CPTSD reactivity and fear driving me to push friends and loves away. I'm overwhelmingly preoccupied with being a terrible person because i just can't be okay no matter how or what I do. Even tho everyone is telling me its normal and to be nice to myself I can't. I'm losing friends over my reaction to being sexually abused and homeless and 5150ed and so much other hellishness since the start of 2025
Washing machine broke, again. So that's absolutely always ticking in the back of my head.
In addition i got a new person to teach at work, absolutely nothing against her and it's only for a week. But it does disrupt my standard routines during a time when something is already taking up my limited bandwidth and im not that social person so face to face social interaction is always draining.
In addition, because everything creates a chain reaction, due to lower social energy. I'm more withdrawn/distant/closed off which triggers my wifes anxiety and overthinking and she becomes very clingy
And all of that makes my movement disorder to flare up almost a month before treatment. That's a self feeding loop already in of itself.
On a positive note. While I'm lifting, the movement disorder subsides completely and that motivates to train more and harder and thus numbers move up faster.
Luckily the replacement part came to storage box today and i can replace it tomorrow. Fingers crossed that it works. Technically it should work as the error code corresponded with this piece, but I'm always preparing for the worst.
Though i learned my lesson from it and im buying a backup washing machine. It's most definitely easier to crarry replacement washing machine up from the basement than to deal with the stress of not having any and washing clothes by hand.
Oh, and my fucking favorite gym water bottle broke. It was a 3,8L(1gallon) aluminum canister.
All of that is layered over by the heatwave which is already draining enough without anything additional added to it.
I’m at inpatient trauma treatment for medical trauma and I had the most unprofessional blood draw of my life this morning. Everyone here is being so gracious and caring about it and I filed a formal complaint so I am feeling better but also very dysregulated and keep going back to freeze state.
Recently, I've been having suicidal thoughts characterized by self hatred and so on and so forth, but this morning, I woke up, and there was quiet inside of me. Tranquility. I put on my all linen attire and left for work. Work itself also started great. After working for an hour, I decided to take a stroll to the nearest supermarket to grab some breakfast, and there, in front of the store, sits (?) one of my former parolees, completely out of it. They had been having recurring alcohol related hardships but they seemed to be doing better after their last parole. Which of course made me hope that things are going to keep improving for them. To see them like this... It just broke my heart. Phew... If you guys know some mindfulness or CBT techniques with which to externalize feelings, please advise. 😅😢
A couple minutes of slow, deep breathing helps to lower stress levels. Something like box breathing (inhale 4s, hold 4s, exhale 4s, hold 4s) with eyes closed (or open, do as you like).
When it comes to negative intrusive thoughts, I learned to do this: Realize that the thought isn't helpful and is only made up by the depressed mind, thus it isn't worth to follow. Something like: "Wait, this doesn't help me, it only makes things worse." And try to let go of the negative thought.
It took years of meditation and CBT to arrive at this point and it doesn't always work, but it got a lot better.
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CPTSD reactivity and fear driving me to push friends and loves away. I'm overwhelmingly preoccupied with being a terrible person because i just can't be okay no matter how or what I do. Even tho everyone is telling me its normal and to be nice to myself I can't. I'm losing friends over my reaction to being sexually abused and homeless and 5150ed and so much other hellishness since the start of 2025
Washing machine broke, again. So that's absolutely always ticking in the back of my head.
In addition i got a new person to teach at work, absolutely nothing against her and it's only for a week. But it does disrupt my standard routines during a time when something is already taking up my limited bandwidth and im not that social person so face to face social interaction is always draining.
In addition, because everything creates a chain reaction, due to lower social energy. I'm more withdrawn/distant/closed off which triggers my wifes anxiety and overthinking and she becomes very clingy
And all of that makes my movement disorder to flare up almost a month before treatment. That's a self feeding loop already in of itself.
On a positive note. While I'm lifting, the movement disorder subsides completely and that motivates to train more and harder and thus numbers move up faster.
Luckily the replacement part came to storage box today and i can replace it tomorrow. Fingers crossed that it works. Technically it should work as the error code corresponded with this piece, but I'm always preparing for the worst.
Though i learned my lesson from it and im buying a backup washing machine. It's most definitely easier to crarry replacement washing machine up from the basement than to deal with the stress of not having any and washing clothes by hand.
Oh, and my fucking favorite gym water bottle broke. It was a 3,8L(1gallon) aluminum canister.
All of that is layered over by the heatwave which is already draining enough without anything additional added to it.
I’m at inpatient trauma treatment for medical trauma and I had the most unprofessional blood draw of my life this morning. Everyone here is being so gracious and caring about it and I filed a formal complaint so I am feeling better but also very dysregulated and keep going back to freeze state.
Recently, I've been having suicidal thoughts characterized by self hatred and so on and so forth, but this morning, I woke up, and there was quiet inside of me. Tranquility. I put on my all linen attire and left for work. Work itself also started great. After working for an hour, I decided to take a stroll to the nearest supermarket to grab some breakfast, and there, in front of the store, sits (?) one of my former parolees, completely out of it. They had been having recurring alcohol related hardships but they seemed to be doing better after their last parole. Which of course made me hope that things are going to keep improving for them. To see them like this... It just broke my heart. Phew... If you guys know some mindfulness or CBT techniques with which to externalize feelings, please advise. 😅😢
*I'll be fine, I'm just sad
A couple minutes of slow, deep breathing helps to lower stress levels. Something like box breathing (inhale 4s, hold 4s, exhale 4s, hold 4s) with eyes closed (or open, do as you like).
When it comes to negative intrusive thoughts, I learned to do this: Realize that the thought isn't helpful and is only made up by the depressed mind, thus it isn't worth to follow. Something like: "Wait, this doesn't help me, it only makes things worse." And try to let go of the negative thought.
It took years of meditation and CBT to arrive at this point and it doesn't always work, but it got a lot better.
Coming to terms with the fact that I will never get what I most want.
What do you most want?
"Life has a way of moving you past things like hopes and dreams"