For blood relations, I was the family member that stood up for myself and didn't blindly follow expectations, so I was the "bad" one. In order to save face, there was a lot of triangulation between parties to make me seem like an abuser/user and themselves the victim. "Oh, i_dont_want_to is keeping my grandchild away because of a petty argument. They like to weaponize access!" (The real issue was a safety issue they did not want to correct. My dad relapsed and became dangerous. They leave that part out.)
My chosen family consists of people that love me for who I am. Not who they expect me to be. People that respect my boundaries. People that build me up, not tear me down. People that support me, even if I am making decisions they would not make. (As long as I am not hurting anyone!)
It's hard to say without repeating the comments already here tbh!
It means that we show up every day for each other because we want to, because we love each other and want to make each other's lives better and easier. My chosen family found each other because no one else wanted us! Our little nickname for our friend group is quite literally "The Leftovers" and we are weird and goofy and totally accepting of each other. We celebrate our differences because that gives us strength. One person may be great at admin tasks while the other is great at handy tasks around the house.
My chosen family means my kid has uncles and aunts that celebrate his wins and help keep him on the right path with us. Our chosen family shows him that diversity is good, that we are all different people with different needs, but we can all work together to make sure we're all taken care of in our lives.
Especially being queer. Chosen family is everything to me.
Being with people who you want to be with and vice versa. You raise each other up and are supportive, and are there for you as you are for them. "Blood is thicker than, water" is stupid. What if the blood is trying to hurt you? Plenty of people have this in their life and it's not worth it. Life is too short.
i am only starting to realise that i might have auch a thing. we lived together for 6 years now. but i am starting to feel i belong there, and they won't ask me to leave. that's nice.
it is a circle of people, that not only tolerates you, but wants you around.
Also, a certain amount of working together / helping each other out / supporting each other emotionally. Because you want them to thrive, and vice-versa.
For blood relations, I was the family member that stood up for myself and didn't blindly follow expectations, so I was the "bad" one. In order to save face, there was a lot of triangulation between parties to make me seem like an abuser/user and themselves the victim. "Oh, i_dont_want_to is keeping my grandchild away because of a petty argument. They like to weaponize access!" (The real issue was a safety issue they did not want to correct. My dad relapsed and became dangerous. They leave that part out.)
My chosen family consists of people that love me for who I am. Not who they expect me to be. People that respect my boundaries. People that build me up, not tear me down. People that support me, even if I am making decisions they would not make. (As long as I am not hurting anyone!)
I get to collect weirdo introverts like pokemon and take them on adventures.
It's hard to say without repeating the comments already here tbh!
It means that we show up every day for each other because we want to, because we love each other and want to make each other's lives better and easier. My chosen family found each other because no one else wanted us! Our little nickname for our friend group is quite literally "The Leftovers" and we are weird and goofy and totally accepting of each other. We celebrate our differences because that gives us strength. One person may be great at admin tasks while the other is great at handy tasks around the house.
My chosen family means my kid has uncles and aunts that celebrate his wins and help keep him on the right path with us. Our chosen family shows him that diversity is good, that we are all different people with different needs, but we can all work together to make sure we're all taken care of in our lives.
Especially being queer. Chosen family is everything to me.
Being with people who you want to be with and vice versa. You raise each other up and are supportive, and are there for you as you are for them. "Blood is thicker than, water" is stupid. What if the blood is trying to hurt you? Plenty of people have this in their life and it's not worth it. Life is too short.
Freedom. It means I don't have to be near toxicity and can be with good people
i am only starting to realise that i might have auch a thing. we lived together for 6 years now. but i am starting to feel i belong there, and they won't ask me to leave. that's nice.
it is a circle of people, that not only tolerates you, but wants you around.
Also, a certain amount of working together / helping each other out / supporting each other emotionally. Because you want them to thrive, and vice-versa.