Tl;dr: turns out heatwaves can melt dress standards.
One coworker bantered with another yesterday because of the latter wearing shorts, along the lines of "pants or skirts only here". I pointedly rolled back from my desk to show I was wearing shorts too. He suggested they should all pitch in to get me a Kilt. We met two others on the hallway wearing shorts. I guess he was out of jokes.
In general, the more traditional business dress standards seem to have relaxed these last weeks. Particularly when women wear short pants, pencil skirts are swapped for loose ones and summer dresses replace pantsuits, that indicates they're less worried about comments than about heat stroke and I don't think it's just due to shifting workplace culture.
(Though I do hope that this is also indicative of a shifting workplace culture; there is a push for more progressive policies but I don't think I need to elaborate on the resilience of some mentalities.)
I think happiness is the most (platonically) beautiful thing about anyone, regardless of identity, presentation, age, clothes, whatever. I know not everyone thinks like that, but I wish they did.
Also, acceptance should never be conditional on looks. The only condition for acceptance should be that it's mutual.
I originally meant to reply to the "look nice enough to be accepted" sentiment, but ADHD butchered it front to back and impulse control didn't catch it.
My half-finished thought was that you should wear what makes you happy instead of wondering whether you "look nice enough". Basically, trying to reassure / validate you that you look nice as you are.
Then I remembered that many people hold others to some arbitrary standars of how they have to look and lamented that. That reasoning probably should have made me scrap the first part because it kinda contradicts it.
Then I felt I should emphasise that "to be accepted" shouldn't depend on being "enough" by any standard. I'm not entirely sure in retrospect what point I was going for with that either.
All in all, it was a chaotic train of thought, unfinished, phrased with the eloquence of sleep-deprived AuDHD and posted without overthinking it. Sorry.
I don't think there's a good way to salvage it, probably shouldn't have posted it, but I did and so I'll leave it up for context's sake.
hehe no dear KokusnussRitter 🥥 im from the Germany.... hehe apparently in the hottest section of Germany according to tagesschau. lets see those 42 degrees!! >o<
am only wearing jacker outside.... long sleeve stuff is a must tho... for myself- or something.
i know heat is no joke, but i have water and a downstairs to go to when its too warm and ice cream and to quote myself: I have a fan and am not hesitant to use it.
I'm just sitting but ass naked on my balcony at 5 am in the morning because it's too damn hot in Europe right now. 🤷♀️
My workplace put out an internal notice of how to deal with the heat. One of the points is "Adjust Dresscode".
Yep, that's certainly one way of putting it.
Tl;dr: turns out heatwaves can melt dress standards.
One coworker bantered with another yesterday because of the latter wearing shorts, along the lines of "pants or skirts only here". I pointedly rolled back from my desk to show I was wearing shorts too. He suggested they should all pitch in to get me a Kilt. We met two others on the hallway wearing shorts. I guess he was out of jokes.
In general, the more traditional business dress standards seem to have relaxed these last weeks. Particularly when women wear short pants, pencil skirts are swapped for loose ones and summer dresses replace pantsuits, that indicates they're less worried about comments than about heat stroke and I don't think it's just due to shifting workplace culture.
(Though I do hope that this is also indicative of a shifting workplace culture; there is a push for more progressive policies but I don't think I need to elaborate on the resilience of some mentalities.)
That is bravely vague xDD
got it I'll wear this to work
for long commutes I recommend an additional wet towel to wrap yourself up in
Just a sundresssssss it's tooo hotttt
outfit for the day:
am hiding from outside peeps. u never know if they r nice. i never know if im noce-looking enough to be accepted.
I think happiness is the most (platonically) beautiful thing about anyone, regardless of identity, presentation, age, clothes, whatever. I know not everyone thinks like that, but I wish they did.
Also, acceptance should never be conditional on looks. The only condition for acceptance should be that it's mutual.
imean yea i agree. bzt where is this coming from all of a sudden?
I originally meant to reply to the "look nice enough to be accepted" sentiment, but ADHD butchered it front to back and impulse control didn't catch it.
My half-finished thought was that you should wear what makes you happy instead of wondering whether you "look nice enough". Basically, trying to reassure / validate you that you look nice as you are.
Then I remembered that many people hold others to some arbitrary standars of how they have to look and lamented that. That reasoning probably should have made me scrap the first part because it kinda contradicts it.
Then I felt I should emphasise that "to be accepted" shouldn't depend on being "enough" by any standard. I'm not entirely sure in retrospect what point I was going for with that either.
All in all, it was a chaotic train of thought, unfinished, phrased with the eloquence of sleep-deprived AuDHD and posted without overthinking it. Sorry.
I don't think there's a good way to salvage it, probably shouldn't have posted it, but I did and so I'll leave it up for context's sake.
You look very nice :3 If nice-looking required to be accepted, these are not your peeps.
Also genually hoping you are on the southern hemisphere where it is winter rn.
hehe no dear KokusnussRitter 🥥 im from the Germany.... hehe apparently in the hottest section of Germany according to tagesschau. lets see those 42 degrees!! >o<
am only wearing jacker outside.... long sleeve stuff is a must tho... for myself- or something.
winter rules tho <3
😶
I am scared and impressed at the same time.
pffffff scared and impressed?
scared that - im gonna show up and drink tea with u? >o< truly scary-
or scared about me overheating? dont worry, I got a FAN! and am not hesitant to use it.
Maria, you are going to die. Heat is no joke 🥺
hmmm so far not-
am still here, TotallyNotDying.
i know heat is no joke, but i have water and a downstairs to go to when its too warm and ice cream and to quote myself: I have a fan and am not hesitant to use it.
i'm fiiiiiiiiiine-
Well, make it 2 fans then
scared you'll overheat. Happy to hear you're equipped with a fan ^^
Man in the summer my work outfit is my birthday suit.
For those of us sweltering through the present UK heatwave, can confirm
I think most of europe rn 🫠