I really appreciate this clarification. Sometimes people wanna vent. Sometimes they want solutions. Hard to tell which especially since most people want both depending on the issue
Presume every time that they are coming from the emotional venting position.
Someone coming from the rational problem solving position will easily ask for solutions...... So no risk in getting this wrong. Someone who wants emotional venting tends to blow up if you respond with rational problem solving, high risk with getting this wrong. So the optimal play is to always presume emotional venting if there's any doubt.
Why don't you want a solution (even if you're "just venting")? If you solved the problem, you wouldn't need to vent about the thing anymore, because the root cause has been solved.
I disagree. Solving a problem is the fix. That releases endorphins. Completing a task doesn't do it. It has to be a solution to a problem.
I've never talked to a man that spoke of providing or failure in the context you're speaking of. Not to say they don't exist, but I've never encountered a person that felt that way.
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This is why I start the rants at my husband with "I don't need a solution for this. So, today..."
I really appreciate this clarification. Sometimes people wanna vent. Sometimes they want solutions. Hard to tell which especially since most people want both depending on the issue
I wish more people would do this. It makes things so much easier.
Presume every time that they are coming from the emotional venting position.
Someone coming from the rational problem solving position will easily ask for solutions...... So no risk in getting this wrong. Someone who wants emotional venting tends to blow up if you respond with rational problem solving, high risk with getting this wrong. So the optimal play is to always presume emotional venting if there's any doubt.
Why don't you want a solution (even if you're "just venting")? If you solved the problem, you wouldn't need to vent about the thing anymore, because the root cause has been solved.
Some issues are intractable. The behavior and words of other people, for example.
If by fix it you mean install Linux, then yes.
Mine would be "I want to play this game, but I don't want to pay for it."
"ON IT!" 🏴☠️
WTF?!
I can fix it!
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=xkSgYGgP6w4
What that is: The initial offers are all things where the man is a burden in some way. The fixing is where the man is providing.
Men who don't provide are failures.
No, he simply enjoys troubleshooting computer problems. You're overthinking it.
I disagree. Solving a problem is the fix. That releases endorphins. Completing a task doesn't do it. It has to be a solution to a problem.
I've never talked to a man that spoke of providing or failure in the context you're speaking of. Not to say they don't exist, but I've never encountered a person that felt that way.
Are women who don't provide failures?