I'm genuinely scared for my life, my mom's brainwashed by her stupid religion.
I heard the online priest she listens to say depression is caused by satan. Then, I asked her if she doesn't ever doubt a single thing that man says. She denied it.
I know I heard this same discourse forever, but damn, my mom's too invested on this shit. After she began suspecting I have schizophrenia she's been trying all she can to get me a psych ward hospitalization (including threatening me with such), been talking less to me and GOT ME. ON. CATECHESIS.
Yes, Catechesis. For schizophrenia.
What the fuck?
I can't do many about it, I'm 15 and finding a job is really hard. I think this is my 12th CV and nothing.
Not sure if this is something child protective services (or whatever your countries version of it is) can help with.
But I can give you one advice STAY ON TOP OF PAPERWORK. Your future self is gonna thank you for it.
Check around your area for lawyers that provide services for minors. They might be able to help for free, or at least give you advice. A phone call out of earshot can't hurt.
I'm not suggesting you should sue your mother or anything. But get advice from professionals not internet strangers.
She should be the one getting checked for schizophrenia, not you. Eugh.
Psych wards are not all as scary as they seem, especially if you are cooperative, you can talk to professional therapists and social workers about your situation, have some nice hot meals, do some yoga. Just take a break from her at the very least, maybe find a legal option to live somewhere else.
This may be the experience at some psych wards but not all. I would learn as much about the specifc ward as possible before making decisions.
Sure. They'll just look it up on the Wards Review Weekly back issues or ask the Toll-free Wards Comparison hot-line.
Well, atleast in my country, nope. Heard tales about people threatening others, depressed people breaking glasses to self harm, ant-full cakes.
The bad part is that they can't prove shit because psych wards don't allow phones nor pictures. I could find some routine details from psych wards at Japan and at the US, but not from my country. That's supicious indeed.
Yeah that kind of shit happens, that is really who the psych ward exists to help, and it doesn't reflect on the professionals ability (besides the ant cakes). The number one rule of psych wards is don't make friends with any patients.
I trust your judgement absolutely, I just wanted to defang her threat of hospitalization with personal experience, because she is holding it over you in a way that I would call abusive and makes you feel like you have no options, and I think any chance to spend time away from someone like that, even if it's just a few days, could help you consider your options more objectively.
They don't allow internet nor phone access and have limited calls a day. Hmm...
That's very typical.
Still suspicious.
It's good to be suspicious. I trust your judgement, but I do not trust your mother's. Any info about hospitals that has come from her should be considered suspicious as well.
What sort of bougie ass psychwards have you been to?!
You get absolutely none of that in psychwards in the uk, cooperative or not.
They don't feed you, give you therapy, or enough room to stretch? That sounds embellished, but that shithole has been backsliding for years now it honestly wouldn't completely surprise me.
The food is prison slop. There is no therapy, there's a ward doctor who would be anywhere else if they were a better doctor and you get to see them maybe once a week.
The wards are filthy and packed, it's one in one out. There's usually a patch of astroterf in an enclosed courtyard if you want to go 'outside'.
The healthcare workers who basically run the place will conviscate and steal anything of yours that looks expensive/valuable.
On the last ward I was at, there was no working washing machine and once you ran out of your own clothes, if you didn't want to wear dirty clothes and were't allowed to leave to get a bus to the nearest laundrette, you're stuck wearing hospital gowns, one forwards and one backwards for modesty.
My adhd medication I arrived with was 'conviscated' and then I was called a drug seeker/attention seeker for nearly a month as the ward doctor refused to contact my diagnosing doctor and he removed my presctiption from the nhs so my gp could no longer even prescribe it for me.
On tje day I left I had a healthcare worker photocopy my bank cards and try to get me to sign a document allowing him to.
The constant homophobia and transphobia I recieved from the staff was also insane. Staff kept making jokes about how they thought I was going to flash my genitals at them. I made a friend and hugged her at one point and I had 'inappropriate sexual interactions repeatedly attempted' in my report when I left.
You do not want to go to a psych ward for mental health help here.
That sounds terrible, I'm so sorry... I would say that my experience was in the same vague shape as your experience but no thieving workers, a doctor visited every day and was more or less competent, the washing machine was working, and I had to meet with a social worker as part of being released. I didn't plan ahead, so I was in gowns the whole time, it was always full, the courtyard sounds the same. The food was fine though, idk, it had more fresh greens than I could typically afford, absolutely no sugar or sodium, but it actually was healthy and not bad in my opinion. Like, it was a step up from what I was cooking for myself at the time for sure, I don't know if that says more about me or the hospital.
Edit: to clarify, the doctor visited on weekdays and saw like a quarter to a third of the patients each time.
Edit: I didn't see your last paragraphs, that is very horrible. It was very early on in my transition and I was able to stay in the closet, and the psychiatrist was transphobic as well. I think trans women in particular have more reason to fear mental institutions than most, and neurodivergent people too.
Are you fucking serious? Getting institutionalized has serious effects on life. You're talking like it's a fun little experience. Unbelievable.
Yeah, I guess I am. I, first of all, doubt that her mother could convince the hospital to hold them against their will, not without a prior diagnosis, a police report, or being actively violent. Second of all, most psych stays are short, especially for healthy people, and a few days will not define your life, but it could give them direct access to government services to help their situation. The most important thing in my view is whether they feel safe, and in some countries it may be better to stay in an abusive home, that's a judgement they have to make.
Buddy, fuck off. You're clueless and your advice is harmful. Nobody with a shred of decency would recommend someone 'just go along with' being institutionalized for false premises.
What do you mean by false premises? I never suggested faking a condition or lying. Going to the hospital is not a shameful thing, for any reason, nor does it brand you for life. That's an incredibly harmful view of mental health, and pushes people away from getting help.
You're a cretin. Hospital isn't a psych ward and you're only changing your argument because you realize how wrong you are. Seriously, in a world with justice, your words here would be criminal.
You're going to be blown away by this, but the 'ward' part means it's attached to a hospital. For how much you condemn me it seems you know very little.
All of this crap is going to go on their record and will cause issues in the future with doctors and especially if CPS needs to get involved, voluntarily going to the psych ward will be used as evidence that they are actually schizophrenic or whatever they write up.
I know its not much help... but good luck. It will be hard, but you'll pull through.
Thanks, I'm trying to pull as soon as possible (job to get money to have my own place quick).