2 My family of origin is ethnic Chinese... very anti trans, bigoted af, they'll call me a "變態" ("pervert", "sick-minded person", or something like that)
I want be BORN as a girl, transitioning is dangerous af.
That's fair, that's part of the reason I kinda dislike memes like this. I'm sure some people have had an easy transition, but myself and a lot of trans people I know have had very difficult ones. I lost a parent over it, which resulted in some time spent very housing insecure in college. I've faced professional and personal discrimination. It's been hard.
And all that matters because it provides serious context to the statement that transitioning was the best decision I ever made. After years of struggling it was the necessary first piece to getting my life together, because it made me able to actually be present in my life and made me not too depressed to do things like study, apply for jobs, and form friendships with new people. It gave me a life worth living at a cost that was nebulous and felt insurmountable at the time I agreed to it.
I much prefer outreach in the form of pointing out that dysphoria doesn't go away without transitioning and by depicting the reality of happy trans people, even those of us who've been disowned.
Nah I like playing girls in games because they're cute and feminine but in real life I want to be a boy who is cute and fem. I don't want to be a girl.
It's actually a kind of a bummer most games don't let you play as a femboy where you look like a girl mostly but people refer to you as a boy in-game.
Link never struck me as a femboy, at least not in the games I played. Newest Zelda game I ever played was Skyward Sword and I didn't play it very much.
absolutely this, we need more femboy options in games! IMO character creators should start with androgynous as a default, and then you can add masc or fem characteristics from there.
I mean I would totally play as a girl IRL if it would be as easy as in videogames and without the negative consequences (thanks sexism and transmisia) ...
According to Wiktionary^[1]^:
"hatred/dislike".
It is used as an alternative to the suffix -phobia, which etymologically means fear (although -phobia is often used for hate/dislike)
that's interesting. though i do like phobia meaning both fear and hatred, as that makes it an opposite of philia, which means love, so can also be seen as acceptance and liking a lot
I think (at least in Germany not sure about English speaking countries) a phobia is an officially recognised psychological condition so using it for bigots (who are not ill, just awful) could be viewed kinda ableist.
Playing as a girl irl sucks pretty hard though. At least in games being a female character doesn’t often have major implications on how much you can do and how interactions play out.. it’s just a full-on 1-1 replacement that has no bearing on anything but aesthetics.
Nah I only really play as girls to balance out getting seen as a "guy" so much IRL. Neither the "girl" build nor the "guy" build really have the kind of gameplay I'm looking for. What I really wanted to play as is something that makes people wonder which one I am. But when the random rolls in the character creator spit you out growing to 6'2" with a build like a fridge in a fursuit that build ain't something you can really respec into. So I'm stuck with "Giant Dad" basically.
Oh they absolutely are. No my problem is that I'm nonbinary and with my particular flavor I don't really want to be gendered as either. But with my build I feel like the only ways I really have a chance of being gendered are Bear Dad, Drag artist, and maybe a tall Soccer Mom depending on how well a hypothetical transition might go. None of those are bad, just as much as I don't identify with being male the same goes for fully being seen as female too.
So I figure at least for now if I'm gonna be uncomfortable I'll take the devil I know, then I'll affirm my identity in other ways that make me happy.
Getting gendered (at all sometimes) can feel like being stabbed with a fork dipped in sriracha. Worse when people reeeeally lean into it, for some god forsaken reason.
Video games can be a pleasant temporary escape from that.
Why? The character on the screen is not me. I do not relate to them. I would never play myself.
I play tropes. Something that is different from what I know in real life. Like I would never pick human if there is an option. Because humans are boring.
Next playthrough it might be something completely different.
Yeah I have for Halloween several times, it’s fun but I’m as cis-het as they come. I play girls in games because I like the way they look, and I do mean sexually.
Yeah, I always play characters who are not like me because I don’t want to watch my onscreen character sit at a desk for years and slowly wither into a bitter husk.
I sometimes play as a girl in videogames because if I'm going to be staring at someones ass for several hours it might as well be one I find attractive
If I am gonna look at my character's ass for half the game, I'd like a lady bum please! The female form is more visually appealing in my opinion, and I love a good bad ass chick that can kick ass and take names but look divine on Saturday night.
I like to play as a girl because i like to look at girls. I don't think that makes me trans.
Become a girl and start carrying a mirror
But what if you're reeeeeaaally ugly?
Girls can't be ugly silly.
Don't have to remind me, thanks. The mirror does that.
That's why I dont look in the mirror, problem solved!
(Don't look too much into that, definitely nothing wrong here. Nope, nada.)
mirrors are getting paid by Rothschild to show me ugly
Friend of mine was a not handsome dude, but looked much better as a woman. MUCH. I would never have guessed.
Plus, we don't all want to be the object of our fascination.
Fascinated with race car drivers? Have you tried actually being one?
Fascinated with criminals? Have you tried actually being one?
Fascinated with doctors? Have you tried actually being one?
Fascinated with hitmen? Have you tried actually being one?
Fascinated with serial killers? Have you tried actually being one?
Yeah, not the best ideas.
Nah, that's not my reason for playing as a girl in video games. I just don't like hearing dudes grunt. And I prefer to look at a pretty girl kick ass.
I used to play as female characters because the guys never had good customisation, "Oh I can be buzzcut Shepard or crewcut Shepard. Hmmmm".
Fem shep had a better voice actor too
Unfair.
Mark Meer is solid and I really enjoyed his performance(s) mostly in 2 and 3.
Jennifer Hale is a voice acting goddess.
Bruh this character creator sucks worse than that from Oblivion.
Look, I played as a female in Cyberpunk 2077 because the female voice actor sounded better than the male.
I did it for long hair. When I played I couldn't have the hair I wanted so fuck it I'll play a woman.
If they want me to play a man, let me have my long hair. Fuckers.
Why on earth is the hairstyle restricted by gender?
Because games do stupid shit sometimes. Thought it was weird CP77 did it though, given how otherwise inclusive the game appears.
Also Judy
I would have played male if I knew I was locking myself out of romancing Panam.
Is this some console problem I'm too PC mods to understand?
LMAO the second I realized panam was male V only I found a mod.
Wanted that lesi car sex so bad lol
No way....? you can romance Panam as a dude ???
Sounds like you need to play again!
I never even finished my first playthrough, got bored
budder dog
dog wit the buttah
buttur dog
dog wid da butter on 'em
I like playing as a dragon in video games. If only there was a drug that would let me grow wings and breathe fire in the estates of billionaires.
Well... There are drugs that'll let you THINK you're doing all that, and that's almost as good, right?
Problems with IRL:
2 My family of origin is ethnic Chinese... very anti trans, bigoted af, they'll call me a "變態" ("pervert", "sick-minded person", or something like that)
I want be BORN as a girl, transitioning is dangerous af.
That's fair, that's part of the reason I kinda dislike memes like this. I'm sure some people have had an easy transition, but myself and a lot of trans people I know have had very difficult ones. I lost a parent over it, which resulted in some time spent very housing insecure in college. I've faced professional and personal discrimination. It's been hard.
And all that matters because it provides serious context to the statement that transitioning was the best decision I ever made. After years of struggling it was the necessary first piece to getting my life together, because it made me able to actually be present in my life and made me not too depressed to do things like study, apply for jobs, and form friendships with new people. It gave me a life worth living at a cost that was nebulous and felt insurmountable at the time I agreed to it.
I much prefer outreach in the form of pointing out that dysphoria doesn't go away without transitioning and by depicting the reality of happy trans people, even those of us who've been disowned.
Do it while on vacation in Montreal during pride. You don't have to transition to have some fun on occasion. 🤗
Meh, in videogames I don't get periods...
... do trans girls get periods nowadays?
if you’re on estrogen, you still get (some) period cramps and mood swings, but obviously there’s no blood since there’s (usually) no uterus
Damn, TIL.
Yes, I get them. Aside from the lack of bleeding it's pretty similar.
Nah I like playing girls in games because they're cute and feminine but in real life I want to be a boy who is cute and fem. I don't want to be a girl.
It's actually a kind of a bummer most games don't let you play as a femboy where you look like a girl mostly but people refer to you as a boy in-game.
I felt this. Most games don't have any options for more slender, fem looking men at all. It's always hairy or muscly.
Link ftw
Link never struck me as a femboy, at least not in the games I played. Newest Zelda game I ever played was Skyward Sword and I didn't play it very much.
He isn't exactly Astolfo, but he is definitely androgynous. IIRC that was intentional, too.
absolutely this, we need more femboy options in games! IMO character creators should start with androgynous as a default, and then you can add masc or fem characteristics from there.
I mean I would totally play as a girl IRL if it would be as easy as in videogames and without the negative consequences (thanks sexism and transmisia) ...
what's the -misia mean?
According to Wiktionary^[1]^: "hatred/dislike". It is used as an alternative to the suffix -phobia, which etymologically means fear (although -phobia is often used for hate/dislike)
[1] https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/-misia
that's interesting. though i do like phobia meaning both fear and hatred, as that makes it an opposite of philia, which means love, so can also be seen as acceptance and liking a lot
I think (at least in Germany not sure about English speaking countries) a phobia is an officially recognised psychological condition so using it for bigots (who are not ill, just awful) could be viewed kinda ableist.
I typically play as a girl when given the choice but I don't think that's anything to read into lol
Playing as a girl irl sucks pretty hard though. At least in games being a female character doesn’t often have major implications on how much you can do and how interactions play out.. it’s just a full-on 1-1 replacement that has no bearing on anything but aesthetics.
that's true but cyberpunk is an exception, that games story is amazing
That’s fair, I haven’t played that one, or really any others where sex selection actually matters
Nah I only really play as girls to balance out getting seen as a "guy" so much IRL. Neither the "girl" build nor the "guy" build really have the kind of gameplay I'm looking for. What I really wanted to play as is something that makes people wonder which one I am. But when the random rolls in the character creator spit you out growing to 6'2" with a build like a fridge in a fursuit that build ain't something you can really respec into. So I'm stuck with "Giant Dad" basically.
Big bitches are real and valid, if your physical shape is all that keeps you back.
That being said there's a lotta ways to be happy, so long as you find one that doesn't hurt others that's whats important.
Oh they absolutely are. No my problem is that I'm nonbinary and with my particular flavor I don't really want to be gendered as either. But with my build I feel like the only ways I really have a chance of being gendered are Bear Dad, Drag artist, and maybe a tall Soccer Mom depending on how well a hypothetical transition might go. None of those are bad, just as much as I don't identify with being male the same goes for fully being seen as female too.
So I figure at least for now if I'm gonna be uncomfortable I'll take the devil I know, then I'll affirm my identity in other ways that make me happy.
Fair enough dawg, gender hurts.
Real.
I feel that vibe so hard.
Getting gendered (at all sometimes) can feel like being stabbed with a fork dipped in sriracha. Worse when people reeeeally lean into it, for some god forsaken reason.
Video games can be a pleasant temporary escape from that.
Yeah, as a 6'3 skinny uterus haver, I'd love for an option to skip all the public restroom cutscenes irl, thanks!
Instructions unclear, got my gender stuck in the toaster and now it's all burnt and useless
GOD DAMN IT ITS 2 AM AGAIN AAAAA
I'll see you in the morning
i know I literally just said that but I found this guy and I think he's really funny looking
ANYWAYS definitely going to bed now mhm!!
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Why? The character on the screen is not me. I do not relate to them. I would never play myself.
I play tropes. Something that is different from what I know in real life. Like I would never pick human if there is an option. Because humans are boring.
Next playthrough it might be something completely different.
I like being a badass warrior chick weilding a huge two handed sword in full plate.
I do not want to be a woman.
Playing as a girl IRL <<< Playing as a Dragon IRL
username checks out lol
Counter point: jiggle physics are much more enjoyable to stare at for 120 hours.
Really good games should have it for butts too, everyone should get to enjoy it.
Hit box bro
that was my excuse... for Minecraft
Yeah I have for Halloween several times, it’s fun but I’m as cis-het as they come. I play girls in games because I like the way they look, and I do mean sexually.
Yeah, I always play characters who are not like me because I don’t want to watch my onscreen character sit at a desk for years and slowly wither into a bitter husk.
I sometimes play as a girl in videogames because if I'm going to be staring at someones ass for several hours it might as well be one I find attractive
If I am gonna look at my character's ass for half the game, I'd like a lady bum please! The female form is more visually appealing in my opinion, and I love a good bad ass chick that can kick ass and take names but look divine on Saturday night.
I'm adding this not as a disagreement, I'm certainly not anti hot people, but I think it needs to be said more often:
I play as a girl in video games sometimes, not because I want to be one, not because they're fun to stare at, I just think that being cute can be fun.
I don't look like a troll in video games. Unfortunately in real life....
lol no
And lose my passive buffs?!
+STR -CHA ... it's a choice
I love playing as a girl even more in real life than in the games.
I actually play as both depending on how I imagine the character to be.
This post deals me psychic damage
How do I actually do that? I mean the becoming a girl part
HRT, laser, electro, wardrobe, makeup, voice training, surgeries of various sorts...
Not for me! I'm fairly gender affirmed and confident on it. Tho, I'm the very definition vanilla, incredibly cishet.
Oh your god, that is a cute kitty!
So much objectification in these comments
I dunno, I don't think Garrus Vakarian would jump my bones if I was a girl or guy irl.
I liked horizon. Im trans now.
Don't dream it, be it
Clothes too small for me, any type 😓. But I play a woman outside anyways, it does not sit in the clothes or so I have decided.