I recently upgraded my PC from Ryzen 3600 and 3060 Ti to 5700x3d and 4080 Super. It works absolutely great, but I'm worried about the temps. Both my CPU and GPU get to about 85c max, 70-75c avarage running Cyberpunk 2077. I'm a bit worried as people report about 70-75c, not 85...

For cooling-relevant stuff, I've got a Phanteks P400S TG, 3 fans(1x120 in the back, 1x120 and 1x140 in the front) of meh quality, an absolute unit of a CPU cooler - dual tower, two fans, copper base, copper pipes, but from a local & budget (but renowned) manufacturer, the honeywell thermal pad (I know there are fakes, mine looked good but could a fake cause 10-15c temps increase?). Ambient temp is not an issue, it's at most 22c.

I'm running the GPU without any overclock or undervolt and I've applied MSI Kombo Strike 3 to the CPU.

I've got Fan Control running with auto settings, case fans to 100% at 85(either CPU or GPU), GPU to 100% at 85, CPU to 100% at 80.

If the temps are an issue, my best guess is I somehow messed up the thermal pad application, the case fans are not up to the task (especially with how the case restricts airflow from the front and the fans are only about ~1200RPM at 100%) or the GPU is pushing warm air up to the CPU. Any clues if that's an issue and if so, what's the cause?

In a few months, I will have the space and infrastructure to join the selfhost community. I'm trying to prepare, as I know it can be challenging, but I somehow ended up with more questions than answers.

For context, I want to run a server with torrents, media (plex, Jellyfin or something else entirely - I didn't make a decision yet), photos(Emmich, if its stable, or something else), Rook, Paperless, Home Assistant, Frigate, Adguard Home... Possibly lots more. Also, I will need storage - I'm planning for 3x18tb drives to begin with, but will certainly be adding more later.

My initial intention was to set up a NAS in Silverstone CS382(or Jonsbo N3/N5, if they're in a reasonable price). I heard good things about Unraid and it's capabilities of running docker. On the other hand, I'm hearing hood things about Proxmox or NixOS with NAS software running in a VM, too - but for Unraid, it seems hacky. Maybe I should run NAS and a separate server? That'd be more costly and seems like more work on maintenance with no real benefit. Maybe I should go with TrueNAS in a VM? If I don't do anything other than NAS, TrueNAS shouldn't be that hard to set up, right?

I'm also wondering whether I should go with Intel for QuickSync, AMD and Arc graphics or something else entirely. I've read that AV1 is getting popular, is AMD getting more support there? I will buy Intel if it's clearly the better option, but I'm team Red and would prefer AMD.

Also, could anyone with a non-technical SO tell me how do they find your selhosted things? I've read about Cloudflare Tunnels and Tailscale, which will be a breeze for me, but I gotta think about other users aswell.

That's another concern for me - am I correct in thinking Tailscale and Cloudflare Tunnels are all I need to access the server remotely? I will probably set up a PiKVM or the Risc one aswell, can it be exposed aswell? I will have a dream machine from Ubiqiti, anything that needs to run to access the server I may run there. I'm not looking to set up anything more complicated like Wireguard - it's too much.

For additional context, I'm a software developer, I know my way with Docker and the command line and I consider myself to be tech savvy, but I'm not looking to spend every weekend reading changelogs and doing manual updates. I want to have an upgrade path (that's why Im not going with Synology for example), but I also don't want to obsess over it. Money isn't much of an issue, I can spare 1-2k$ on the build, not including the drives.

Any feedback and suggestions appreciated :)