I don’t have much to say, I just want to say I fucking love every single one of you ladies, trans, and enby friends in this community. The amount of support I see going on here is fucking phenomenal and I love you all for that!
Special shout out to velma, banana, sharkweek, and a few others I’ve replied to or had replies from recently. And of course the lovely LadyButterfly who gets so many convos started with your posts. Too many wonderful people here to type out all y'alls names.
I fucking love all of you so much and I hope you are all having a wonderful year 💚
My workplace still hasn’t given me my actual badge yet, I’m on my third week here. Everyday when I clock in I have to find the security guard to make them give me a temp badge, then have to find them at the end of my shift so I can get whatever I traded for a temp badge back.
You’d think it’d be important for an EVS tech to have their own badge quickly so I don’t have to wait for at least half an hour each shift. But guess they don’t want me to have it easy for the first few weeks. I’m lucky I at least have another EVS tech to work with so she can get me around till the security guard can get me a temp badge. So frustrating having to deal with this, literally typed this up while waiting on the security guard to come to his office.
Had a funny conversation last night with a 25 year old lad who had had a little too much to drink. He was from the countryside (so, no internet), and has only been working in a city for a couple of weeks.
I think it was the first time he'd ever talked to someone "alternative" and he just kept digging himself into a hole.
He tried chatting me up gently (complimented my tattoos, hand on my knee, etc), I pointed out my wedding ring. He asked about my husband, I told him about my wife. He asked if I planned on having kids, and I told him my son is now 33 years old ...
Bless him, he was so not prepared for any of my answers, and got a little flustered.
I know I shouldn't be shocked by misogyny and I shouldn't get into internet slap fights, etc.
But holy fucking shit. I didn't expect to fully run into grown ass men here on Lemmy who are "genuinely baffled and in disbelief" that women over 55+ can be fit and attractive.
Oh it’s everything. I’m just very tired of keeping the peace so things can keep going. At work, with family. It’s eggshells everywhere and becoming exhausting. It was always there before gestures but it’s at 11 now.
Mostly it’s working for people who don’t think as I do and holding my tongue. Gonna bite it off. Figured other people are suffering this also. Gotta keep the job, you know? All the retroactive hugs for when you experienced this.
Tell me about it. They just made the announcement that they're putting up the forced 10 commandments bullshit at my work and I want to react, but literally can't without losing my job. We can't even have political signage up in our years and publicly make any statements.
Yesterday I was a bit stressed but channeled the energy into productivity. Today I just have a headache. I need to take my kid to a playground but nothing to far because ow.
I don’t have much to say, I just want to say I fucking love every single one of you ladies, trans, and enby friends in this community. The amount of support I see going on here is fucking phenomenal and I love you all for that!
Special shout out to velma, banana, sharkweek, and a few others I’ve replied to or had replies from recently. And of course the lovely LadyButterfly who gets so many convos started with your posts. Too many wonderful people here to type out all y'alls names.
I fucking love all of you so much and I hope you are all having a wonderful year 💚
I'm a brand new subscriber because of that thread! So many great and well thought out responses :)
I feel so welcomed 😊 happy to now be part of such a wonderful group of femmes and femme-adjacent folks!
Heck yeah and welcome! The support I’ve seen on that thread is wonderful 💚
Even when we don’t agree, folks here are so kind about it.
It's so refreshing!
My workplace still hasn’t given me my actual badge yet, I’m on my third week here. Everyday when I clock in I have to find the security guard to make them give me a temp badge, then have to find them at the end of my shift so I can get whatever I traded for a temp badge back.
You’d think it’d be important for an EVS tech to have their own badge quickly so I don’t have to wait for at least half an hour each shift. But guess they don’t want me to have it easy for the first few weeks. I’m lucky I at least have another EVS tech to work with so she can get me around till the security guard can get me a temp badge. So frustrating having to deal with this, literally typed this up while waiting on the security guard to come to his office.
Had a funny conversation last night with a 25 year old lad who had had a little too much to drink. He was from the countryside (so, no internet), and has only been working in a city for a couple of weeks.
I think it was the first time he'd ever talked to someone "alternative" and he just kept digging himself into a hole.
He tried chatting me up gently (complimented my tattoos, hand on my knee, etc), I pointed out my wedding ring. He asked about my husband, I told him about my wife. He asked if I planned on having kids, and I told him my son is now 33 years old ...
Bless him, he was so not prepared for any of my answers, and got a little flustered.
These are such fun interactions if you have the mental/emotional capacity for them lol. I'll bet he learned a lot that day!
Yeah, I found it amusing and more than a little sweet :-)
I know I shouldn't be shocked by misogyny and I shouldn't get into internet slap fights, etc.
But holy fucking shit. I didn't expect to fully run into grown ass men here on Lemmy who are "genuinely baffled and in disbelief" that women over 55+ can be fit and attractive.
On some instances there's no shortage of men who live up to negative stereotypes :-/
Feel free to point me at any fit and sexy 55+ women, lol
Join the queue Shark!!
That looks more like a puppy pile than a queue ... but ok
It didn’t take very many comments before I was called a “shit person” for acknowledging attractive middle aged women exist lol
Says way more about them than myself, but cheese on a cracker…. that’s a dumb view to perpetuate.
How dare you challenge their entrenched and blinkered world view!!
I’m bothered, unmoisturized and not in my lane. That is all I feel like I can say these days.
Sorry to here that ... anything in particular, or just *gestures at everything* making you feel that way?
Oh it’s everything. I’m just very tired of keeping the peace so things can keep going. At work, with family. It’s eggshells everywhere and becoming exhausting. It was always there before gestures but it’s at 11 now.
Shiiit, I know that feeling. It's like slow suffocation.
Is there any way to reduce contact with some of the people whose emotions you're having to manage?
Mostly it’s working for people who don’t think as I do and holding my tongue. Gonna bite it off. Figured other people are suffering this also. Gotta keep the job, you know? All the retroactive hugs for when you experienced this.
Tell me about it. They just made the announcement that they're putting up the forced 10 commandments bullshit at my work and I want to react, but literally can't without losing my job. We can't even have political signage up in our years and publicly make any statements.
Do you now get to point to the exact commandment being broken on any given day by someone important to them?
Ugh, yes, working for people who believe you should be sent to hell is very hard on the spirit.
Have you got an escape plan?
Thanks for the retroactive hugs :-)
Yesterday I was a bit stressed but channeled the energy into productivity. Today I just have a headache. I need to take my kid to a playground but nothing to far because ow.