When did you realize that you were kinky?
I can't say I can pin down an exact time, but by the time I had learned about BDSM on the internet I was sure I would like it. The first thing I remember was REALLY liking the scene in Aladdin where Jasmine was chained up by Jafar
There's something to be said about 90's and 2000's kids growing up surrounded by cartoon characters that are borderline kinky.
Shaped me a lot, that's for sure.
Old Scooby Doo hit different, that's for sure
The Hex girls...
Imo there’s a disconnect between what “kinky” is and what “catholic shame” breeds. I’m not super kinky compared to my poly friend with a fuckin dungeon in his basement, but I don’t want to just have missionary sex in the dark before bed with shame following. My wife and I enjoy sex, and for some that is “kinky” which I guess?
I do like restraints, slapping, choking, and a healthy dose of dom/sub tho >:)
it's a spectrum. people who are super vanilla think anything outside of PnV sex is kinky af. those who are into piss play or bruising think cuffs and slapping is vanilla.
when she licked my ass
I had degradation and humiliation fantasies with my stuffies when I was like seven.
When Jabba had Leia chained and under his control, that was hot! I think that's the earliest kinky memory I have that I understood was sexual at the time it happened.
I found out when my husband introduced it to me as a way to end a huge fight we were having. (Gay guy here.) He'd been hiding that side of himself from me because he thought it would freak me out and he had only recently discovered it himself...or maybe admitted it to himself. But, anyway, we had one of those huge fights that couples sometimes have that could potentially end in splitting up. He gave me the option to do a scene with him or separate. Told me he didn't want to split up but if I didn't let him take control and lead me through a scene then he was walking. I figured, what do I have to lose? I had no idea of who I had locked down deep inside me. It was simultaneously transcendently spiritual and primal, animalistic. Euphoric. (40/60 Dom/sub switch here, partnered for 27 yrs :)