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Daftyduxreply
lemmy.dbzer0.com

Well, before my wife died, we had an argument about me talking about stuff referring to it as, "before my wife died" solely because until she dies its always before my wife died.

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reddthat.com

Died is the past tense of the word die. I think in this case they are indeed wrong.

It's ok to say "I loved my wife, I still do, but I did previously too." Since the love occurred in the past tense that makes sense, but since her death has not occurred I do not believe OP is grammatically correct.

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Whippin' out Mitch Hedberg to win an argument is the best internetting I'm gonna get to see today

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Is this like how I used to introduce my first ex wife to people as "My First Wife" while we were still very much married?

For some reason she did not find it as amusing as I did? I wonder if its funny now?

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Pat_Riotreply
lemmy.today

I like my wife too much to make jokes like that. That's kind of awful, really.

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klugeramareply
lemmy.world

But why would your wife say "it's very disrespectful to refer to them that way"? That doesn't make sense either

It already doesn't make grammatical sense because your wife hasn't died, so you can't refer to it happening in the past tense - you'd have to say "before my wife dies" which ruins the joke.

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You could fix this joke by instead saying "before my wife's death" or "before the death of my wife", and having her just say "that's very disrespectful".

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I though this is a joke about re-marrying quickly, but nope.

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lemmy.world

You can talk about the past without reminding others of that particular memory. They're all thinking it anyway.

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DokPsyreply
lemmy.world

You misunderstand. Their wife is still alive so Everything is still "before she died"

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ynthrepicreply
lemmy.world

"before she dies" English has a conjugation for that... There shouldn't be a misunderstanding. What a weird post.

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DokPsyreply
lemmy.world

But they're speaking of their wife in the future tense as it'll be a future event. That's the point and why she'd find it disrespectful

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