Loving and supportive boyfriend
My bf has actually done each of these at least once 😆
Omfg I love him so much 😭🩷
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Omfg I love him so much 😭🩷
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Two posts about becoming a house wife in a row. The children yearn for the kitchen
Tbf, it's 4chan. Misogyny is expected.
"Women should have a right to choose how to live their lives. Unless they choose to be housewives, that's misogyny."
That's what I've always found hilarious about the white knighting for femenism. It's literally about choice, and a woman's right to choose. If they CHOOSE to be a housewife, more power to them and they shouldn't be belittled for it.
feminism wasn't initiated to give more rights to women, it was initiated to increase the mass of laborers willing to let themselves be exploited by companies. they just had to sell it to the people as "actually, this is good for women somehow"
The goal of feminists was to gain more rights. The goal of the parties who supported them was to increase number of laborers.
Both are true at the same time.
Feminism is absolutely about pursuing equal rights. Your issue is with the exploitative nature of capitalism.
Yeah. God forbid a woman WANTS to work.
My partner is permanently disabled. We're a single income home. They WISH they could work, as we struggle to get by sometimes.
i'm well aware that some people want to work but consider this: women today can effectively not choose to stay at home in like 99% of cases. where do you find a partner that is willing to pay for this? basically anyone would expect that the woman contributes financially, because after all other women can do it too, right? so it's effectively not a choice that women can make, they're expected to work by society. and so it's more of an obligation instead of a choice.
I think you're interleaving two separate changes. One is the mid-20th century feminist fight for women to be allowed to work (in the West, anyway), and the other is the fact that wages haven't kept up with cost of living increases since about the Reagan era. Capitalists forcing everyone to work full-time jobs just to scrape by was certainly enabled by the success of feminist labor movements, but you're drawing a false equivalence between the feminist goal of "if they'd like to, women should be allowed to perform any job" and the capitalist goal of "we can make it impossible for families to get by without all adults being worked to the bone, that will increase our labor pool". The early feminists wanted to be able to choose to provide for themselves, maybe even provide for a stay-at-home husband. What you're saying sounds a lot like "the only good feminists are housewives".
Hey, I already am a housewife! While my bf is at work, I clean this place up, take care of the dirty laundry and stuff. I keep this place nice! 😆 (even tho we're not yet married, does the term housewife still apply?)
I wish I was still a child tho...being an adult sucks 😭😭😭
we can call you a housegirlfriend if you'd prefer :3
I think I'd like that, actually :3
in that case congratulations, you just earned yourself a tag!
Omg, I've been tagged 😭
I feel blessed 🩷
No idea how tags work on Lemmy, but I'm guessing only you see the tags you make? They're not community-wide like Reddit flairs? It's a shame. This is a really cute one too
Thank youuu 💜
yeah they're just a little note you can add to a user to help remember who's who, once you've got a few of them it can be quite fun to see familiar faces showing up in the most random places all over lemmy :3
they're purely a client-side feature and the official lemmy ui doesn't support them - personally i use Summit for Lemmy when browsing on mobile but i'm pretty sure most of the other popular mobile apps support tags as well
Aha, I see. Thank you then!
Also, fellow Summit user :3
Helloooo ❤️
Can confirm, adulting sucks
Oh, yeah defo applies. Marriage is more for legal recognition but the relationship dynamics apply regardless of legal tender.
Omfg I wish. 23, Barely 3 months into estrogen... Only maybe a month into deutasteride... And well I don't exactly pass. At least YET... I think I can one day I can but am really really uncertain about now or how. I don't see "passing" as a requirement but when it FEELS possible... Well... Yknow... Hard to get my mind off of. I get those looks in my redneck-ass hometown if you get my meaning, but I still feel like I'm just passing as "gay"... I reaaaally don't know where I'm at and am... Ugh. Def somewhere between " gay" and just "emo" I think? Hard to tell alone.
Okay, tbh idk. If anyone active in this community is willing to DM and help or someone know what/where is a good place I should post, it's much appreciated - been lurking for years now - y'all are the most welcoming community ever, and have me hopeful enough I've switched my lemmy instance... Feeling like this might be opportune time?
Note: this
post(comment... I'm so sorry...) probably looks a lot more spiral-ey than intended upon rereading it... Sending it as is because I still honestly have no idea how to word this better... Thanks to anyone who tolerates this, you're the best, really. Might delete soon for sake of others if I'm a total idiot... May have a bit of truth serum flowing through me rn if you catch my drift...Edit: ......yes... "Truth serum" is alcohol. And uh... Definitely too much last night. Apologies for the vent.
spiraling comments are the best 😍
also yeah "truth serum" sounds good and i wanted to comment "omg that's exactly what i needed" but then i found out that it's alcohol and bleh i cannot drink that.
hey i properly started HRT pretty close to my 23rd birthday! it just takes time. i didn't look visibly different at all (aside from my increasing long hair) until maybe 5 or 6 months in, and the changes i've noticed since are still coming along very slowly. of course you don't pass after 3 months; you've barely even started! give it a year and you'll be surprised by how different stuff looks.
EDIT: if you do wanna chat, feel free to msg me on lemmy or matrix (see my bio) :3
I started on my 23rd! Thank you for the kind words. Yeah, the "give it a year" thing is what I keep telling myself. Paranoia and impatience have me in an occasional spiral like the above... Sorry about that. Trying to workaround it best I can in the meantime by learning better fashion, but I gotta say I don't think everything I'm trying is working and I definitely don't have funds to throw at a wall figuring it out right now. I'm lost.
I'd love to chat! <3
btw if you didn't know that: blahaj zone has its own matrix chat group, you can find it in the sidebar of the https://lem.lemmy.blahaj.zone/ main page (i think)
spiraling is fine, we all do it <3
and i totally get you on the fashion stuff! figuring out what looks good takes a lot of time and effort and practice, especially when you haven't ever really thought about it before. to be honest with you i've really fallen back to my old "wardrobe" (cargo shorts + whatever graphic tee is on top of the pile) the last few weeks. i don't necessarily mind, but i want to keep trying more stuff. should really swing by the thrift store and see if i can find something to get inspired again...
Girl, slow down. You're only 3 months in. You probably get this a lot, but that's practically the beginning of your journey! Puberty takes time, even the second time around.
I don't know what you look like, but I think you have a great chance at passing. Starting at 23 is quite early.
You're not a total idiot. Please be nicer to yourself <3
Out of curiosity, I have a couple of questions that you don't need to answer, but I'll try anyway:
Sorry for all the questions...
Wishing you the best, girlie. I believe in you 💜
AHHHH, I'm so sorry. Thank you though. As I'm aware, puberty lasts around 10 years and yeah... I'm definitely impatient about it sometimes. In all honesty I do think I have a decent chance at passing - its just that friends don't really know like... Anything about this stuff... I'm one of the only trans people they know at all, if they know any, and even if they do I'm the one they're closer to so in the one who gets fielded questions I don't always have answers to despite really wanting them if that makes sense. I really appreciate your kindness.
Also, don't worry about asking questions, I'm a pretty open book and you're offering support. Thank you. <3
Yeah, I heard...
I'll be 30 by then 😭
Jeez...
No, that makes perfects sense actually. I went from:
"What's an ester?" OwO
to
"Ah yes, undecylate. You could do once a month, but the difference between peak and trough might be too much...I'd do every two weeks."
and
"18G needle to inject?? Girl, you're gonna have holes in your thighs for days" 😭
It might sounds dumb, but I can almost promise you that you'll learn way more about this stuff, without even really trying...
Also...duta is a DHT blocker. DHT is made from T, makes dark (terminal) hair grow and causes male pattern baldness. If you have no T (need a blood test for that...), you should have no DHT. Is there a specific reason for the dutasteride?
I'm sorry to hear that. Venting is really important, even more so in the beginning...having people to talk to is super important for your mental health and overall wellbeing.
::: spoiler Matrix ID @anxious_miisha:chat.blahaj.zone ::: I'm here if you need anything. Best of luck, girlie 🩷. I'm rooting for you
by 1.5ml subcutaneous injections, i assume you're referring to either estradiol valerate or enanthate at a concentration of either 40 or 50mg/mL? if so, you're doing monotherapy - that is a high enough dose that it'll almost certainly be enough to suppress your body's testosterone production, and even if the exact dosage may need to be tuned a bit (depending on what your blood work results say) that high of a dose is clearly intended to work without requiring an antiandrogen.
dutasteride may not be a proper antiandrogen, but blocking DHT (dihydrotestosterone) can be useful for combatting the effects of male pattern baldness. now, since estrogen monotherapy will lower your ordinary testosterone levels by approximately an order of magnitude, your DHT levels should drop by about the same amount (since DHT is primarily produced via conversion from ordinary testosterone). this should be more than enough to avoid going bald since ideally your DHT levels will end up at about the same level as a cis woman (and may even be enough to revert some hair loss - i have two little patches of baby hairs on either side of my widow's peak which started showing up around february!), but if you've already lost a decent amount of hair then taking a DHT blocker could be helpful on top of that to increase the likelihood of some hair growing back.
This but make it a girl. What's more girly than another girl?
Checkmate.
I am so stupid...
I completely misread the first sentence of your comment and thought you wrote something like me being girly. I thought it was a compliment...
And then I read the newest comment, and was confused like "Huh? Lesbians?"
I'm so sorryyy 😭
I make everything about myself, willingly or (this time) accidentally...I'm genuinely so dumb, sorry 😭
Omggg, thank you so much 😭
::: spoiler TMI: oversharing of the past There was a period, earlier in my transition, where I genuinely thought I didn't deserve to call myself a girl.
My (at the time) best friend was not supportive and his gf turned out to be a massive TERF. They really grilled me...and it ruined my self confidence in the beginning, but it's much better now.
It was actually the first unsupportive encounter I had, when coming out.
It was my mistake, actually. I should have expected that. Back when I was 14 and my egg cracked, I tried to come out to the most trusted person at the time...him. He got angry with me. He said some bad stuff and it scared me way back into the closet. It's a shame really. My mom would have supported me and I could have gotten blockers...
But that doesn't matter anymore, it's in the past.
He also kept making racist and bigoted jokes through elementary school and beyond under the guise of "I just like dark humor, don't police my humor". God, I should have known...it was stupid of me to trust a person like that.
Hope he's doing well, because I sure am 😄
I'm literally just a girl, with an amazing bf, surrounded by nothing but supportive people. Couldn't care less about what two stupid bigots think. :::
I'm glad you're doing better. I am very early but I love seeing little parts of your life crop up in my feed. It gives me the fuzzies to see you living out my goals.
Thank you. I know I overshare a ton, but it was kind of my goal, to show people earlier in their journeys than me, that is is indeed possible.
Thanks girl, but...I'm not living out your goals...I'm just trying to live life and be happy (sometimes failing miserably) 😆
You should live out your goals. You deserve to reach them...
And one day, you will. I believe in you 🩷
Please never give up hope
This sounds like you've come to understand a lot, indicating you're way better off emotionally than you used to. Congratulations!
agreed, but then it'd be trivial to apply greentext logic to show that the post is fake and gay
fake: anon has a gf
gay: lesbians
This just makes me kinda sad lol
Partner has done exactly zero of these 😭
Many of these I would only do if I was really sure it was wanted... So make sure your partner knows. Maybe you don't have to be sad?
Haha yeah, maybe i can be more blunt about it idk
Everything except prog, havent done that yet 😂
Heyyyyyy I wasn’t gunna ask but you used the word, too, and.. I like knowing things so I don’t make an ass of myself.
What does prog mean? Please and thank you in advance 😊
No worries! I always take questions lol
Prog is short for progesterone, a drug that is useful in hormone therapy ❤️
Ok, thank you! so as an afab I'm familiar with progesterone, is there a reason it gets boofed? (Anal insertion, as it sounds like from the post, or is this a shot to the glutes and I’m misreading it?)
As i understand it (sorry couldnt quickly find a good source soo take with salt grains) prog generally works better with the boof method(didnt think id type that today 😂) and there is oral doses but theyre far more ineffective. As i recall there isnt a shot you can take of prog.
(Someone please correct me if im wrong lol)
I could see that being the case I suppose. The anus is full of blood vessels, and boofing gets it straight to the blood stream instead of breaking down into metabolites in the digestive system. Just very different than any hormone therapy I’ve heard of, for like menopause and stuff. Tho that could just be that old rich white women won’t stick fingers up the bum..
Now I wonder if ftm have something similar that gets vaginally inserted (only non-oral hole with more blood vessels than the anus is the vagina!)
Thanks for the info, I feel more informed :)
Apparently, there is, but it has some downsides...
Apparently, in my country, there is Agolutin. But, I mean, boofing is working just fine...I do NOT need more injections 😆
::: spoiler Agolutin
Also seems to be 60mg/2ml in an ampule. That's just a large injection volume...
Yeah no. I'll take boofing prog :::
I am woefully ignorant and would like to know what a prog is and why it is regularly inserted in to the butt. Thank you for your time.
Progesterone is an element of HRT that is commonly taken as a suppository
It's progesterone, another hormone besides estradiol. There are nearly zero studies on prog and transfems, but anecdotally it helps with mood, breast growth and libido for some people.
Taking it orally causes your liver to convert most of the progesterone into allopregnanolone, which makes you drunk lol.
It's a pleasant feeling but doesn't give you very high blood levels of progesterone. Boofing bypasses the liver completely.
In my experience, 400mg prog orally gave me almost undetectable levels (even tho the drunk feeling was nice 😭), but now, boofing the same amount, I have third trimester blood levels of prog. And I feel great, tbh 😆
YMMV
Oh gotcha, thanks for the info
hahah i just saw this and thought "omg i'll have to send this to miisha" xD
Aww, that's so sweet of you, thanks ♥️
Am I really the first person that comes to mind with words like "loving" and "boyfriend"? 😭
Actually no, I get that. I guess I do overshare and talk about my bf a lot. Especially about the loving 😆
no but we talked about this specific thing like yesterday :)
Omg, my memory IS trash. My bf was right 😭
You're absolutely right, lol. I was browsing my gallery of memes, wondering which one to post, I actually picked this one because I remembered the experience with my bf when I was drunk...
My brain...it works (sometimes), I swear 😭