I agree 100%. Whenever I hear a "I lost control" narrative, I ask myself if he's ever "lost control" when it could cost him something immediately. Like getting immediately fired, or immediately arrested, etc.

Peculiarly this doesn't seem to happen anywhere near as often as people "losing control" and smashing their spouses to mincemeat.

I would push back on "never unintentionally hits his parents", but otherwise I agree.

Totally agree

I’ve been in exactly 1 physically abusive relationship. The first time could have been legitimately an accident. He swung his elbow behind him when he was laying down and angry, he hit my side. Second time it was a slap to my body and I noped the fuck out because fuck that shit!

Yep, for "some reason" a lot of men manage to even hold on to their emotions from work and other stressors all the way until they get home to take it out on their family