If you grew up nudist, did your family coach you on boundaries for hugging and cuddling?
Two things non-nudists don't understand about the lifestyle are:
- How can we not be aroused by seeing other people, including even family, nude all the time?
- How is cuddling and hugging appropriate when members of the family are naked?
Simple answers to these from my experience is that
- People basically don't get aroused by their family members because of acclimatisation to being around them - and being around them naked. I would only get turned on if something particularly arousing happened, e.g if I overheard intercourse (it can happen, lol).
That being said, a bit after I hit puberty i would get erections from seeing my mother or sister at home. But it's well documented that even in clothed homes people can base some of their sexual attraction on the people closest to them - you get over it quickly.
- Now revisiting the title of the post: there is a distinct difference between a romantic/sexual embrace and a familial or friendly one. A romantic hug seeks to press closer to the other person at the chest, and/or at the hips. Hands linger more, caressing occurs and certain areas like the lower back or hips might be touched.
When embracing my own family, they would point out what is a polite limit of closeness, and they would basically remind me of it every time we hugged, until I just knew it from practice. The main thing to keep in mind is don't be squashing into the other person's breasts (if it can be helped), and don't press penis against penis.
I wonder if anyone else had this? Don't feel pressured to share, because i know it's hard to talk about 😄.
I think the other thing worth mentioning though is that my family wasn't nude 100% of the time at home, anyway, so don't picture it as a permanent nudist bootcamp.
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And then of course in my house there are 4 girls and my wife and her sister so yeah its a lot of boobs in your face all day. You get used to it but its also natural. When daughters bf's come over you cant blame them for their hardons that would be impossible to suppress lol but they too get the boundaries and lessons to learn.
lol yes dont intentionally press penis into penis and dont smash breasts. Those are definite rules. Usually if you have a hard on too then swing it to the side.
Our girls now all have bf's and the bf's all come over too and get nude and we allow hugging and cuddling with them the same as if they were clothed. Its learning to be affectionate and comfortable and no shame.
we are a full nudist family and have been always. We have always full on hugged and cuddled all of our lifes. Acclimation is everything. Now my son and I still have hardons a lot but its not sexual attraction its just how we are built and blood flow lol. Everyone has learned to ignore it and it goes away. We are always cuddling. If you dont make things weird or bring attention to it then its not weird. If you were clothed you would cuddle and put your head in someones lap and lay on them or near them and it doesnt matter if you are clothed or not. My middle daughter loves sitting on family members laps and we dont dissuade here even when hard as that would then make her think something weird or bad was going on. Another thing that sorta hides all of us is that we are all full bushes and being that way also doesnt showcase the sexual organs. They arent on display they are just natural with lots of hair.