honestly, I think my wife was interested in it beforehand but I had ruled it out. What started it was that I took our kid on a trip last year and i had no time alone for the week so i couldn't get the release I might normally have and the load i dropped once i got home with her again was massive and massively pleasurable, so i told her i'd be interested in dipping into it and she jumped at it quick. We've been having with with it ever since.