places that are proudly welcoming and display it. They may repelled a few straights but that's fine by me.
places where they just welcome everyone, and don't treat queerness any specially. In an ideal world, this is how everywhere would be ; and it feels nice to feel like you're entirely normal for once. But many of these places don't really advertise being so, so it's a lil hard to find them...
Other queer people, people in general being comfortable with themselves. Pride things or showing support.
Full LGBT inclusion in the no bigotry statement, I have come across a few Linux forms and chat servers that either just say no politics or just include sexual orientation.
Pride flags, as corporate as they've become, are still a choice someone made to signal inclusion. Signs that say bigotry won't be tolerated are great, too. Most of all, I like being around other queer people. Also lots and lots of plants.
I suppose it'd be people showing they're allies, good urban design like bathrooms instead of male and female bathrooms
policies like "if you're an ass towards queer people you get kicked out"
people wearing gnc clothing and nobody batting an eye
no hate being present is also a big one, so i try to do my part by removing terf and anti-women's rights stickers, or putting a nice fat pro-queer/pro-women's sticker on them. or something unrelated altogether. I disacknowledge hatred and will deny them a platform.
honestly, it's really the same things that make anyone irrespective of gender feel safe to be themselves: a supportive environment, that's not toxic, and inclusive
Whenever I go out, single use bathrooms or family bathrooms if possible helps ALOT to make me feel welcomed and safe. (Dealing with the bathroom issue is one of my greatest fears. I won't go into it further.)
Aside from that, if the people at my destination are nice and cordial, that's good enough for me. Just don't spread the hate.
Trans woman here, the thing that makes me most welcome is these little moments when my gender is subtly aknowledged without making it the sole centre thing that I am trans.
An example of a situation I had recently, at the local bikekitchen, was a guy telling me that even if I don't know how to fix bikes I can still help, for example in the kitchen. And immediately he was like oh damn maybe I should not tell the woman to go to the kitchen, or some cariant of that, cant remember what exactly he said.
i saw this sign in a place recently that made me feel very at ease :)
tangentially; I've been following this comm for a while now and this is my first time commenting. ive seen a bunch of times that enbys are welcome here but it still feels weird to me since I don't identify as a woman.
I'm amab and feel like my voice still "reads" male and don't want that to upset anyone here.
this isn't complaining I totally understand and respect the need for a woman-only space on the internet, this just felt like a good opportunity to mention these feelings I've been feeling for a while...
open to any opinions/perspectives, even if they're kinda harsh! what do y'all think?
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Lgbt members what makes somewhere feel welcoming to you? | Spyke
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Other queer people, people in general being comfortable with themselves. Pride things or showing support. Full LGBT inclusion in the no bigotry statement, I have come across a few Linux forms and chat servers that either just say no politics or just include sexual orientation.
You said it, yeah.
Anywhere there are armed trans women.
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Pride flags, as corporate as they've become, are still a choice someone made to signal inclusion. Signs that say bigotry won't be tolerated are great, too. Most of all, I like being around other queer people. Also lots and lots of plants.
I suppose it'd be people showing they're allies, good urban design like bathrooms instead of male and female bathrooms
policies like "if you're an ass towards queer people you get kicked out"
people wearing gnc clothing and nobody batting an eye
no hate being present is also a big one, so i try to do my part by removing terf and anti-women's rights stickers, or putting a nice fat pro-queer/pro-women's sticker on them. or something unrelated altogether. I disacknowledge hatred and will deny them a platform.
honestly, it's really the same things that make anyone irrespective of gender feel safe to be themselves: a supportive environment, that's not toxic, and inclusive
Whenever I go out, single use bathrooms or family bathrooms if possible helps ALOT to make me feel welcomed and safe. (Dealing with the bathroom issue is one of my greatest fears. I won't go into it further.)
Aside from that, if the people at my destination are nice and cordial, that's good enough for me. Just don't spread the hate.
Trans woman here, the thing that makes me most welcome is these little moments when my gender is subtly aknowledged without making it the sole centre thing that I am trans. An example of a situation I had recently, at the local bikekitchen, was a guy telling me that even if I don't know how to fix bikes I can still help, for example in the kitchen. And immediately he was like oh damn maybe I should not tell the woman to go to the kitchen, or some cariant of that, cant remember what exactly he said.
Would complimenting their makeup (or hairstyle or earrings or similar) count?
i saw this sign in a place recently that made me feel very at ease :)
tangentially; I've been following this comm for a while now and this is my first time commenting. ive seen a bunch of times that enbys are welcome here but it still feels weird to me since I don't identify as a woman.
I'm amab and feel like my voice still "reads" male and don't want that to upset anyone here.
this isn't complaining I totally understand and respect the need for a woman-only space on the internet, this just felt like a good opportunity to mention these feelings I've been feeling for a while...
open to any opinions/perspectives, even if they're kinda harsh! what do y'all think?