you can hide the sender and content and even disable the screen from lighting up.
Fake
Who seriously addresses their boss as boss? I'm also not sure why it would need a couple of days leave to discuss this too. Unless the baby isn't the boyfriends...
Anyway, yeah fake.
One of the dudes that reports to me addresses me as boss. He's a weirdo though.
Still funny though.
I at least appreciate the ellipses. When I text I try to keep within the 160 characters or 313 characters limit. So I use ... to indicate I haven't finished my thought or prepend a ... to show that it is a continuation of my previous message.
I just use it … to replace all punctuation … I’m a very smart person … not crazy or anything … You can trust my mind …
I never thought this would work? But it seems to add some kind of? Flare? Interesting?
You’ve cracked the code!!!!!
Are you talking about SMS? Why do you worry about the character limit? Aren't you going to use the same amount of messages regardless of if you break it up or not?
I used to have to pay 35c per message. I can fit 160 characters in a single message, or 150ish if you combined messages. Years later my messages became free and so I used fewer shorthands but that habit stuck.
Why did a fully grown adult type all caps like that
I'm my experience it's mostly 60+ yo adults that type in all caps.
Cruise control for cool
Because they're upset and want to convey that?