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If you happened to find this, welcome! This place is meant for conversation, poems, art, even venting if need be, about the concept of love, and all its ramifications. It can be as simple as gushing about our friends or partners, or conversations about its phycological ramifications. This place is and will always be LGTBQA+ friendly, and youre welcome to stay and leave as much as you want. Enjoy!

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For the Love of Samādhi

I once thought that love was feeling

Hole in heart always had me reeling

Then I saw how much serpent spōk

And thus to the verb love I was wōk

Work I did, kindness and spirituality

I felt it twas necessary giv infinitely

But how I learned samādhi balance

Was from mi learning how 2 dance

Expressing myself through an art?

Impressed I b how much gro heart

Cuz now I can speak my language

To give love in ways that assuage

The pain of them and myself also

Thus I know the way our paths go

By investing time in masterin self

You earn yourself th' great wealth

To be the brightest light in th dark

Is to know how the Christ did hark

I speak with authority o tree o life

Love be how to survive th' scythe

But it is not A or B, but rather "C"

Squared, times mass, equals "E"

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Discussion Post: The 5 Love Languages

Ever since 1992, the idea of the 5 love languages has spread all over our culture. Published by marriage counselor Gary Chapman in his book "The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts", Chapman proposed there were 5 main ways in which humans expressed their love to each other:

1: Physical Affection. Any form of physical touch, even ones with no sexual undertones. Things like hand holding, nuzzling, hugs, and other forms of contact appear here.

2: Acts of service: Generally seen as doing chores or undergoing difficult tasks for your partner. These could be seen as simple things that ease stress, such as dividing housework.

3: Gifts: Seen as both giving and receiving gifts, people trend towards showing affection by giving items to the person they care about. To note, the price of the item does not matter more than the sentiment behind it.

4: Words of Affirmation: Seen as any positive meaning word. While usual phrases like "I love you" land here, it's considered any form of communication that reaffirms love to the person's partner.

5: Quality Time: While simple, people prefer spending time with this person simply engaged in activities with the other. Of note, these are to be done as uninterrupted and as engaged as possible. Examples can range from having a conversation alone, to playing games or other activities.

While the veracity of the 5 love languages has been questioned over time (namely that people don't fall neatly into 5 categories and there's much overlap), it has aided people in understanding how to relate to their partners better.

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As such, I'd love to know what you think of the 5 love languages, whether you believe it works or not, and whether you have any interesting stories regarding this concept! As always, have a wonderful day, and remember you are loved.

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