Spyke

And most of them are your grandma and her friends 👵👵👵

"Such a handsome boy! Have a cookie my dear"

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sh.itjust.works

That's assuming you'll meet literally every person on earth

Let's say you will have a meaningful interaction with 1000 people ever, 1% of that leaves you with 10

If you're not bi make it 5 before you even start considering wether you also find those people attractive back, if they're single and in the right age range

So get that confidence back down. Statistics are a bitch

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Yeah, its also not a binary “attractive/unattractive”. Out of those 10 people, they would be some who will find you neither attractive or unattractive, just kinda meh. And THEN add some who might find you attractive, but are either in a relationship themselves or like double or more your age.

I want that confidence back! Give it here, buddy, we dont deserve it!

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lemmy.world

People can walk across Brazil, up through Central America, through Mexico and cross the Rio Grande into the United States without any money. You're just not trying hard enough.

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feddit.de

I honestly believe that it only works because so few people are doing it. It is like taking food from naturally growing fruit trees. There's few of them, and it only works, if only a few people do it. However, when you try to make mass tourism out of it, it doesn't work anymore.

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lemmy.ca

Yeah but I don't find them attractive.

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Yeah maybe! That's still 750,000 so maybe I'll find someone after all.

Hopefully some of them live nearby.

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Gorkreply
lemm.ee

Orgies should really become more normalized in society.

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Gorkreply
lemm.ee

Don't know the right people :/

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I mean if you are to believe what some politicians say, we aren't too far off

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Yeah idk, orgies are cool and all but it's a bit crowded

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Yes, more or less. Their attitude is like "future exists where beautiful women exist, and in russia they are beautiful, so surely in russia i can find my future".

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Men can love men too man! Ya too bad for China. I feel sorry for the people in China under the CCP.

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I live in a city of about 500,000

Of course, I'm not dating anyone outside my acceptable range, which is about 20 years wide. Assuming an even distribution of people across all ages 1 to 100, this narrows it to 20%, or 100,000 people

Of course I'm more interested in ladies than fellas, so I'm gonna cut it to 51% based on gender, so 51,000 potential matches

We're pretty evenly split politically, and imma be real I ain't dating someone who's gonna vote desantis, so let's cut that in half again to 25,500

About 7% of people share my dietary preferences, and it's a strong enough moral conviction that it's a dealbreaker. That number is higher in people who share my political leanings, though, so let's consider it 14%, or 3570.

Now I just have to figure out the odds that the <1% of people that I would be interested in would be interested in me. If it is just 1%, then there are around 36 dudes, ladies, and nonbinary maties in this city that I could conceivably go out with

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To add some more realism to these numbers:

  • Age is not evenly distributed at all.
  • A variety of your other factors likely have significant overlap with each other.
  • 1% mutual interest after already matching on many crucial factors is also exceptionally pessimistic estimating.
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IMO people with valid convictions are usually much more attractive than they give themselves credit.

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44 million live in Asia, 14m in Africa, 7m in Europe, 6m in North America, 4m in South America, 400k in Australia/Oceania

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That means 2.6 people find you attractive in every single square mile of land on Earth. Let's make that 1 to account for children and elderly.

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lemmy.today

I found two women who find me attractive so that's nice. I'm happy with that. :)

But in my next life I want to be a guy who gets liked by all girls. Seems fun.

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lemmy.today

I know what you mean actually... Yeah. Maybe it's not all that fun after a while.

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feddit.de

Been there. When I was younger, lots of girl found me attractive.

Problem is, many of them aren't being genuine. They just want to be with you to impress their other friends. Count them out, and you've filtered 90% of all girls.

Then there are those, who want to be with you, but simply think that they are not allowed to be in love with someone. Kinda shy, but mostly a false sense of pride/chastity. So annoying.

Then you are left with a bunch of fat girls, who got emotional problems. They are fine, mostly, but it takes a lot of strength to deal with them. Mostly due to their emotional problems.

Then there are the few, who are actually nice, ready to be in a relationship, and pretty.

These are mostly taken, and most of them tell you "sorry I can't, my boyfriend would get jealous", even though it's pretty clear they simply don't want to put in the effort to think this through.

Then there's the rest, which is like 1% maybe.

So here we are, we got full circle.

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Yeah. Girls get idolized a lot in teenage movies too, it must be impossible to live up to the hype.

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Granted, he got thinner (he claims he took Ozempic, so he paid his way to a thinner body, as you can when you're rich), but not before he had most if not all of his children.

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There's no such thing as 100% efficiency. Even at repelling girls

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