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I just want to say that "get fucked" is a somewhat offensive term imo 😅 It implies a power dynamic where the man is doing the fucking and the woman only gets fucked. I think a better way to ask this would be "Why shouldn't women fuck..." Or "have sex" etc 😊

As for your question, generally speaking there is no absolute reason not to have sex during your period, but there are some things that can make it harder/unpleasant for some period having people ⚧️

  • The blood adds friction, so you might need more lube to keep it pleasant
  • the vagina might be sensitive so it might make it painful
  • the cramping and general symptoms of a period might just make them not in the mood for it, but it could also do the opposite and make them horny.
  • And obviously the blood can make the sex more messy.
  • etc

So very individual, i would just define it as just a situation that is different from the "norm" 😄

And a quick note about culture. There are many cultures and religions that define the period as "dirty" in some way and some even go as far as forbidding a man from touching a woman if she is on her period. Fuck that misogynistic bullshit.

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Have you ever been in a totally consensual missionary fuck with your GF and she suddenly asks you to stop?

Yes, it is very reasonable that something might change.

I like the tea analogy, just imagine that instead of sex you were just sitting for a cup of tea. If you offered tea, she might be excited and happy about it and consent to it. Once she starts drinking the tea maybe something happens, maybe it hurts her stomach? (Totally possible and happens in sex) maybe she changed her mind by the time the tea was made, maybe it didn't taste good, or a million other things. The important part is that she can change her mind, and if that happens, sure you might be disappointed that you worked on preparation and got excited about it and maybe have some extra dishes to wash, but would you be mad at her for it? You shouldn't be, she didn't do anything wrong, she didn't attack you personally, she has no obligation to drink the tea you made, and she has every right to change her mind about drinking it.

Just like tea, you shouldn't force anyone or coerce them into drinking tea. And if they decide to stop, you definitely shouldn't force them to finish it.

Don't be offended, rejection is not a personal attack, just be polite and respectful and accept her choices.

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What rule changes would you propose for this community?

Personally I think the rules should be very simple and easy to follow while keeping it strictly about questions.

Something along the lines of:

  • only text type posts, links can be in the body, pictures can be in comments.
  • no AMA/horny let's talk
  • all questions should be about nsfw
  • no promotional content of any kind
  • always be respectful

I don't think the comments should be heavily moderated, if someone makes a respectful comment we shouldn't really care even if it is political or not on topic. we should really focus on the post but comments should only be moderated in case of hate/harassment/spam/disrespect

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One day spent in a world depicted by pornograpy

Woke up to my step brother masturbaiting while peeping on me. Went to eat breakfast and got fucked. Did the laundry and got stuck and fucked again. Went to the store and got fucked by a starnger who offered me money. Got to the store and was stopped by security for shoplifting, got fucked. Went home to cook but there was a leak in the sink so I couldn't cook and had a plummer come over, got fucked. Ordered pizza, got fucked. Went to take a shower, got fucked. Went to sleep, had to masturbait to lesbian porn.

You know, a normal female person day 😑

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What communities LemmyNSFW is missing ?

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Nudism has no more sexualization than clothed societies, which to say someone is always going to sexualize you but that does not make it okay or wanted. A nudist event is no different than a regular event, it absolutely does not have any sexual aspect just because people are naked. 😤

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Your daughter still lives at home with you and your wife. She wants to have sex in her bedroom with her BF. How do you handle it?

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Highly disagree, teens around the world tend to have normal sexual encounters before that age. By setting a minimum age you are just telling your kid to hide it from you until that age, which will probably result in less safe sex in less safe spaces. The right way to approach this is to be attentive and communicate with your child so that you are aware of where they are in their life and can talk to them if needed.

If your child is 14 and intends on having sex, you can either show them that they can come to you for help and guidance, or you can show them that they can't, either way they will probably do what they want.

The awkwardness and discomfort of teens having sex in your house is much better than letting them do it behind your back, possibly in an safe way and in an unsafe place.

For reference: https://www.centreforsexuality.ca/learning-centre/stages-of-child-sexual-development/

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What helped you and your partner unlock the best sex of your lives?

Just knowing that it is a safe space and talking. Once we reached a point where neither of us felt like the other one would judge, even if we say something very extreme, we just talked and we were both open to try the things that the other wanted at least once.

So not judging or laughing at eachother and just communicating.

I had past relationships that I wasn't ready yet to not judge myself and they never knew my deepest kinks. But with my current partner I am fully open and it's nice. I got to try fantasies that I never thought I'd get to.

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As parents did you talk to your kids about sex? What exactly did you tell them?

Not a parent here, but dear god, please talk to your kids about sex as soon as possible 🙏

There are age appropriate terms to use, but essentially children should know about it for so many reasons.

  • This can help them identify inappropriate behavior from peers and from adults
  • It teaches them and prepares them for the real world in a healthy way
  • It mitigates any future awkwardness that can lead to poor sexual education
  • Reduces the risks associated with sex as they will already be aware of the critical information by the age that they do start exploring
  • You would be shocked at how early on children will do sexual actions out of innocent curiosity and self pleasure, this can be okay if they are taught about what is acceptable and what is not.
  • Gives them a good foundation for a healthy understanding of sex and their own bodies

For anyone who is unsure: https://www.centreforsexuality.ca/learning-centre/stages-of-child-sexual-development/

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If you are doing your girlfriend anally but she wants you to finish vaginally do you have to first wash off your penis before you reinsert ?

Yes, yes you do.

A vagina is very sensitive to bacteria, some women can handle it better and some worse but generally speaking the vagina shoild be kept as far away from filth as possible, especially poop. There is a reason why girls are taught early on to wipe front to back and never back to front.

If you really want to do this, be in the shower where you can very quickly soap it clean and continue.

Remember! After anal you HAVE to wash it with soap, not just water.

As for how they do it in porn: they have a long process of anal cleaning so that when the video is shot the colon is very clean (still kinda dirty) and if I remember correctly it still causes issues sometimes.