Im having issues getting instances to allow me to follow them.

More info:
I had to remake my peertube instance after the latest update caused a bunch of 500 errors to pop up. I went from an old url piped.chrisco.me to peertube.chrisco.me. Setup looks correct, I can search on the general fediverse no issues. But I cant seem to get any other instances to follow mine? Or at least the big ones? It appears to work with smaller instances:

But on the bigger ones the request goes out:

But does not get confirmed by the other instance:

so it just sits there.

Anyone have any ideas what is going on?