Yeah totally agreed!! I would say opening with something over-the-top explicit is just as bad as opening as if we were in church! And fear not, this community is miles ahead of anywhere I've been, just wanted to put out the *vibes * I get and how to generally avoid the ick.

You asked for the most important but everyone is hedging with several... after some reflection I will say courage. Courage in a partner plays into our relationship in a multitude of ways; primarily, the initial courage to approach me in public, the courage to be charming in the face of being insecure or threatened, courage to overcome my own shyness, courage to break down my walls, courage to suggest we take things to the next step. Courage is a rarity among men (my preferred partners) and especially in the geeky sphere of things it's almost non-existent. Courage is sexy as all fucking hell.

Fire for effect!

I could not agree more!!

I love all of your insight here, thank you! I will def let the inner me shine when I post :x (you think correctly, I get paid in attention lol)

dang I messed up already :x ok I will tyvm

Damn. Fucking. Right. thx ;)

I thought it was wild enough :x

Thank you so much, making me blush rn tbh

Thank you!!

it worked!! tyvm!

👍 👍 😘

It keeps my backend tight 😜

Making me blush, tyvm!

super secret double lockdown containment 😁

More looking over at my ass at you, got it sir ;)

Well tyvm! I wish that was a hand print and I wish that little one above was a bite mark/hickie, but alas :x

tyvm!!