Ease of ruining or edging: Does it take practice (and other factors)?
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I've [Male] never ruined many orgasms nor edged much. It's always been hard to get close but not too close. Online, people discuss ruining and edging a lot, and I've long gotten the sense it's easier for most people than it is me. Now I'm questioning that and interested in hearing others' experiences. For example, I don't get much ejaculate each time I try to ruin, and I'd quickly go too far if I tried edging. I don't know if this is related, but I've generally had low 'stamina' (for penile stimulation; ie, don't last long in bed, premature ejaculation) because outside of when being in a relationship trying to maintain stamina has seemed pointless.
Do you find ruining or edging easy? Has it required practice for you to be able to do what you do? Lots of practice? Do you think ruining/edging ability is related to 'sexual stamina' (like those who are good at one are probably good at the other too)?
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What others said + edging is the quite easy part for me, yet sometimes I cum seconds before the edge. Ruined was never my best, so I never do it.
I can't answer about ruining. I enjoy edging though. I've edged from a couple hours to 3 days. It took a little practice but I just keep going till I think I'm about to cum then stop everything. Don't touch, hold anything with your dick. Most importantly, switch your thoughts to something else. Give yourself a few minutes to several minutes to recover and repeat. The longer I edge, the more intense the orgasm I have when I finally cum!!
Thanks for your reply! A little practice to get the hang of edging more or less aligns with what I think is the most common experience
What I have read that helps with stamina and edging it to play up and down starting low (far away from cumming) before moving up. So if 100% is hitting the threshold of orgasmic inevitably you don't start edging close to it. So you go up to 30% before stopping and letting yourself calm back down. You then work up closer to 50% before letting yourself calm back down. Then move to 60% before calming back down. You then go 70%, 75%, 80% until you get as close as possible to the edge.
A lot of this comes from Urban Tantra which has a section of erotic massages for penis havers which suggests the same idea.
Urban Tantra looks like a really cool resource, thanks!!
I don't often or regularly edge, but I have found my limits so i know i can edge and know how it feels like. But i am quite sensitive so i can't last long in intercourse, then again my partner and I don't have intercourse that often anymore, maybe a few times a month
Edit: and i have had ruined orgasms, i watch ruined orgasm porn somewhat often and it is kind of a thing i'm into i guess. Its fun how the cum just leaks out, and I can then get a proper orgasm after that and it feels good
There are so many cumshots, ie, nonruined orgasms, in 'ruined orgasm porn', or at least what I've seen. Actual dribbling is quite rare.
I have a similar experience of ruining orgasms. It doesn't feel good afterwards (the point). If allowed, I can usually come normally afterwards. It's not a great O but it eliminates any tension (or whatever) left over from the ruined orgasm
It takes a bit of practice and knowing your body. I've managed to cum like 6 times before from doing it. Personally I find it much easier to do when standing up as opposed to sitting or lying down, and also when I've already cum within the past 2 or so days. When I haven't orgasmed in a longer period of time, I find it more difficult to get the timing right. Although you will get bigger spurts of cum if you can pull it off that way.