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menslib·Men's Liberation: Resisting PatriarchybyDankZedong

I ordered a mint tea at a bar and even the waiter laughed at me lol

How insecure can you be? Everyone was ordering beers but I didn't feel like drinken, so I ordered tea. I guess my masculinity is in shambles right now.

Guys, drink whatever you want.

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Real men forge their own path, never caring what those around them think.

“Ok, one mint tea please”

No not like that

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DankZedongreply
lemmygrad.ml

For real. I'm 6'2 and work out 4 times a week. Even then some guys think you're not men enough if you don't tick all their silly boxes.ust be a miserable life.

Edit: not that I think those measurements are manly either. The only qualification for being manly is identifying as one.

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Stuff like what you’ve posted about others expectations and their arbitrary boxes really exemplifies how people use gender roles to seek some sort of self validation. It’s funny how if you ask someone who cares deeply about their male identity what being a “man” is, it always conveniently aligns exactly with themselves, no need for self adjustment

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lemm.ee

Real men people forge their own path, never caring what those around them think.

“Ok, one mint tea please”

No not like that

FTFY

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Sure, sorry if the tone wasn’t clear on my original post, it was made mocking people who think like that, people like the ones laughing at the tea in the first place. I personally have no interest in prescriptive gender or personhood definitions

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lemmygrad.ml

"getting crossed" or "getting crossfaded" is just a way of referring to getting high on marijuana and drinking alcohol at the same time.

It can be enjoyable, but runs a high risk of being very intoxicating.

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lemmygrad.ml

It's been my therapy since losing my job lol. A couple beers and some hits of my vape pen and I'm fucking good. But yeah don't overdo it.

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lemmygrad.ml

Just do what xi Jinping did at the Two Sessions, and order a second cup.

According to Highly Credible Western Analysts™, that's a power move.

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That is the look of a man who doesn't give a god damn fuck what any westerner thinks of him and is also about to enjoy a second cup of tea, respect

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SpaceDogsreply
lemmygrad.ml

Me sitting at home with five mugs of tea, constantly making them one after another, am I also pulling a power move?

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Westerners: "Xi is making a bold power move by ordering a second cup of tea."

Xi: "This is good tea. I should get another cup."

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This has always been the weirdest part of this kind of toxic masculinity. Being "tough enough" to not just go along with the crowd makes you a wimpy soyboy? Real men blindly do what everyone else is doing I guess.

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lemmy.sdf.org

If you ever just want to skip a potential interaction, tell them you're the designated driver. You also might get your nonalcoholic beverage of choice on the house.

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Dr. Weskerreply
lemmy.sdf.org

You can also simply say, "I have to drive." Assuming you drove yourself. I rarely drink, so I use that one a lot as well.

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“I’m driving your mom and might get lucky. “

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"Id like a rum and coke without the rum, thanks" - Me who is allergic to alcohol.

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As a woman, you are more masculibe than every man in that bar.

You know what a real man does? He drinks what he damn well pleases

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Listen, I like beer, sour beer, hoppy beer, Belgian style beer, but at this point in my life I can't drink any of it without feeling like shit afterwards. You'll catch me ordering a Sex On The Beach, or any other sweet drink instead. That's if I'm even in the mood to drink, which I'm usually not.

If you ask me it takes more balls to order a "girly" drink then it does to order a bud light.

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DankZedongreply
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Makes me think about a shampoo bottle I saw at my parents once. It was for men and it had a picture of an explosion on it. It was called ‘extreme shampoo’ and it smelled like ‘wood and fire’ or something like that. It had a nice smell which reminded me of the forest, but the bottle itself was just comical.

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That’s funny, because I go camping often and you shower to rid of the wood and fire smell

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I had the same, with ordering a tea at a bar. I just ignore this dumb society.

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I've had a similar experience before in NL. One evening at a bar I asked for an espresso (the machine was still on and functional) and the two bar women kept trying to shame me into getting a beer instead. Never went back to that place

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