Bound to seek recognition of its own existence in categories, terms, and names that are not of its own making, the subject seeks the sign of its own existence outside itself, in a discourse that is at once dominant and indifferent. Social categories signify subordination and existence at once. In other words, within subjection the price of existence is subordination.
I'm extremely early in my transition, but I can already feel the conflicting split:
Pink and frills and girlishness, feel freeing, and safe, and comfy, and I love them.
And at the same time, I can see little flashes of "my style", things that I like more than pink and frills, but that are at the same time, scarier, and less coherent, and I don't actually know what you really do with them.
Both parts are really important, I think. Maybe the stereotype is more about healing, a safe stop when you don't know where to take yourself, with your newfound freedom.
Maybe your style comes later, as you grow into it. Maybe someone's style just really goes deeper into the stereotype, that's cool too!
It's so hard to put into words the idea of "You no longer have to struggle with limiting yourself, just do whatever" (a negative act, an absence of an action), when "Finding yourself/your style" is usually framed as a thing you Do (a positive act, an active attempt)
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Guess I need to try Ultrakill
What’s the shark for? I’ve not been able to figure that out and it seems to pop up from time to time.
Blåhaj. It's a blue pink and white plush shark from IKEA that trans people have claimed as ours.
Thanks! I would have never guessed that.
Bow before thy Blåhaj subs!
I'm extremely early in my transition, but I can already feel the conflicting split:
Pink and frills and girlishness, feel freeing, and safe, and comfy, and I love them.
And at the same time, I can see little flashes of "my style", things that I like more than pink and frills, but that are at the same time, scarier, and less coherent, and I don't actually know what you really do with them.
Both parts are really important, I think. Maybe the stereotype is more about healing, a safe stop when you don't know where to take yourself, with your newfound freedom.
Maybe your style comes later, as you grow into it. Maybe someone's style just really goes deeper into the stereotype, that's cool too!
It's so hard to put into words the idea of "You no longer have to struggle with limiting yourself, just do whatever" (a negative act, an absence of an action), when "Finding yourself/your style" is usually framed as a thing you Do (a positive act, an active attempt)