Random aside. If you think someone is pretty but don’t want to be a creep, compliment what they are wearing, or outline something that they made an active choice of. Don’t compliment elements of people they had no choice in, that’s objectification, compliment the choices they made, that acknowledges them as a person and not an object.
Unless you’re genuinely a creep, then ignore this advice.
Also, I'd like to piggyback here to talk about teasing. Not everyone has the temperament for playful teasing right out of the gate, so steer clear of such behavior until you have a solid rapport. Or better yet, ask for consent. If you have the green light, stick to the same things: it can be okay to tease decisions, but not things a person has zero control over.
Getting teased at school by bullies, then coming home to get teased by my mom was very confusing for me as a child. It didn't help that when I got upset, she just told me I had to "learn to laugh at myself." As if it's my problem that her words were the same as what bullies said to me.
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Trans inclusive misogyny
We are equal opportunity haters.
Can't comment on former but I hate how accurate the latter is
..hey!~
OHHH, I wasn't getting but it's the "women belong to the kitchen" mysoginy. I thought it was something about flat boobs or whatever.
No, you're thinking of a washboard, which is also used as a reference for really defined abs. So is it a compliment or not? Who knows!
frazzled bottom noises
Ewphoria
Random aside. If you think someone is pretty but don’t want to be a creep, compliment what they are wearing, or outline something that they made an active choice of. Don’t compliment elements of people they had no choice in, that’s objectification, compliment the choices they made, that acknowledges them as a person and not an object.
Unless you’re genuinely a creep, then ignore this advice.
This is the way.
Also, I'd like to piggyback here to talk about teasing. Not everyone has the temperament for playful teasing right out of the gate, so steer clear of such behavior until you have a solid rapport. Or better yet, ask for consent. If you have the green light, stick to the same things: it can be okay to tease decisions, but not things a person has zero control over.
Could you go back in time and tell my mom that?
Getting teased at school by bullies, then coming home to get teased by my mom was very confusing for me as a child. It didn't help that when I got upset, she just told me I had to "learn to laugh at myself." As if it's my problem that her words were the same as what bullies said to me.
You belong in the kitchen! (affirming)
sudo make me a sandwich (respectfully)
I love cooking :3
It's not misogyny, it's empowerment!
Good news, that goes away and you wind up a cranky feminist
Yeap. Once u pass over the honeymoon stage of the transition, it's just a normal life and the experience of cis woman becomes more relatable
Vice versa for transmascs, it's more relatable to be a guy. I can no longer open jars easily :(
I wonder if for transmascs it's now the other way around. And how with transbys?