I was joking here, but as long as you are not one of those incels who just straight up hate on all women and men and call them stupid names, and just enjoy shitposting and memes you are good.
Yeah kinda same. I think by surface definition I am incel, but instead of hating women or any other gender I send them my love and hugs. Wholesomeness > negativity
no but really, its more of a vibe here than a rule, were all horny depressed girlies with a passion for sharing dumb memes and making each other smile, and i wouldnt want it any other way :3
I usually put on a brave face here, but I must admit that I'm still a lil sad that I've never experienced a relationship; less for the sex and more for the connection. I don't truly know if anyone I've met in person has ever been into me (except for the person who gave me unwanted massages, but that isn't the same) >_<
::: spoiler Heavier stuff
I've never liked the idea of meeting people or doing things just for relationships. I'm not proactive in any way, as almost all of it feels desperate and scary. I don't like interacting with ulterior motives, and I get so uncomfortable when it comes time to flirt. On top of that socializing is so tiring, and I'm just not motivated enough to do more than the minimum. It's hard work, so it doesn't get done because I suck at doing things that I'm not motivated to do.
Being wanted online is something, but I still yearn more substantial experience. While I have learned to handle the shame, I can't help my feelings of loneliness. I can't fully fill that hole with family, friends, or online community. I'd probably want it again just as much if I did have it in the past, but at least I wouldn't be as scared. At least I'd understand more than unrequited feelings
:::
Oof, that hit me harder than I expected. I imagine love is one of those things that get easier once you've done it once and know how to recognize it, but right now I wouldn't know what it's like at all. I've never in my life been in a situation where I thought I could make a move. I must have missed at least one opportunity, I refuse to believe I've never even stood a chance.
Have you tried group travel? It allows you to interact with new people without any expectations. It's also very low stakes because you don't have to see any of those people again after the trip.
After being a semi-whore in high school and having a long term ex: the only thing that's changed for me is I no longer want people who are into me because they're also lonely. It never lasts, or ends well, or goes well once they stop feeling lonely. I've never had someone tell me I'm a bad person or I could do something better, I just wasn't what they actually want. And I have not leanred how love works in the slightest either lol
That's the strange part. I probably understand more about building a healthy relationship at an intellectual level. I know that you need to genuinely be good friends with someone for a relationship to last. I've seen such relationships, as well as those that didn't have it, so I'm not clueless. The hard part is reaching out
:( I really feel this. I'm so horribly lonely and touch starved, but it's so scary and uncomfortable to try to "put myself out there" and it feels so awkward and wrong to actively flirt with / pursue someone.
I don't know how old you are, but I've been out of school for a few years and it feels like I've missed my opportunity of finding a relationship when I was surrounded by people. Now I can barely leave the house, and even if I did actually meet someone I don't see how people my age who have been in 5+ relationships would even be interested.
Also I've at least been in a "relationship" when I was a kid, and just having a fuzzy memory of what it's like to cuddle and kiss someone makes it feel worse to be alone. So I don't think having something in the past always helps.
It's one thing to have someone online say they care about you and intellectually accept it and another to have someone casually hold on and make you feel ok
I hate balancing the mental equation of "how much do I hurt now vs how much could I hurt really trying to find someone and failing" and wondering if I'm even really capable of accepting affection
Being torn by desperately not wanting to hurt people and being terrified they'll like me more than I like them while simultaneously being way too attached to anyone who shows me affection
Knowing odds are very good the more someone gets to know me the less they'll like me
Knowing that if I miraculously find someone I'm compatible with I just don't have the energy to put into a relationship to make it work
Personally, I'm done trying. I know you'll get there though, you have an incrediblely tenacious spirit, of my chats with you are anything to go by
I do have tenacity, but I wasn't born with it. My spirit was next to nonexistent for most of my life, ravaged by dysphoria and self hatred. Getting a hold on my dysphoria might've been essential to building myself, but it wasn't the only part. To truly want to fight for myself, I needed to love myself.
It mostly is ironic. I'm in a good place overall, but I still have these moments. The "brave face" is more about me being bold and not a shy lil bean >~<
::: spoiler plus...
this is probably related to hormone cycles. Thanks e!
:::
I must confess, I'm.... Well I'm in some sort of Ace and kinda Aro relationship so I still yearn for someone to kiss me (lucky me that it's an open relationship but I'm not gonna find anyone who wants to kiss me)
!my gf does sometimes play with my tits tho and it's the fucking best feeling ever!<
Girlies I must confess I'm not a real femcel
I'm a man
Okay confession time.
I'm three racoons in a trenchcoat
Oh yeah? Well im a crow piloting a meatsuit! CAW, MOTHERFUCKERS!
I must also confess I'm a man, I just like these memes
So you are government robot?
I was joking here, but as long as you are not one of those incels who just straight up hate on all women and men and call them stupid names, and just enjoy shitposting and memes you are good.
I like to think I'm the inverse of the typical incel, I shit on myself not women! Lol
...not literally, but I won't kink shame. :P
okay but what if somebody wanted to pour compliments down your throat? would that be acceptable?
I can't take compliments, indigestion and all that. Lol
Gotta build up a tolerance 😘
Yeah kinda same. I think by surface definition I am incel, but instead of hating women or any other gender I send them my love and hugs. Wholesomeness > negativity
Same like I'm arguably an incel but women aren't the problem, I'm the problem. I'm also ace though so 🤷♂️.
I just think FEMCEL MEMES are pretty neat
Move to the US, problem solved.
So just an involuntary celibate then? Same bro
banned
no but really, its more of a vibe here than a rule, were all horny depressed girlies with a passion for sharing dumb memes and making each other smile, and i wouldnt want it any other way :3
ur one to talk :3
who me? :3c
i dunno what ur talking bout
uuh i love your profile picture, long live ranma, i'm just watching the remade series now :3
ssuuuurrrreeee
I love the horniness on this sub , and also I have to confess I m an incel(involuntary celibate) not a femcel 😭.sorry I lied to all of you
I usually put on a brave face here, but I must admit that I'm still a lil sad that I've never experienced a relationship; less for the sex and more for the connection. I don't truly know if anyone I've met in person has ever been into me (except for the person who gave me unwanted massages, but that isn't the same) >_<
::: spoiler Heavier stuff I've never liked the idea of meeting people or doing things just for relationships. I'm not proactive in any way, as almost all of it feels desperate and scary. I don't like interacting with ulterior motives, and I get so uncomfortable when it comes time to flirt. On top of that socializing is so tiring, and I'm just not motivated enough to do more than the minimum. It's hard work, so it doesn't get done because I suck at doing things that I'm not motivated to do.
Being wanted online is something, but I still yearn more substantial experience. While I have learned to handle the shame, I can't help my feelings of loneliness. I can't fully fill that hole with family, friends, or online community. I'd probably want it again just as much if I did have it in the past, but at least I wouldn't be as scared. At least I'd understand more than unrequited feelings :::
Oof, that hit me harder than I expected. I imagine love is one of those things that get easier once you've done it once and know how to recognize it, but right now I wouldn't know what it's like at all. I've never in my life been in a situation where I thought I could make a move. I must have missed at least one opportunity, I refuse to believe I've never even stood a chance.
Have you tried group travel? It allows you to interact with new people without any expectations. It's also very low stakes because you don't have to see any of those people again after the trip.
After being a semi-whore in high school and having a long term ex: the only thing that's changed for me is I no longer want people who are into me because they're also lonely. It never lasts, or ends well, or goes well once they stop feeling lonely. I've never had someone tell me I'm a bad person or I could do something better, I just wasn't what they actually want. And I have not leanred how love works in the slightest either lol
That's the strange part. I probably understand more about building a healthy relationship at an intellectual level. I know that you need to genuinely be good friends with someone for a relationship to last. I've seen such relationships, as well as those that didn't have it, so I'm not clueless. The hard part is reaching out
:( I really feel this. I'm so horribly lonely and touch starved, but it's so scary and uncomfortable to try to "put myself out there" and it feels so awkward and wrong to actively flirt with / pursue someone.
I don't know how old you are, but I've been out of school for a few years and it feels like I've missed my opportunity of finding a relationship when I was surrounded by people. Now I can barely leave the house, and even if I did actually meet someone I don't see how people my age who have been in 5+ relationships would even be interested.
Also I've at least been in a "relationship" when I was a kid, and just having a fuzzy memory of what it's like to cuddle and kiss someone makes it feel worse to be alone. So I don't think having something in the past always helps.
Anyway I hope you find love some day.
I hope you do too ❤
Preach sister
It's one thing to have someone online say they care about you and intellectually accept it and another to have someone casually hold on and make you feel ok
I hate balancing the mental equation of "how much do I hurt now vs how much could I hurt really trying to find someone and failing" and wondering if I'm even really capable of accepting affection
Being torn by desperately not wanting to hurt people and being terrified they'll like me more than I like them while simultaneously being way too attached to anyone who shows me affection
Knowing odds are very good the more someone gets to know me the less they'll like me
Knowing that if I miraculously find someone I'm compatible with I just don't have the energy to put into a relationship to make it work
Personally, I'm done trying. I know you'll get there though, you have an incrediblely tenacious spirit, of my chats with you are anything to go by
I do have tenacity, but I wasn't born with it. My spirit was next to nonexistent for most of my life, ravaged by dysphoria and self hatred. Getting a hold on my dysphoria might've been essential to building myself, but it wasn't the only part. To truly want to fight for myself, I needed to love myself.
Too real for my horny depressed lemmy
<3
This whole time I just assumed you were lonely depression posting ironically. Your brave face is effective.
<3 take care I wish you the best <3
It mostly is ironic. I'm in a good place overall, but I still have these moments. The "brave face" is more about me being bold and not a shy lil bean >~<
::: spoiler plus... this is probably related to hormone cycles. Thanks e! :::
If your banned I'm definitely banned. I'm a dude I just like the memes
ok :(
you just need a Lemmy version of /r/LetBoysBeManipulated :-)
Same here
Same bro some good shit here
Well, shit. Transfem here and my wife just pegged me last night. Do I have to unsub?
Nah, as long as you appreciate the lonely+horny+sad vibe
That's not even fem specific! Anyone can be a femcel!
Especially now that everyone in the US is a woman by definition.
Girlies confession time. I'm not a real femcel. Turns out I'm non binary. So sorry.
Femcel is gender neutral
Thank u 👉👈
You are welcome just don't be like those reddit incels who hate others mainly women. I'm also non-binary femcel. 💜🫂
I'll confess too, I don't belong here I just like to make people laugh and comment pretty much everywhere :P
Tbh having sex or not doesn't really matter to our vibe of femcel, that's more of a /r/femaledatingstrategy thing which is definitely for the best
Pics or it didn't happen
How big was his stick !?
i have to confess... i am a boy.
I have to confess, I thought this com was about nanobiotech
Wait..... is this not a trans community?? 🙃❓️
it's fairly trans, but not totally. Cisfem perspectives are welcome, as are those of feminine boys
I know there's a lot of trans who frequent here but the femcel concept has nothing to do with trans I thought?
I'd prefer if you didn't refer to us as "trans." We're people :)
I must confess
I'm a m*le
No shame there. Mules are hard working.
It's ok you can change that
Alright brag much, sheesh
:O
le gasp
How it feels? Wish it was me!
this meme will live in my heart forever now :3
I must confess, im not actually a femcel im just a depressed AroAce Transfem :3
:3
I must confess, I'm.... Well I'm in some sort of Ace and kinda Aro relationship so I still yearn for someone to kiss me (lucky me that it's an open relationship but I'm not gonna find anyone who wants to kiss me)
Edit: spelling
what is Aero here? :o or is it just Aro? >v<
Ah shit I should really learn how to spell (or disable autocorrect)...
Yeah I meant Aromantic
i have only esex, does that count or am i still cel
well if its enough for u thats what matters :3
I've had real sex, but as a man, because I'll never br a real woman ;(
- real woman :3
You can be if it's what you want!