I remember being young and thinking middle-aged people are staring at me because they want me /they disapprove/whatever.
Now I'm middle aged myself, I know the staring is way more likely to either be something along the lines of "ah that kid is so 90s, I never had that green colour but blue Fudge used to wash out to green like that..."
Or "have we run out of natural yoghurt, we bought that 500ml pottle last week but we had curry twice, maybe I should get some more..."
I did this once in freshman year HS. I was sitting on my friend's desk zoned out staring at a book on someone else's desk, and I came out of it when a girl said "THOSE ARE BOOBS"
Idk how long I was staring, but I was still kinda pissed because she was just standing in front of me for no discernable reason.
"OK so she must've bleached the full head then done the green side first, then the black side. Man her scalp must be itchy as fuck. What did I used to use to stop the burn? Coconut oil? Yeah that's right. Smelt like Malibu for a week or so, and had to throw out that set of pillow cases. Man that sucks, I loved those pillow cases, perfect for winter. I wonder if you can still get them?"
Morpheus: ".... and find out just how deep the rabbit hole goes." Only it's more like an interconnected maze of rabbit holes leading everywhere. I wonder if you can still get "pina colada" Malibu?
Theoretically she could part her hair with a knife and bleach the green side, wait 20 min and put the black side on with a toothbrush, then wash it and add the green as required?
There's probably fancy metal hairdressing combs that would do it, but the "prow" of a normal comb is too blunt to separate the hair perfectly. You end up with strands from the left on the right etc.
The old DIY trick is to turn a sharp-pointed knife upside down so that the blade doesn't face the scalp, and then use the point to gently part the hair. That's how you get a perfect straight parting.
I'm still wondering how the 90s entered kids garderobes again overnight. Sometimes I see a very funny xxxxxxxxwide jeans and I talk about that with my kids in the car and yes I do stare a bit with curiosity and amusement.
Fashion goes in cycles. Personally I'm just waiting for the nice wide jeans to filter down to an affordable price point and then I'm going to get some for myself.
I hate skinny jeans. They feel cloying and I'm pretty sure they promote swamp crotch.
Even non skinny jeans got tight. I have really old Dickies pants and newer ones the same size. The legs are thinner and less comfortable, I buy 2-4 sizes up so my legs can move about at work.
It sort of felt like capitalism was embracing the skinny leg trend and that's how it became so ubiquitous even outside of fashion. Same price, less fabric.
I know this Is an old post, but in the early 2000s 70's fashion came back in vogue -- a 30 years difference. And 30 years ago from today is the 90s, so it makes sense.
I think it's a result of the 40 year old crowd. They're a demographic with money and starting to get nostalgic for their childhood, so the market caters to that . Kids get exposed to it, a few trend setters decide it's cool/vintage, and it takes off from there.
Jokes on you then. I'm probably staring because I'm trying to figure out what's going on with that eye makeup, and I have no idea what that face is supposed to mean.
Yeah, if I'm staring at you, it means a) I'm thinking about what I'm cooking at home, or balancing HOR production with HOR-to-fuel conversion in Satisfactory and b) my eyes are so bad (I haven't had prescription glasses for years now) that you're a blur of colors.
I feel the eyes one. When I was a kid and showing old people how to use a computer, I used to think they were slow. Like they had to think. Now that I'm older, I'm waiting for my eyes to focus.
There is a difference between a guy staring into the void, and an older guy checking you out. I've experienced both and I don't understand how people manage to confuse the two.
One day, about 10 years ago, a guy pull out a knife to fight me in a subway station because he thought I was staring at him. Also got some nasty comments from women who thought I was looking at them when I didn't even notice their presence. Now I try to look at the floor in public in case I get lost in my mind.
Fuck that's horrible. Yeah. I made eye contact with a guy that lasted too long. We were walking towards each other. He grabbed the back of my head and pushed it down. Wasn't as scary as it sounds. Just disrespectful. I avoid eye contact too. Some people are just evil.
It is in fact really easy to tell the difference, you just hear more about the times people make the mistake because it's not noteworthy when somebody goes "that guy's just staring off into space" and is right. You also likely have a bigger emotional reaction, assuming you're a guy, to a woman mistakenly thinking a guy is staring at her and being wrong than you do the knowledge that women get stared at a lot, so it makes the first seem like it's happening more often.
I've lived on both sides (trans) and can tell you I didn't realize it was this common to get really obviously stared at by older men. And the older they are the more likely they are to do it, which is lucky, because I'm much less afraid of a 70 year old man doing anything to me than a 20-40 year old. I find the only thing I can do in that situation is to avoid looking them directly in the eyes, because they take that as a sign to approach.
Am a woman. And sorry to hear about your bad experiences. Guess it comes with the territory huh? Older men sure know how to be creeps. And older women too. Cougars are predators after all.
Agreed. And older women being creeps too needs to be talked about more. Pretransition, in 7th grade, I had a math teacher who tried to flirt with me and it made me horribly uncomfortable, but I could never talk to anybody about it because people would act like that was a good thing and I should feel good for it, and those who acknowledged it was a problem still told me I must have imagined it. I can say one good thing about being a woman is despite encountering creeps way more often, at least I'm allowed to be upset about it now.
I’ve got to admit, a girl makes that face at me, I’m going to walk up and start explaining the plot of Krull (1983) for as long as she can hold it. If she makes it through the whole thing I’m pretty sure we’re legally married.
you remind me of my acid dropping goth friend from the 80's. the "crazy" stare really sells it. wanna take drugs in the park and laugh at people in pleated jeans?
Yeah its like they don't understand the difference between just looking at someone that has a cool haircut and someone creep staring at you to where you feel unsafe.
I don't want people staring at me like I'm a zoo animal. Bur apparently people in the comments here don't understand that.
The narcissism on so many levels is such an adorable aspect of this every generation
Same thing happened in :
90s with Goths,
80s with New Wave ,
70s with gender fluid androgyny,
60s with hippies,
50s with rock and roll...
20s with flapper girls.
What does it mean when a middle aged man stars at you in public? Or, is starring at you? That sounds like some kind of situation in which you could probably call the cops.
It's super uncomfortable. I nowadays feel like a movie star but without any of the positives that go with it and only the negatives. Well mostly, sometimes someone smiles nicely which is nice.
I absolutely get that, but I just didn't think it was illegal or worth calling the cops for, which the person I replied to said should happen. But maybe I'm being naive.
You're not being naive, the comment was joking about the meme incorrectly using "starring" (the gerund of "to star" as in "Cillian Murphy is starring in this movie") when the meme creator clearly meant to use "staring", the gerund of "to stare".
it isn't but you can't know if it will possibly get illegal in a very short amount of time. Who can possibly know what these people think of or are up to. Sometimes you get the impression it's nothing good as you squeeze your pepper spray with sweaty hands keeping your composure outwardly immaculate
I will drift off into a 1000 yard stare, sometimes from my deployments, other times wondering where the hell my life went, other times trying to figure out why my kids want to watch the same episode of Bluey for the 416th time.
Really hoping I never did it in the direction of someone and made them feel this way. Makes me want to go out in public even less, I hate bothering people.
She's trying to do ominous wide-eyes, like a manic character from a cartoon or something, the idea being that she would "scare away" the older gentleman with her "unhinged" look.
Of course to anyone who has lived even a week in the real world, instead it just looks like somebody trying to looking intimidating and failing
So if people dress a certain way its okay to stare like a weirdo?
The post isn't about just looking at someone. Its old creeps staring at young girls. There is a difference.
Weirdoing begets weirdoing. All sexuality and age stuff aside, she is being weird too, which seemed like the point here.
Though I wonder how much age really has to do with it. These days her classmates probably are running AI off her yearbook photo, if not her instagram. So an old guy looking at her funny in meatspace is probably more innocuous.
I remember being young and thinking middle-aged people are staring at me because they want me /they disapprove/whatever.
Now I'm middle aged myself, I know the staring is way more likely to either be something along the lines of "ah that kid is so 90s, I never had that green colour but blue Fudge used to wash out to green like that..."
Or "have we run out of natural yoghurt, we bought that 500ml pottle last week but we had curry twice, maybe I should get some more..."
This is me. I have to really watch where I'm zoning out because I have absolutely been called out for staring when my brain was miles away.
Me too, it's like the boring version of those "reveries" in Westworld.
Don't worry.get enough PTSD and you can have the cool version too!
I did this once in freshman year HS. I was sitting on my friend's desk zoned out staring at a book on someone else's desk, and I came out of it when a girl said "THOSE ARE BOOBS"
Idk how long I was staring, but I was still kinda pissed because she was just standing in front of me for no discernable reason.
"OK so she must've bleached the full head then done the green side first, then the black side. Man her scalp must be itchy as fuck. What did I used to use to stop the burn? Coconut oil? Yeah that's right. Smelt like Malibu for a week or so, and had to throw out that set of pillow cases. Man that sucks, I loved those pillow cases, perfect for winter. I wonder if you can still get them?"
Morpheus: ".... and find out just how deep the rabbit hole goes." Only it's more like an interconnected maze of rabbit holes leading everywhere. I wonder if you can still get "pina colada" Malibu?
Theoretically she could part her hair with a knife and bleach the green side, wait 20 min and put the black side on with a toothbrush, then wash it and add the green as required?
I love how Gen Z has gone back to all that stuff.
With a knife?? Why not a comb???
There's probably fancy metal hairdressing combs that would do it, but the "prow" of a normal comb is too blunt to separate the hair perfectly. You end up with strands from the left on the right etc.
The old DIY trick is to turn a sharp-pointed knife upside down so that the blade doesn't face the scalp, and then use the point to gently part the hair. That's how you get a perfect straight parting.
Okay, that's a relief. I thought you were meaning to actually use a butterknife. I've only seen it done with rat tail combs so I was worried.
It could get bad if you sliced your scalp!
I'm still wondering how the 90s entered kids garderobes again overnight. Sometimes I see a very funny xxxxxxxxwide jeans and I talk about that with my kids in the car and yes I do stare a bit with curiosity and amusement.
Fashion goes in cycles. Personally I'm just waiting for the nice wide jeans to filter down to an affordable price point and then I'm going to get some for myself.
I hate skinny jeans. They feel cloying and I'm pretty sure they promote swamp crotch.
Even non skinny jeans got tight. I have really old Dickies pants and newer ones the same size. The legs are thinner and less comfortable, I buy 2-4 sizes up so my legs can move about at work.
It sort of felt like capitalism was embracing the skinny leg trend and that's how it became so ubiquitous even outside of fashion. Same price, less fabric.
As I've aged and having been around for both fads I feel like a waist that fits but with very roomy legs is probably the most comfortable.
I know this Is an old post, but in the early 2000s 70's fashion came back in vogue -- a 30 years difference. And 30 years ago from today is the 90s, so it makes sense.
I think it's a result of the 40 year old crowd. They're a demographic with money and starting to get nostalgic for their childhood, so the market caters to that . Kids get exposed to it, a few trend setters decide it's cool/vintage, and it takes off from there.
Middle aged men today? They’re millennials and that’s called a 1000 yard stare.
You’ll understand soon.
They’re thinking about the house they can’t afford.
Jokes on you then. I'm probably staring because I'm trying to figure out what's going on with that eye makeup, and I have no idea what that face is supposed to mean.
It's the same face I am making trying to figure out the eye makeup
All I see is crazy eyes which means she'll most likely let me do the weird stuff
I can fix her
As a middle-aged man with a long history of crazy chicks in my past... Yeah this is working for me
It’s just always goes so bad, but it’s so much fun while it lasts.
The cats hair grows back.
Hey, you've made it out alive.... So far!
Same, buddy. It doesn't help that I've been drinking.
Drunken romantic decisions never go wrong buy her something.
She could fix me
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Fuck that, let's both get a little worse
We can both make each other worse!
they say it's better the second time
Plot twist: they are into that and see that as a yes
(that as in what they are doing to repeal the middle aged man)
then I continue making that face and hit them with one of these :3
So you're into BDSM as well?
the B stands for Bonks right?
Bonks Drugs Snuggling Manicotti
in that order
Someone that gets me!
Hell yeah! :D
half life crowbar sound effect
Hi Mia, this was the only good reply to this whole post. 🩷
the uno reverse card is played, they are into head bonks! 🤣
BONK
Yes, they already said it's about middle aged men, same plot
Yeah, if I'm staring at you, it means a) I'm thinking about what I'm cooking at home, or balancing HOR production with HOR-to-fuel conversion in Satisfactory and b) my eyes are so bad (I haven't had prescription glasses for years now) that you're a blur of colors.
That said, I wonder if she likes board games.
But all men are creeps, surely you're lying? Men only stare at woman because they're pigs, obviously. /s
That's a horrible thing to say about women.
Heh, I see what you dud there
I feel the eyes one. When I was a kid and showing old people how to use a computer, I used to think they were slow. Like they had to think. Now that I'm older, I'm waiting for my eyes to focus.
GET AWAY FROM US, BOARD JAMES!!
There is a difference between a guy staring into the void, and an older guy checking you out. I've experienced both and I don't understand how people manage to confuse the two.
Being either self-absorbed, or traumatised?
What? No. Just either stuck in a general thinking mood or think about all the things he'd want to do to you
Sorry.....whot?
I am confusioned 😂
It's cause your big fat nips are sapping your brain juice
Sturgies was talking about the person confusing the two. Shou was talking about the person staring into the void. Confusion ensues
One day, about 10 years ago, a guy pull out a knife to fight me in a subway station because he thought I was staring at him. Also got some nasty comments from women who thought I was looking at them when I didn't even notice their presence. Now I try to look at the floor in public in case I get lost in my mind.
Fuck that's horrible. Yeah. I made eye contact with a guy that lasted too long. We were walking towards each other. He grabbed the back of my head and pushed it down. Wasn't as scary as it sounds. Just disrespectful. I avoid eye contact too. Some people are just evil.
It is in fact really easy to tell the difference, you just hear more about the times people make the mistake because it's not noteworthy when somebody goes "that guy's just staring off into space" and is right. You also likely have a bigger emotional reaction, assuming you're a guy, to a woman mistakenly thinking a guy is staring at her and being wrong than you do the knowledge that women get stared at a lot, so it makes the first seem like it's happening more often.
I've lived on both sides (trans) and can tell you I didn't realize it was this common to get really obviously stared at by older men. And the older they are the more likely they are to do it, which is lucky, because I'm much less afraid of a 70 year old man doing anything to me than a 20-40 year old. I find the only thing I can do in that situation is to avoid looking them directly in the eyes, because they take that as a sign to approach.
Am a woman. And sorry to hear about your bad experiences. Guess it comes with the territory huh? Older men sure know how to be creeps. And older women too. Cougars are predators after all.
Agreed. And older women being creeps too needs to be talked about more. Pretransition, in 7th grade, I had a math teacher who tried to flirt with me and it made me horribly uncomfortable, but I could never talk to anybody about it because people would act like that was a good thing and I should feel good for it, and those who acknowledged it was a problem still told me I must have imagined it. I can say one good thing about being a woman is despite encountering creeps way more often, at least I'm allowed to be upset about it now.
That's fucking disgusting. She wasn't just a creep, but a straight up peado.
I’ve got to admit, a girl makes that face at me, I’m going to walk up and start explaining the plot of Krull (1983) for as long as she can hold it. If she makes it through the whole thing I’m pretty sure we’re legally married.
This is the most random thing I've heard in a while. 🤣 I love it!
As a lifelong fan of the movie, I approve of this tactic.
Half the time I have no idea what I am staring at. It's like having closed eyes, but they're open. It's my autopilot staring, not me.
On a side note, that lip piercing (just like any other piercing in mouth) may cause tooth damage and/or gum recession over time. It's a bad idea.
Maybe don't look so cool like the girl I want to be if you don't want to be stared at.Cool hair...sorry
Wowwww victim blaming much?
Victim of looking cool?
you remind me of my acid dropping goth friend from the 80's. the "crazy" stare really sells it. wanna take drugs in the park and laugh at people in pleated jeans?
Is that flirting? My Social skill is still around 12/100, but I heard that face is what people call flirting
I think she's trying to put them off to get them to stop staring. So the opposite of flirting. But it's not super clear
Could be "come hither", could be "I have mace"
You're not helping!
I am middle age! I get stares from college kids haha, I look younger than I am. I don’t care who looks, and I am too autistic to stare at others 🤷♀️
I think this image is peak "do I want to be her or be with her?"
Worth a doorslamming?
Starring at you? Like you're a supporting character in a movie or like Mario?
The responses to this post have been disgusting
Yeah its like they don't understand the difference between just looking at someone that has a cool haircut and someone creep staring at you to where you feel unsafe.
I don't want people staring at me like I'm a zoo animal. Bur apparently people in the comments here don't understand that.
I mean, cockatiels can be seen in a zoo.
If you look like one, people will stare..
Cool story chief.
This would make me stare more. Maybe even say something, like, “are you ok?”
"Tonight on ABC, Middle Aged Man...starring..."
And if you can correctly guess what he's thinking about, you'll win yourself $1,000,000,000!
The narcissism on so many levels is such an adorable aspect of this generation
Same thing happened in : 90s with Goths, 80s with New Wave , 70s with gender fluid androgyny, 60s with hippies, 50s with rock and roll... 20s with flapper girls.
People like to star apparently.
Huh. There's always someone who looks like someone you have almost forgotten.
love on first sight
Sia later
What does it mean when a middle aged man stars at you in public? Or, is starring at you? That sounds like some kind of situation in which you could probably call the cops.
Staring is illegal?
It's super uncomfortable. I nowadays feel like a movie star but without any of the positives that go with it and only the negatives. Well mostly, sometimes someone smiles nicely which is nice.
I absolutely get that, but I just didn't think it was illegal or worth calling the cops for, which the person I replied to said should happen. But maybe I'm being naive.
You're not being naive, the comment was joking about the meme incorrectly using "starring" (the gerund of "to star" as in "Cillian Murphy is starring in this movie") when the meme creator clearly meant to use "staring", the gerund of "to stare".
it isn't but you can't know if it will possibly get illegal in a very short amount of time. Who can possibly know what these people think of or are up to. Sometimes you get the impression it's nothing good as you squeeze your pepper spray with sweaty hands keeping your composure outwardly immaculate
I will drift off into a 1000 yard stare, sometimes from my deployments, other times wondering where the hell my life went, other times trying to figure out why my kids want to watch the same episode of Bluey for the 416th time.
Really hoping I never did it in the direction of someone and made them feel this way. Makes me want to go out in public even less, I hate bothering people.
The cops would probably guest star at you.
I'm so confused! All of the comments seem to understand, but I've got NOTHING. Is she doing something? I just see a smile!
She's trying to do ominous wide-eyes, like a manic character from a cartoon or something, the idea being that she would "scare away" the older gentleman with her "unhinged" look.
Of course to anyone who has lived even a week in the real world, instead it just looks like somebody trying to looking intimidating and failing
Intimidation isn't the goal, mocking the creeper is.
I don't really see how this can be mocking, it's just weird, which I am aware is the point
and then, junko pose
would not work on me
Look at your getup, do you want attention or not?
So if people dress a certain way its okay to stare like a weirdo? The post isn't about just looking at someone. Its old creeps staring at young girls. There is a difference.
Weirdoing begets weirdoing. All sexuality and age stuff aside, she is being weird too, which seemed like the point here.
Though I wonder how much age really has to do with it. These days her classmates probably are running AI off her yearbook photo, if not her instagram. So an old guy looking at her funny in meatspace is probably more innocuous.
"everything I don't like is attention-seeking"
Who said I didn’t like it? I just think it’s silly to draw attention to yourself then not want that attention.