Spyke

hah, this one is funny!

Also, echoing @[email protected]'s comment below (unfortunately you can't sticky comments on lemmy): comments that express hate towards any group are a violation of instance guidelines. BE NICE.

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lemmy.ml

This happens when transphobes forgets that trans men exists lol.

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I know three.

In fact, come to think of it, I only know two trans women, so I know more trans men than trans women.

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lemmy.world

Mod here. Just want to openly and unequivocally state... I will remove your comment if you're transphobic. I will refer to trans people to let me know if you are being transphobic. I will ban you if you make an egregiously off colour comment. and I will take pleasure in doing this. Fuck your transphobic bullshit, go somewhere else. Nobody wants you here.

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lemmy.world

Thanks for everything you do to keep this community safe. I know it can't be easy.

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Imotalireply
lemmy.world

idk, I just got to yeet like at least a handful of transphobes into oblivion so.... was pretty fun.

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Fucking A right. n

You are amazing, brave people and deserve a place in society where you are loved . M

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Imotalireply
lemmy.world

Frankly, I don't care what you think of it. Transphobia is not allowed. This isn't a democracy. It's pretty simple: don't be an asshole.

Every comment removed violates the civility rules of this instance. Which reads thus (emphasis mine):

Do not engage in name calling, ad hominem attacks, or any other uncivil behaviour. Criticize ideas, never people.

IOW: Be transphobic and be prepared for me to iron fist the vagueness of those words. It's pretty easy not to be an asshole.

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Derproidreply
lemm.ee

Just to play devils advocate, wouldn't that mean it's okay to criticize the idea of transgenderism if you don't criticize the people who are transgender (although not really sure if that's even possible)?

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Imotalireply
lemmy.world

Yes. If you could prove transgenderism exists. See because you attach an -ism to it you are (in English) saying "the ideology of transgender individuals" which is "we exist" which is not an ideology. It is a fact. You can disagree with facts all you want but it doesn't make you smart.or intellectual.... it makes you wrong.

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"The idea of being transgender" it's not an idea anymore than you think about being cisgender. It's a false dichotomy created by cisgender people who fail to understand the issue or fall victim to the "gay agenda" rhetoric of right wing media.

A better way to phrase it is no trans person thinks of themselves as trans. A trans woman thinks of herself as a woman. A trans man thinks of himself as a man. So there's no "idea" of "being transgender" unless you're a cis person who thinks they know what they're talking about.

It's like the phrase "differently abled" only able bodied people think like that.

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That would be like trying to criticize blackness without criticizing black people, it's not possible.

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Lorium_Oreply
lemm.ee

“Criticize ideas, never people.” Guess I can’t criticize serial killers- nevermind

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That's the thing about choosing an instance, it's his house, his rules. At least with Lemmy it's like you can move out to the next building, Reddit is like living in jail nowhere left to move.

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Pokethatreply
lemm.ee

Bruh, just do your job/hobby. Mods acting high and mighty is a big part of what made reddit so toxic.

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This is my job: to make perfectly clear what is and isn't allowed. In no uncertain terms I will make sure this place is as free from transphobia as possible.

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gunnmreply
monero.town

The good thing about Lemmy you can move to another instance with free speech.

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Imotalireply
lemmy.world

This is free speech. They get to say what they please. They are not free from the consequences of those words however. I, as a private citizen and not a governmental actor, can censor them.

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gunnmreply
monero.town

I disagree, free speech means the right to express any opinions and ideas without censorship or restraint even if you find them offensive.

You said you will remove any comment that is transphobic and ban if "you make an egregiously off colour comment".

That is not free speech, and it's ok. Your instance, your rules.

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Free speech is about the government not being able to restrict your speech. Guess what? Lemmy isn't the government.

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Imotalireply
lemmy.world

They can say what they want without restraint or restriction. They are not free from the consequences of their words.

They can say what they like. We can ban them if we don't like it. That's how free speech works in a consequentialist society (modern Western society is a synthesis of consequentialism and contractualism).

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That's literally not free speech. If I say I like to eat broccoli every day and that people should try it for health reasons and you're some kind of carnivore mod and it tickles you the wrong way and you block me for it... That's censorship and the opposite of free speech.

You're telling me that you control the narrative. Now there's nuance to censorship for sure, but you're telling me that if you don't like what I say I'm out. I have to type within the confines of the bubble of what isn't too uncomfortable for you.

I say let the downvotes do the talking. If I go on the electric vehicles instance talking about how (non-ironocally) I love to roll coal and how that's what's keeping me from trying EVs, I expect to be downvoted into the shadow realm. And that's ok. What I'm not ok with is a mod assuming that my voice sucks and that I don't deserve to be heard. Maybe some smart lemmier(?) will point out some doodad that makes a brrr noise and shoots out some harmless mist or something.

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lemmy.world

I mean... it's supposed to be a 'beauty contest' so why shouldn't they compete?

Not that I don't think the entire concept of a competition over beauty is stupid, but they exist, so why not just see who wins?

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Neve8028reply
lemm.ee

It's funny because the original trans sports bans were justified by saying that they would have an unfair advantage. This beauty pageant ban is just transphobes saying that trans women are unfairly attractive lmfao.

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Zorquereply
kbin.social

What if I have a fabulous dick, but the rest of me is blah?

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Zorque is envied by every gent,

’Cause it’s fab when he pitches a tent

Every saint and sinner

Can each be a winner

When his dick’s in the beauty pageant

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Zorquereply
kbin.social

The last time I tried that the police were called.

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That depends on what you're allowed to wear for the swimsuit section.

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Sivarreply
lemmy.world

These contests are full of ideology, so a trans person has a significant advantage over the others. There aren’t enough heartwarming and sob stories in the world to compensate for that.

On the other hand, I don’t really care if those kind of competitions are unfair. If they help trans people convey a message, that’s probably the best thing that can come out of them.

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Trans men pretending to be women aren't women, they're men.

That's what you meant, right?

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lemmy.dbzer0.com

You’re right; men pretending to be women are drag queens, not women, trans or otherwise.

Trans women are women, though.

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So you check people's genes before you decide on what pronoun to use?

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Theres one miss thats only for women and its you missing your shot every time.

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slrpnk.net

Biological sex is just a made up thing and there are no definitions that actually work universally for every human. Thats actually the scientific truth.

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You should stop refering to middle school biology and check out university biology. And maybe also stop refering to outdated knowledge that's been disproven.

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There are about as much intersexuated humans as they are redheads.

Lots of species only have "1 sex" since they reproduce asexually (including some neat lizards).

Fungi went a bit overboards and you'd lack fingers to count most of them.

It's like imaginary numbers, stuff is always a little more complicated than you were taught in middle school :)

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Except for the hundreds of millions of species of lifeforms for which male and female biological sex is not part of their biology. But what do PhDs know about biology? they just scientifically study the core tenets of life.

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You are so objectively wrong.... and fortunately for me: I don't have to listen to you, and will now use that authority to make others not have to listen to you for you violated the civility rule of the instance!

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Ok, since you're the expert, what defines gender?

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lemmy.world

I think it would have been fair to have a rule saying "no surgical modifications"... because doing things like facelift, nose-job, breast/buttox implants, cheek lifts, wrinkle removal, etc, are obviously unfair advantages (in a beauty contest) for those who have the money pay for it; and having a generic blanket rule like that would have accomplished the same thing they were trying to accomplish without being so blatantly transphobic... so a rule like what they have only proves that they are both despicable AND dumb. The entire notion of beauty pageants is outdated and stupid if you ask me.

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dustyDatareply
lemmy.world

Lol, you implement that and basically all beauty pageants stop existing. Which would be a good thing, mind you. But I've never met a pageant contestant in my life that isn't … let's say … heavily enhanced by medical procedures.

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lemmy.world

I think it would have been fair to have a rule saying “no surgical modifications”…

How are you intending to prove that that? Only the bad surgery makes itself obvious.

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krayjreply
lemmy.world

Like any kind of contest, finding rules violations is hard and not foolproof. It's like sports that forbid using steroids - competitors do regularly take those substances while training, then quit taking them for competition and go uncaught. Competitors who are discovered later to have been violating rules are stripped of titles.

That said, I don't think it's a very controversial concept that a beauty pageant shouldn't be a contest about who could afford the best surgeons. Well - as I said earlier I think beauty pageants are absurd to begin with, but if they have to exist I don't think it should be a contest between surgeons.

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Deucesreply
lemmy.world

Though I would watch one that was a contest between surgeons. I imagine it'd start pretty tame, but the first time a girl with cat ears wins, were only like 5 years from the really crazy shit

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lemmy.world

They are absurd and it'll probably be a good thing when we've got past their existence. But the problem here is that proving surgery is essentially impossible. It's quite unlike drugs that you can test for. Maybe implants you could test for but that's just one thing, and I'm not sure that beauty pageants even have the kind of budget required for advanced tests.

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Syrcreply
lemmy.world

One of the contest’s rules says you can’t participate if you willingly had a nude photo took in your lifetime. Good luck proving that (not even considering how it’s a honeypot for revenge porn to surface)

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What, if I might ask? I’ve always found the requirements just a hodgepodge of random stuff with no coherent purpose whatsoever.

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SamboTreply
lemm.ee

Does saline glow under a blacklight?

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lemmy.world

On the one hand, that might work. On the other hand, who gives a fuck about the rules in a contest with arbitrary standards?

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lemmy.world

What is this word salad? Could you rephrase using your own words, please, instead of parroting something you think you heard?

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lemmy.world

Friend, I'm going to try to be gentle, and honest, and I hope you will listen with an open heart and mind.

I came out to myself, and my wife and kids about a week ago. I was born with the mind, the spirit, the personally, the essence, whatever, of a woman 37 years ago. I have been living as a man, conforming to society's rules for 37 years. It took me four days, two hours at a time, to feel 40% of the way you do, just by waking up.

Note: I don't know what gender you are. I don't actually give a flying fuck. The point is, if you want to go sit in a sauna with your peers, you can. I can't. All the normal experiences you had, weather you was born as a girl, and was annoyed that your mom made you sit still so she could fix your hair, or as a boy playing catch with your dad or working on the family car, you got that. You got to go to prom wearing what you want. Hell, you can go take a shit at the mall without people giving you dirty looks.

I can't.

Trans people don't want to insert themselves anywhere. Society wants to exclude them from everywhere. It may seem pointless that it's just some beauty pageant, but imagine you have this beautiful car you built, by hand. You even had to so much custom shaping and fabrication, but goddamn is she pretty. Let's take her to a car show, shall we? Wait... You can't show off the car you've literally spent years on? After all this time, after you spent all this money, all this time, hiding away. You are scared. This isn't a mass manufactured car, what if you get made fun of? It's fine, it still has the shape of a car, and it's so pretty, and you are so proud!

What.. it isn't allowed? It is a gorgeous car though.. They say it isn't actually a car, just a bunch of shit someone slapped together. You can't just take a Ford, strip it down to it's frame, rebuild it peice by peice, and still call it a car. You cheated, and it's wrong. Hell, for good measure, they tell you you can't even register to drive it. It now sits in your garage. Collecting dust.

If you don't understand my allegory, you are you, the car is your true sense of self, your "transgenderism" if you must call it that, the car show was gonna be the pageant but I spaced out and it became representative of society as a whole for a minute....

You are absolutely right that we want to be accepted. You're accepted. Why can't I be like you? Why do I have to be scared my step brother is going to beat the shit out of me just because I have to take a piss? You can go to the store and just... Grab a gallon of milk without having to worry about some bigot stalking you and hurting you just because you wore yoga pants because you think you have a nice ass. I'm nervous to step into my own backyard to have a cigarette without an entire man-costume on. You can literally put on whatever the hell you want, step outside, and and shout at the top of your lungs "I'm here!" And nobody will bat an eye.

If I put on whatever I wanted, stepped outside, and met you for the first time, pleasant as can be, your preconceived notions would be that I'm some weird bundle-of-sticks-word that need to go inside and has no place in society.

TL;DR: Trans people are people too

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Since that lima bean didn't want to read what you wrote, I just wanna say I really appreciate it and you.

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Okay, I'll make it simple since your reading comprehension leaves something to be desired: your bias is keeping you from allowing people to be themselves. The fact you don't see a problem with an entire subsect of people being excluded from an event shows that you are a disgusting person that shouldn't be allowed in public.

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Yet you feel the need to tell them how they should act?

If they wish to participate, it's their right to attempt to join. I just think it's wonderful that the pagents clear policy of hate is backfiring so publicly.

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Is that it that “activists want to insert themselves and their cause into every possible area of society“ or is it maybe that trans people are actual living breathing humans who are a part of every possible area of society, and they have the right to exist and live their lives in peace, same as you?

The only people in the story that are “forcing” anyone are the bigots who are actively attempting to ban trans people from competing, but they’re doing it poorly. Not surprising, since most bigots lack critical thinking skills.

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Exatronreply
lemmy.world

It'd help if you weren't spewing bigoted nonsense.

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Going through cosmetic surgeries in a contest that values cosmetic aspects is all but meaningless

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So, no contestants who have had their wisdom teeth removed? No one allowed who has had a C-section? No cancer patients who have had biopsies done?

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lemmy.world

Elia Bonci, who also spoke to la Repubblica, said: “I took courage, used my deadname and signed up for Miss Italy because fighting transphobia is intersectional and even though I’m not a trans woman, I’ve decided to fight for their rights.”

much respect to all that followed!

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maynarkhreply
feddit.nl

They are trans men, who the organizers consider women as opposed to the trans women who can't compete because they consider them men.

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PeiPei1reply
lemmy.world

I'll summarize:

  • The contest organizers don't accept trans women (AKA assigned male at birth, transitioned to female)

  • This means that they are being transphobic, they aren't treating trans women as women.

  • The person in the article is the opposite, assigned female at birth and transitioned to male. AKA a trans man.

  • This person is considered a woman by the beauty contest despite identifying as male.

  • He entered the beauty contest as a form of protest and to bring attention to the blatant transphobia.

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Lorium_Oreply
lemm.ee

“Transphobia” idk I just think they don’t want certain ideologies in their shows. Makes sense to me but you guys will probably start spamming slurs at me if I keep speaking so…

Edit: I agree the rules are dumb and contradictory but calling it transphobia is just hilarious to me

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So like, according to the organizers, if they were born with a penis, it doesn't matter if they transitioned, they are considered men.

This trans man (a person born with a vagina who transitioned ) is entering the contest, because if trans women are considered men, trans men are considered women.

So this dude is entering a "female" beauty contest to show how dumb the rules are. He is allowed to do so because said dumb rules make him a woman in the eyes of the organization.

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Think the others were missing the point - they are trans men. Their dead name is their dead female name.

The ruling was to prevent trans women from competing, so while they can't stand for trans women, they'll stand for all trans.

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I went to high school with a Ruth. She decided to change her name to Elizabeth when she went to college. She still goes by Elizabeth. Is she mentally ill because she doesn't want anyone to call her Ruth?

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For context, Miss Italia is no longer broadcasted on important tv channels and almost no one watches or care about who wins now. Years ago (10?) it was a big thing and winners would make commercials and do movies/series and be remembered for life. But it’s too an old school concept now

Anyway, I love this turn of events

Source: Italian

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lemmy.world

I just googled it, apparently it might come back to the first national tv channel for 2023, we'll see, anyway it was streamed on the official website before that and for the last 4 years

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lemmy.world

Will they have the power to reject candidates? Maybe I'm naive to think they'll have the trans men compete too but I wanna see how it'll play out.

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lemmy.world

I think they totally can reject who they want... usually competitors are the winners of local beauty contest, so there's a lot of ways to be excluded before even reaching the last decision stage. But not sure, I never really cared for it

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lemmy.world

Imagine a buff, bearded person that identifies as male wins in a contest that measures female beauty

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lemmy.world

I know right? It'll finally make pagents worth watching.

We should also get drag queen bodybuilding competitions. If everything is going to be reality TV for a while (support the strike, by the way) I'd at least want them to be entertaining.

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lemmy.world

I would love to see drag queen strong person competitions. Imagine log rolling in heels and an evening gown?

Ooh, or maybe like that next ninja whatever show. I can't remember what it's called. The one with all the crazy acrobatics and stuff. Imagine having to do that obstacle course where you hang from the bar and "jump" while holding the bar to the next slot, but you have to sing And I Am Telling You while you do it!

American TV could get real fucking good, real fucking fast.

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Fubar91reply
lemmy.world

Holy crapoli, I've tried other peoples heels briefly a few times. I have no idea how people even walk in them let alone log roll in them! That sounds like some great entertainment tbh.

Or imagine one of those lumberjack competitions where they scale the trees and top them.

This is the kind of television we need!

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Imagine them having to apply makeup while running chainsaws? It'd put japanese games shows to shame!

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He has to come out in slacks, his special talent should be mowing the lawn. Tuxedo print t shirt for evening gown. REPRESENT!

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lemmy.world

While I don't like the concept of pagents in general, I would like to think that my own standards are pretty good, and I also think you should leave.

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lingh0ereply
lemmy.film

Neither did your mom. She just let some hobo pump and dump her, and now you're walking around this planet spreading your shitheel ignorance.

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lemmy.world

YES. This is EXACTLY what I’ve been saying!!! Like honestly, as a cis woman from Italy I’m so embarrassed by this nonsense. Like, cutting trans women out of the competition at this moment just means people are recognizing that trans women are “unfairly” more good looking than cis women. Which, personally, is true in my case but you don’t see me bitching about it. Fuck yeah trans dudes, trans chicks and non-binary buddies.

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lemmy.world

Wait what? I get why someone would forbid trans women from participating in female sports events, but why TF can't they go to beauty contests?

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Because excluding trans women from sports was never actually about fairness. It's about normalizing excluding trans people from aspects of public life.

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axolittlreply
lemmy.world

It's wrong to ban trans women from women's sports, because trans women are women.

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lemmy.world

But they have the muscles of a male and usually beat all women-since-birth in competitions.

Yeah, Ik I'm gonna get downvoted to oblivion and I'm gonna get called TERF but that's the reason it's controversial in the first place

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Jonnareply
lemmy.world

Given a long enough time on the right hormones, and most (not all) of that advantage disappears. "While absolute lean mass remains higher in trans women, relative percentage lean mass and fat mass (and muscle strength corrected for lean mass), hemoglobin, and VO2 peak corrected for weight was no different to cisgender women. After 2 years of GAHT, no advantage was observed for physical performance measured by running time or in trans women. By 4 years, there was no advantage in sit-ups. While push-up performance declined in trans women, a statistical advantage remained relative to cisgender women."

There's also a large band of ability within people. Michael Phelps has a genetic advantage, but his accomplishments are still celebrated.

https://academic.oup.com/jcem/advance-article/doi/10.1210/clinem/dgad414/7223439?login=false

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It's rare that I see someone type a comment that mentions everything I want to say. You rock!

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Here is my question though, and if you have any info I'd love to see it. Do performance enhancing drugs interact in men and women the same way? I ask since not all enhancing drugs are banned.

If yes, how do these interact with tans people? Would a trans woman be able to get more positive effects from the drugs?

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seukarireply
lemmy.world

I'm trans and I actually agree with you. I don't know the solution to make things fair, but I wouldn't want to use a strong biological advantage over someone else.

I see it like if I'd been born with some identifiable and categorised physical advantage then I shouldn't be competing against people without that advantage.

It's debatable how big the difference is, however, and whether it's a gap easily closed or not. My thoughts are that there could be an open category where anyone could compete on the understanding that there may be severe biological differences. There's no easy solution :(

Edit: thinking about it, sporting competitions are more sex-catagorised than gender-categorised. I don't think someone identifying as female with no physical/medical alterations from a biological male form should compete with biological females and I don't think that should be controversial since the gender isn't what people care about there. It's the physical characteristics. In some sports that might provide an advantage, in some a disadvantage, but I do this it's important to discuss! At that point, however, you'd be better ignoring gender and sex entirely and only categorising sports like 'feather weight' or 'strong muscular development' or something

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I think this is where it makes sense to go. Like wrestling, right? Just make every sport competition divided on gender if it’s that important, and then divided on the basis of body mass. Although frankly I think that would make every sport ten times more boring than it needs to be. Like smaller athletes usually need to figure out a way to still compete, and that’s where part of the fun is, both in competing and watching. If an athlete feels disadvantaged, they’re just lazy and not training well or enough.

Then again, I do think sports should be less owned by massive corporations and media companies, and move more to their dimension of play, admiration for each other and self-improvement. Not saying sports shouldn’t be jobs and not have money go in and out, but they should center that dimension a lot less.

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I mean... some cis women are born thicker and taller than others which might be an advantage over other women, biologically. Yet, nobody disqualifies those women from competing. It just means everyone else has to be twice as competitive and work around their physical limits. Sports are largely about overcoming one’s performance limits. Like, a shorter basketball player can still play basketball and be really good at it, it’s all about how they train, what they focus on and how they play. And it’s about how good they are at dealing with the space around them and controlling their body. This was always the case, always in the history of sports. Being a stronger athlete was never a problem before, and now suddenly it is? It doesn’t make any sense, and it’s just an excuse for bad athletes who don’t wanna git gud to demand special treatment. I’m speaking as a cis woman who’s bigger than most other women around me. Not my fault that I can accidentally throw other chicks to the bleachers without even being aware of them, and I’m still a woman no matter how other people see me. So yeah, this whole discourse affects me too, because trans people being targeted also targets any person who was born intersex or just different.

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lemmy.world

What’s your idea of what a trans woman’s body looks like, exactly? Like, do you think a trans woman is just “a man in a dress”? Because that’s just straight up inaccurate in every way. HRT changes trans people’s bodies and how those bodies work. That’s why we say “trans women are women and trans men are men”. Like, would you think making someone with the body of Buck Angel compete in women’s competitions would be fair? Google Buck Angel, look at him and then come back at me.

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lemmy.world

Except they do. Literally look at any picture of a trans woman before and after transitioning. Their bodies literally change in every sense.

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lemmy.world

Ok, hold on, why would you forbid trans women from competing? Because of “unfair advantages”? First off, trans women who completed their transition don’t have a male body. They have a female body. And some athletes are naturally better at some sports than others. Like, shorter basketball players are naturally disadvantaged at basket, which is why they need to train twice as hard as taller players or switch to another sport. Also, every whiny white woman complaining about trans women doing better than them always forgets to mention the athletes winning are still the cis ones, which destroys the idea that trans women have an advantage.

The point never held up either in sports nor anywhere else. And it was never about sports anyway.

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seukarireply
lemmy.world

From experience, female clothes aren't proportioned to fit trans women as well as cis women. While in your other comment you make a good point about some cis women also being outside the 'conventional' physical expectations for women in western society, that doesn't also mean that trans people don't face the same issues. We talk about these problems from a trans perspective because trans people are often targeted with legislation and rules from people who don't understand, and are blocked from being treated as their preferred gender. A bulky cis woman might share physical characteristics with a trans woman, but their existence is also significantly less opposed.

Edit: to my first point there are a number of biological size/proportion differences between cis men and cis women that can be seen here: https://ehs.oregonstate.edu/sites/ehs.oregonstate.edu/files/pdf/ergo/ergonomicsanddesignreferenceguidewhitepaper.pdf

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Oh yeah, for sure, I’m not saying gnc cis woman face the same amount of oppression as trans women. What I’m saying is, by shoving people into very restrictive, hyper-specific boxes, we end up excluding people who by definition shouldn’t be excluded. Like the cis athlete who was excluded from competing because she naturally produces more testosterone than the others. While being cis, again. Or like, all the cis gnc women who get attacked or murdered because transphobes think they’re trans when they’re not.

My point is, women aren’t all the same. Also, women who are naturally prone to packing muscles can and sometimes do go toe to toe with men in terms of height and strength. But they’re still cis women, and should compete as cis women.

But all of this is pointless anyway: this is a BEAUTY contest, and excluding trans women in this historical period is basically like saying trans women have “unfair advantages in the field of beauty” which I mean, could be, but it’s very much a self-report. There’s also the objection that “trans women do surgeries to look the way they look” which yeah, true, but cis women who participate in Miss Italia also very much do get surgery to look the way they look. Matter of fact, there have been multiple scandals about Miss Italy winners having gone through plastic surgery to win. So I mean, everything goes.

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lemmy.world

Absolute chads. I'm curious what kind of response this is going to get.

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"You're not beautiful enough for a contest about female beauty with your male presentation, therefore we reject your application"

Cold and passive-agressive, just like an actual organisation would answer

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This is fantastic, while having them obviously in drag is delicious, it would be even more stark if some of them present as traditional male too and really bring the point home.

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feddit.ch

Wait, they have to tell the organizers such sensible details?

Are they required to be virgins too?

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lemmy.world

That's cool, except if only certain people with certain body configurations have the uncontrolled freedom to be themselves, that's still a problem.

Or, as long as people who do not identify with the body they were given are ostricized, there are problems. As long as there are people who are groped because their body is different, lynched because their skin is different, or kept out of certain rooms just because of growths on their bodies they have no control over, there are problems.

Just because you remove a label doesn't mean there isnt a problem any more.

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Ajenreply
sh.itjust.works

In that case, is "patriarchy" the right label? Most men (racial minorities, non-cis, etc) face systematic oppression, so it doesn't seem like gender is the problem. Seems like oppression follows class lines, not gender, race, orientation, etc.

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lemmy.world

Maybe Kyriarchy works better for you? It describes a multi layered and interactive web of stacked series of oppressive factors that encompasses race, class, gender, sexual orientation, ablism issues etc.

Though under the definitions of patriarchy men are still oppressed. Young men and the poor are held in sway and looked at as disposable pawns and labor by the patriarchs - powerful men in the lead positions, like male heads of the family, but in this instance the 'family' is government, military, businesses and corperations, guilds, unions and bosses. The the buy in for those men at the bottom is that even a lowly man gets to feel like they are better at least than women. The act of being a woman is an automatic sort of failure state. Hence why men behaving in a feminine fashion are a threat. It subverts the hierarchy when someone willing chooses to behave as "lesser" of their own volition and seem happier for it.

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Ajenreply
sh.itjust.works

The the buy in for those men at the bottom is that even a lowly man gets to feel like they are better at least than women.

This hasn't been my experience, most authorities in my life have been women (teachers, bosses, etc). Even upper leadership in the company I currently work for has slightly more women than men. Obviously not everyone has the same experience, but I don't think the picture you tried to paint is a universal truth.

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I don't think it is a universal truth and never stated as such, particularly since we have a solid century of advocacy and protest dismantling these ideas. It's more that the original idea of "patriarchy"(which is a single concept within the body of feminism as socio-political theory and feminism is not a monolith ) isn't usually what people think. It doesn't mean men overall are the oneswho benefit but rather hierarchical established powers which are still legacy holdings of male dominated structures.

If you are in a space that is female dominated that still is not the overall norm. If you look at the most powerful business empires in the world only 1 in 10 is lead by a female CEO. E

It doesn't even have to be at the top.

For example : In my industry of film for instance the majority of departments are male dominated and even some of the ones that aren't hostile to women can have invisible greased poles which keep women at the bottom. It can be simple as bosses hiring on their friends onto crews. If their all male beer and pretzels buddies are their first four staff picks and a crew is only seven people then that can leave less than half the open spaces that are filled by merit. Even if the boss's motives aren't overtly sexist their lack of comfort being around women socially and favoring people they feel they relate to with personalities they enjoy because of similarity of life experience can mean that a smaller share of options are available to the unfavored group. The less of a group is represented the less they self advocate as well because they cannot build easy consensus. This means the merit hires are also more vulnerable to being replaced if they speak up or the work pool narrows where the nepotistic ones have security so any dip in the industry can hit those merit groups that much harder.

Fighting patriarchy often requires being conscious of how your personal choices, which are often by no means evil, are potentially narrowing the open spaces actually available to people who do not closely resemble yourself as a man.

It's not to say that women placed in positions of authority won't also potentially recreate these structures if they are uncomfortable with the company of men... But examples of Matriarchies are more fragile. Historically they have a habit of collapsing because one feature of patriarchy that matriarchy does not often have is historically patriarchy seeks to physically or socially isolate women from the public sphere and if they cannot do that in their own society they go off an subjugate and enslave women outside of their culture by force. Most Matriarch societies value men for their physical labor over their reproductive qualities (because lineages are always secure) which means that social isolation is simply not on the table whereas patriarchy of antiquity values secluding women to ensure a reproductive lineage. If a group cannot gather in numbers they cannot organize or resist hence why a lot of societies that our modern society is based off of basically kept their women as pets confined to the domestic sphere and told that they as a group were simply expressing a different form of excellence.

Women's equality is precarious. History is rife with examples of them rising in autonomy before men slamed them back down the into forced servitude once again and re solidifying their dominance over the social sphere.

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Oppression follows ALL those lines. Oppression and privilege are intersections. That’s why a woman can be black but also be rich and live a better life than a dude who’s poor.

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lemmy.world

I don't care if you call it The Wibbly Fuck Problem. Stop worrying about what it's called and just do something about it. Damn. Everyone always worry about the unimportant shit.

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What are you doing to stop the ruling class from oppressing the rest of us? Seems like you're just posting on Lemmy, same as me.

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jocanibreply
lemmy.world

Something being a social construct does not mean it has no real world effects. That's kind of the point of identifying it as a social construct. HTH

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It's still a social construct if it's based on facts. Social construct doesn't mean fake, it means we gave it a name and meaning.

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jocanibreply
lemmy.world

So you do think there is a patriarchy? And you think it is based on fact, not the social construction of gender?

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jocanibreply
lemmy.world

So, you think you live in a society where discrimination based on sex does not exist.

Where is that, and what is your evidence for your claim?

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Toneswirlyreply
lemmy.world

"Patriarchy." You use the word but you dont know what it means. We're not talking about heads of households, we're talking about the halls of power; which are controlled by cis men. Gender Equality advocates are not making claims that "men don't exist," just that gender its a highly varied spectrum. My guess is you already know this, and willfully ignore nuance so you can push a counter ideological stance. That makes you a lame-o. Sorry.

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lemmy.world

"It's worse somewhere else so the problem doesn't exist" has always been a shit argument and you know it.

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No, there still is. Trans men suffer from all of the same patriarchal oppression that cis men suffer from. The loneliness, the isolation, the expectation that they have no emotion. If you somehow watch trans people TikTok, The men's biggest complaint is that they now have no friends.

So yes, the patriarchy exists even if gender is a construct. Because one of those constructed genders oppresses the others, and themselves.

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vladreply
lemmy.sdf.org

And from what I'm being told by the internet, men make the best women.

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This is a pretty awesome way to protest and show solidarity. These trans men are ballsy as fuck and I salute them.

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I'd be more interested in protesting the fact that it's now legal to grope women in Italy.

The landmark decision involved a school janitor who jammed his hand into a 17 year old girl's panties.

Pick the hill you want to die on.

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lemmy.world

So I thought I would look at the modlog in this thread

A comment was removed starting with

Not really seeing [...]

by @[email protected]

Heavily downvoted sure, but what rule is it breaking?

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Imotalireply
lemmy.world

They were banned for transphobia. Finish that comment. Don't cherry pick their words. Transphobia and bigotry are against the rules here. As a cis person, I don't get to decide what is transphobic; trans people do.

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Imhotepreply
lemmy.world

I don't think they got banned? not sure

I didn't post the whole comment precisely because it got removed by a mod.

In my view, the moderation of a forum should be based on rules, not on individual's judgements.

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I banned them. And transphobia is against the rules of this entire instance (not just this community).

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Pykenikereply
lemmy.ml

If we can tell the differences between woman, why do different rules apply depending if youre born woman or not?

Besides having an opinion about something that doesnt affect you, seems quite reasonable is it not?

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Imotalireply
lemmy.world

Trans women were born a woman. I'm not trans so I don't get to decide what is or isn't transphobia just like I don't get to decide what's racist towards black people because I'm not black. I don't get a vote because it doesn't affect me.

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Imotalireply
lemmy.world

Prove they're genetically not a female. You can't without genomic testing. And forcibly testing for so many people (literally everyone who claims to be a woman) is both unethical no matter the reasoning and logistically impossible.

Therefore you can't prove they aren't a woman.

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Yes it does. Your position requires you be able to prove definitively they are "not biologically women"

If you cannot your entire argument falls apart. That's unknowable. You cannot know they are biologically women so using that term is just a smokescreen for bigotry.... and shows you lack an understanding of human sexing (which is objectively not a binary)

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lemmy.world

Imotali got it right, that is exactly how it works :) most people who are transgender know that they are transgender before they know the meaning of the word "transgender". It also looks like you're confusing two terms that sound a lot alike but mean two different things.

What you're calling "biological sexuality" is really just called "sex" or "sexual identity". It's concerned primarily with categorizing a person's physiology into one of two groups based on the average of several traits, with lots of variance possible between individual members of those groups. This is what TERFs incorrectly call being a "biological man or woman". Note that it has nothing to do with presentation, performance, speech, and other non-physiological traits--those all relate to gender, not sex.

"Sexual identity" refers to the intersection of sex, gender identity, gender roles, and sexual orientation.

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Well, I'm glad you made this comment, poorly phrased as it is. I went back and double-checked the scientific definitions of the words I used, and I included a word as a synonym where it actually is not a synonym. I've gone back and fixed my comment to avoid spreading misinformation.

Now to answer your accusation and your question, in that order:

First, the accusation that this is "my position" and a "claim"-- that is not the case. This is the established consensus of the scientific and medical communities, and I am just repeating what they said. If you have a problem with that, go to your local hospital and argue with a doctor or something.

Now, for your question-- I didn't say anything resembling that at all. I corrected their terminology from "biological sexuality" to just "sex" because that's literally what biologists call it--sex. Then I made the points that sex is based on lots of traits, not just the one, and that there is a lot of variance in what we call "male" and "female". That doesn't deny the existence of sex, all it does is say that biology mostly operates in spectrums, not binary systems.

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Fionareply
feddit.de

most people who are transgender know that they are transgender before they know the meaning of the word “transgender”

Sorry, but I do take issue with that assessment. Societal pressure is one hell of a drug at creating denial and it can take a very long time before you are able to admit to yourself what you are (There is a reason why the term “egg” is thrown around so much these days). As a trans-woman who has only recently had a partial outing (though now with the goal to go through with it all the way) and still struggles with how much my gender-dysphoria fluctuates between unbearable and non-existent you are essentially telling me, that I’m an imposter because it took me 10+ years since I met the first trans-women to finally come to terms with myself.

Also, when I’m already at it, not to you but as a big fuck-you to any transphobes who may read this: I guess I owe you pieces of human garbage some thanks, because all your hate-speech gave rise to so much awareness and support from people who I considered respectable in the first place that I felt a lot more comfortable to come out as who I am, for most people around me had made pro-trans comments at one point or another.

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That's why I used the word "most" :) I don't want to invalidate anyone's personal lived experience.

And I'm not saying that people have the full picture the second they're born, just that once someone has that egg-cracking moment and looks back at the rest of their life suddenly, in hindsight, lots of mannerisms and desires and personality quirks make a lot more sense. That's how I felt when I realized I was nonbinary-- I always felt the way I always felt, but I only recently decided to attribute the label of "nonbinary" to those feelings

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You aren't the judge of when someone is or isn't a woman, though. The only person whose opinion matters in that case is the woman herself.

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lemmy.world

I think the issue is that there is no such thing as a "biological woman". Manhood/womanhood is an issue of gender, not sex, and gender is something that we collectively made up whose meaning varies from person to person and from culture to culture. The only person who is capable of saying "Person McFaceface is/is not a woman" is Person McFaceface.

Even if we were to interpret their comment to mean "sex", that isn't a simple binary yes/no kind of question. There is no single trait that determines maleness or femaleness, and lots of people have traits indicative of both sexes or of neither sex (or they were born that way then surgically altered shortly after birth), and sometimes those traits are so hidden and so internal that the person themself doesn't know about it.

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Imhotepreply
lemmy.world

But do you think it deserved to be removed? You could have answered that directly to the commenter

IMO, this is too strict.

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lemmy.world

Yes, I do. This is a space where trans rights and trans people are respected. That means that their existence is accepted as fact, not debated in the comment section.

There are numerous places and resources available for that person to educate themself, if they had chosen to do so before commenting. Instead, they chose to comment from a place of ignorance. We have no obligation to offer them that education here.

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if other people were forced to treat my every feeling with rubber gloves, I wouldn’t feel respected

It's a good thing that this isn't what's happening, then :) if people were treating trans people's every feeling with rubber gloves, then we wouldn't be four times as likely as a cisgender person to be the victim of a violent crime

We don't want the rubber glove treatment. All we want is to have the same right to bodily autonomy as straight white American men do-- free to go where we feel comfortable AND comfortable in our own skin wherever we go, with no one trying to legislate away our mastership over our own bodies.

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Imotalireply
lemmy.world

I'm just enforcing the rules of this instance. Specifically hate towards any specific group (which includes rhetoric designed to oppress) is against the rules.

Sorry, not sorry. In fact, I took great joy in removing the transphobes from this comment section. I only removed egregious errors.

In a way you could say I'm maliciously complying with the instance rules.

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Imhotepreply
lemmy.world

I got that yesterday, why the encore?

use that tiny amount of power you say you enjoy so much and ban me. This good people circlejerk is of no interest

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You've not said anything rule breaking, let alone transphobic enough to be banned. Saying unpopular things will not get you banned/comment removed.

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lemmy.world

Is being a terrible person with bad takes against the rules? I haven't checked.

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lemmy.world

Thee has't did challenge the hive mind, anon prepareth to receiveth downvot'd to oblivion

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I actually think a lot of people are confused because they didn't read the article or know what community they're in, so I'll take the downvotes in stride.

Trans people are people too no matter which arrow you hit.

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It eould be a Interesting Idea to make a Trans-Fenake Fashion Show as Protest.

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What is protest part? Not sure it is malicious compliance either because contestant was not rebirthed as woman. Not that it's possible unless you are buddhist.

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Would they win in a contest that has female beauty parameters tho? It's like judging an M based on how similar it looks to an F

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It's not about winning, it's about sending a message. The message being that trans women shouldn't have any problem competing with cis women if the judges feel that trans men will have a problem competing with cis women. I hope that make sense to read.

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Ok sure. But it's not really an effective protest as they're fulfilling the requirement to enter the competition. Because the competition is steered by judges they will simply eliminate the trans men in the first round.

The rule is there to make sure the judges are not sexually aroused when they see a trans woman.

A greater means of protest would be if the non-trans competitors all quit the pageant. But their look is their only talent, so they won't.

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Has anyone ever seen a "woman from birth"? Like a whole-ass adult woman popping out of somebody not appreciably larger than her? Ready for a beauty pageant at zero minutes old?

Completely independent of gender, people should know that "women" are adults and have zero overlap with "children" or especially "newborn infants".

Or is this a bad translation from the Italian?

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I'm sure that the pageant organizers specifically wanted trans men to join /s

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Taleyareply
aussie.zone

Ikr, vote for bigoted idiots, get idiotic, bigoted policies

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lemmy.ml

I’m pretty sure there’s neither pastors nor priests involved, so you don’t have to worry about degenerates.

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I hereby denounce all priests and pastors on behalf of whatever group you think I represent lmao

I likewise denounce republicans, rapists, racists, and other rapscallions lol

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