Well, I'd assume 8GB ram (ddr4 3200) dedicated to it and 4-6 ryzen (5700x) cores should be enough. Especially if I'm planning to host it for a max of... 30 users.

Oh, so you never even had a matrix server hosted, but you're telling me I'm wrong. Hahaha!

Well, I can't recall every minute detail I've delt with a year ago. I shared my past experience and asked if it would be more or less the same.

Thank you! I might give it a try again.

Not waiting 20 minutes in 2023 for a messaging platform to sync if I join a single group with default settings.

Are they federated? Did you change anything from the default / recommend settings?

Sorry - so the default, recommended settings try to cache absolutely everything from a single group, including cat gifs posted 5 years ago? I'm sorry, but I expected the default settings more... sane?

Well, I wanted to try hosting myself, since I love self hosting things and people keep repeating how amazing Matrix is - my experience (waiting 20 minutes to join a single group, or it simply failing) didn't convince me. It's possible that I'm the wrong here, in that case I'm happy to hear solutions.