Eh, life can change wife, life can change husband. Sometimes it's great for a couple years, then not. Doesn't mean wife not good. Just not the best fit anymore.
Nono sure. I wasn't referring to a specific example. I just see relationship as sth that needs growth and change and not as a never-changing system that has to be kept the same at all costs.
And yeah change can also lead to speration, which also doesn't have to be bad. Like in your example.
It’s because the thread starts out all negative, everyone contributes with their negativity, if you come in and say that your wife’s great and y’all are best friends, everyone jumps down your throat and gets nasty. Who’d sign up for that?
Edit: case in point right here lmao. Sorry y’all have such bad relationships with your wives.
TIL it is shallow positivity to compliment and appreciate your wife. Y’all are fucking miserable. I’d hate to interact with anyone like you in real life.
I think you misread the comment that you originally replied to. They are saying exactly the opposite of what you are saying here. "It's NOT [...] just shallow positivity"
Still a tad cynical, though, since even the "shallow" wholesome memes still have good intentions most of the time (spreading a tiny bit of positivity is better than spreading negativity) - though I can understand the perspective that if it's too shallow it can rub you the wrong way especially if you're having a bad day - like being told "just cheer up!" if you're depressed
I agree! Before I left reddit, there was this comic that basically spammed the sad comics subreddit before being exiled to its own. It was called "Marriage is Bliss" and I absolutely hate it. It's all about how horrible the wife is and how pathetic the husband is, and how much his life sucks. This strip is sweet, I like it. I can relate to it.
I'm a wife whose husband feels this way and let me just say, for a lot of heterosexual women (especially millennials; the 90's were rough for girls) it is very VERY hard to internalize this message, no matter how often we hear it.
But I'm trying! And it makes me so happy that he loves my body, so I don't get tired of hearing it, even if it's a little uncomfortable having to confront my low self esteem.
If you could make it out of the 90s and early 2000s without an eating disorder as a girl god bless you. I was an early 2000s girl and it was an era of if you can’t see bones you are too fat. You spent most of your formative years learning how little you could eat and still make it through your day.
It has taken a lot for me to actually believe my boyfriend finds me attractive naked I always assumed he just said it to be nice.
Not OP but the 90s were about rail thin models and constantly being pushed products to lose weight and be "perfect". Clothes for larger sizes were harder to find as stores just didn't carry them and online ordering was in its infancy. Body positivity wasn't as much of a thing, if it existed at all.
The crazy thing is that a ton of men found the heroin sheik anorexic model thing totally gross. It seemed like media/corpos and women were in a feedback loop of profit/ self loathing that had next to nothing to do with what most people found attractive. Male portrayals during that age were equally gross, but even that seemed targeted at women. The corpo/male feedback loop was (and still is, to an extent) around embodiment and display of either quiet boy aesthetic or over the top and stereotypical masculinity. Seems like things are getting better but I’m sure my kid and her generation will suffer new variants of the same bullshit—maybe even more covertly through supposedly “independent” YouTubers etc.
Chic. I see the word enough to correct myself without needing to look it up, but never actually use the word except the rare times when I talk about the monochromatic models of the 90s. Phononymochangomatic brain.
I'm sure it must have been super isolating back then too. I grew up in the 90s and remember that any class would only have like 1 overweight kid. Parents probably didn't have a lot of empathy for it either, because they would have grown up in the 70s and were barely exposed to that at all.
And that's the thing; you don't have to get it, just accept it.
Testosterone is a hell of a drug, and unless you're doing TRT, it's super hard to understand the effects
Same goes for sex drive. My wife hasn't internalized the fact that I would be happy to have sex at literally any time that wouldn't get us arrested. Like, we've done it while I have a full blown migraine, and I initiated. But, I'm just being nice when I say it.
It's hard to understand stuff like that when it's not something you experience.
It is harder and harder to feel good about our appearance as we age. Which makes getting lots of attention harder and harder to handle. I’m sure there are also times when maybe he never gets tired of staring at her boobies but maybe she gets tired of them being stared at. I try to be respectful and sensitive with my wife, always, but we have had the talk about how “we are married and I’m allowed to just look at you for no reason.”
The author of this comic strip came to our house one time when I was little. He was visiting some family at Pickwick Lake (I think) and somehow came over to our house with some of my stepmom's friends. I absolutely couldn't believe it that somebody famous was there with us at our house. He seemed like a really nice person and he left a couple of doodles of our dogs and an autograph for me and my brother.
I just sent this to my wife and asked her what she thought it meant. She said "that you don't get bored seeing them every day". I corrected her and said "more to the point that even after seeing many sunsets, they are still beautiful and amazing".
i shudder to imagine what the disclaimer text is like on that commercial.
"Scrotox is known to the State of California to cause genocide, hair loss, mania, toe-nail yellowing and violent outbursts of gibberish. Stop taking Scrotox immediately if you experience shortness of breath, priapism, a sudden urge to taste the color orange, see seven or more sets of twins in a one hour period, experience auditory or olfactory hallucinations leading to suicidal or homicidal ideation, especially if they're suggestions from a voice known as "the Sun God".
Do Not Trust The Sun God.
Never use Scrotox more than once per 1.27 per lunation, or 1.64 solar years.
Scrotox was created in partnership with the BioDefense division of Mattel.
If it's anything like what I have found it's more about how you treat her that makes her feel that way over looks. Emotional support is basically the equivalent here? Which is good because I would be really out of luck otherwise....
There's an episode of 'Malcolm In The Middle' where the job forces Lois to wear make-up. Hal sees her and and becomes feverish. Later on, she refuses to wear the make-up, comes home, and Hal sees her and becomes feverish.
Isn't that the same episode that Hal and Lois realized they never went more than a day without sex since they met, and spent the entire time avoiding each other?
Different one. In the one I'm talking about a customer solicits Lois, she marches him into her manager's office and makes him confess. She isn't not raging mad, to her it's just proof that the make up is demeaning. After she leaves it turns out the customer is the manager's brother in law.
There's also an episode where Hal and Lois can't have sex for a month. He paints the house, replants the yard, and gets a promotion at work...
Slightly off topic but is there a name for this boomer art style? I don’t mean just this artist in particular, but any comic/illustration that is very clearly made by a geriatric.
Slightly off topic, but is there a name for this juvenile word crafting style? I don't mean just your words in particular, but any sentence/paragraph that is very clearly made by some kid.
Yay a wholesome meme! Too many “wife bad marriage annoying” memes so this one is a breath of fresh air.
Edit: lot of salty dudes in the comments
Wife good. Marriage awesome.
If wife isn’t good then wife shouldn’t have been wife in the first place.
My wife’s dope.
Eh, life can change wife, life can change husband. Sometimes it's great for a couple years, then not. Doesn't mean wife not good. Just not the best fit anymore.
Why we talk like cavemen?
Me don't know. Boobs?
Yes.
Why use many word, when few word do trick.
Trick is what whore do for money
Or candy!
And you should change if you wanna keep your marriage alive. I always wonder why society considers change to be something bad.
It's dead, Jim.
We diverged in different directions and split up in friendship. There's no shame in ending something before both hate eachother.
Nono sure. I wasn't referring to a specific example. I just see relationship as sth that needs growth and change and not as a never-changing system that has to be kept the same at all costs.
And yeah change can also lead to speration, which also doesn't have to be bad. Like in your example.
I mean don't get me wrong, I'm still suffering. But it was the best decision given the situation.
All relationships require work to keep alive, whether it be romantic, platonic, or familial.
Totally! Was just trying to say that change is necessary either way. We can not expect life to be the same forever.
You are wise for a perogi.
i like the saying that your partner should also be your best friend
If ur partner is not your best friend then why are they your partner?
But I already have a best friend
You can have more than one
Although I agree in practice, the pedant in me thinks that best is exclusive to a singular entity.
I'm legitimately surprised to find a comment thread on Lemmy with people in a healthy long term relationship, what a find
It’s because the thread starts out all negative, everyone contributes with their negativity, if you come in and say that your wife’s great and y’all are best friends, everyone jumps down your throat and gets nasty. Who’d sign up for that?
Edit: case in point right here lmao. Sorry y’all have such bad relationships with your wives.
Honestly I think a large portion of lemmings are single and bitter and it shows. This one is a nice change
Are we lemmings ? I assumed we were lemurs
This comment is the only negative thing I have seen in the whole thread besides the wierdo right on the bottom
Work! Glory to your houuuuuuse!
Husband good, marriage awesome. 12 years this month ❤️
69 upvotes. Nice.
Sorry officer
I'll let this one slip, but let this be a lesson to you!
Username two letters shy of checking out.
And it's not one of those "wholesome" memes that's just shallow positivity
Must be miserable being you then!
wtf ?
TIL it is shallow positivity to compliment and appreciate your wife. Y’all are fucking miserable. I’d hate to interact with anyone like you in real life.
I think you misread the comment that you originally replied to. They are saying exactly the opposite of what you are saying here. "It's NOT [...] just shallow positivity"
Still a tad cynical, though, since even the "shallow" wholesome memes still have good intentions most of the time (spreading a tiny bit of positivity is better than spreading negativity) - though I can understand the perspective that if it's too shallow it can rub you the wrong way especially if you're having a bad day - like being told "just cheer up!" if you're depressed
You're replying to the wrong person
thats not very wholesome 100 of you uwu
I agree! Before I left reddit, there was this comic that basically spammed the sad comics subreddit before being exiled to its own. It was called "Marriage is Bliss" and I absolutely hate it. It's all about how horrible the wife is and how pathetic the husband is, and how much his life sucks. This strip is sweet, I like it. I can relate to it.
Wife still annoyed, dont think its that wholesome.
Wife often annoyed. Can't fix everything. Wife know me love her, wife still let me see after shower. Is wholesome.
That good wife.
I don't think she's annoyed, just sort of neutrally going about her business.
She doesn’t seem annoyed, more like perplexed.
If only my wife would understand this.
There is never, ever, a time when seeing her naked wouldn't make my day better.
I'm a wife whose husband feels this way and let me just say, for a lot of heterosexual women (especially millennials; the 90's were rough for girls) it is very VERY hard to internalize this message, no matter how often we hear it.
But I'm trying! And it makes me so happy that he loves my body, so I don't get tired of hearing it, even if it's a little uncomfortable having to confront my low self esteem.
I see it in my wife too. The answer might be obvious, but why were the 90's so rough on girls?
If you could make it out of the 90s and early 2000s without an eating disorder as a girl god bless you. I was an early 2000s girl and it was an era of if you can’t see bones you are too fat. You spent most of your formative years learning how little you could eat and still make it through your day.
It has taken a lot for me to actually believe my boyfriend finds me attractive naked I always assumed he just said it to be nice.
Not OP but the 90s were about rail thin models and constantly being pushed products to lose weight and be "perfect". Clothes for larger sizes were harder to find as stores just didn't carry them and online ordering was in its infancy. Body positivity wasn't as much of a thing, if it existed at all.
The crazy thing is that a ton of men found the heroin sheik anorexic model thing totally gross. It seemed like media/corpos and women were in a feedback loop of profit/ self loathing that had next to nothing to do with what most people found attractive. Male portrayals during that age were equally gross, but even that seemed targeted at women. The corpo/male feedback loop was (and still is, to an extent) around embodiment and display of either quiet boy aesthetic or over the top and stereotypical masculinity. Seems like things are getting better but I’m sure my kid and her generation will suffer new variants of the same bullshit—maybe even more covertly through supposedly “independent” YouTubers etc.
Yeah those Arab drug lords were really setting the trends...
Sorry, I had to haha.
Chic. I see the word enough to correct myself without needing to look it up, but never actually use the word except the rare times when I talk about the monochromatic models of the 90s. Phononymochangomatic brain.
That's modern fashion in a nutshell. They thrive by making women feel insecure about bullshit no real person cares about.
Like, fucking Dove had an ad campaign that promised to make your arm pits more attractive.
I'm sure it must have been super isolating back then too. I grew up in the 90s and remember that any class would only have like 1 overweight kid. Parents probably didn't have a lot of empathy for it either, because they would have grown up in the 70s and were barely exposed to that at all.
I genuinely wish I could see myself (and my tits) the way my husband sees them. I don't think I'll ever get it but I'm glad they make his day.
Like seeing fireworks everytime
Like a kid on Christmas
And that's the thing; you don't have to get it, just accept it.
Testosterone is a hell of a drug, and unless you're doing TRT, it's super hard to understand the effects
Same goes for sex drive. My wife hasn't internalized the fact that I would be happy to have sex at literally any time that wouldn't get us arrested. Like, we've done it while I have a full blown migraine, and I initiated. But, I'm just being nice when I say it.
It's hard to understand stuff like that when it's not something you experience.
It is harder and harder to feel good about our appearance as we age. Which makes getting lots of attention harder and harder to handle. I’m sure there are also times when maybe he never gets tired of staring at her boobies but maybe she gets tired of them being stared at. I try to be respectful and sensitive with my wife, always, but we have had the talk about how “we are married and I’m allowed to just look at you for no reason.”
I feel this so hard, I know my husband loves my body but I don't 😭
I totally get it. My wife had bdd as well, so it's taken some time, but it's getting better.
Send her this comic
100% makes any day better!
That is incredibly wholesome! I wish for you to continue to have many happy years together!
The author of this comic strip came to our house one time when I was little. He was visiting some family at Pickwick Lake (I think) and somehow came over to our house with some of my stepmom's friends. I absolutely couldn't believe it that somebody famous was there with us at our house. He seemed like a really nice person and he left a couple of doodles of our dogs and an autograph for me and my brother.
That's awesome! Most cartoonists seem like they'd be cool people in person.
(except notably the dilbert guy)
It seems to be a hit or very, very miss with cartoonists.
I kind of imagine Gary Larson would be a real life Mr. Bean
/c/thathappened
I just sent this to my wife and asked her what she thought it meant. She said "that you don't get bored seeing them every day". I corrected her and said "more to the point that even after seeing many sunsets, they are still beautiful and amazing".
"Just like a sunset, they get lower every time I look at them"... not to say they're not still beautiful haha.
can't tell if you're referring to breasts there or saggy old guy scrote. ballsack drag is real.
i shudder to imagine what the disclaimer text is like on that commercial.
"Scrotox is known to the State of California to cause genocide, hair loss, mania, toe-nail yellowing and violent outbursts of gibberish. Stop taking Scrotox immediately if you experience shortness of breath, priapism, a sudden urge to taste the color orange, see seven or more sets of twins in a one hour period, experience auditory or olfactory hallucinations leading to suicidal or homicidal ideation, especially if they're suggestions from a voice known as "the Sun God".
Do Not Trust The Sun God.
Never use Scrotox more than once per 1.27 per lunation, or 1.64 solar years.
Scrotox was created in partnership with the BioDefense division of Mattel.
and I thank my lucky stars to see each one. Life is short. When possible, ogle at your mate's bits, it's worth your time.
This is me and my wife. She responds the same way, but I hope she feels a fraction of what I feel when I see her.
If it's anything like what I have found it's more about how you treat her that makes her feel that way over looks. Emotional support is basically the equivalent here? Which is good because I would be really out of luck otherwise....
I treat her like the best friend and soulmate she is.
There's an episode of 'Malcolm In The Middle' where the job forces Lois to wear make-up. Hal sees her and and becomes feverish. Later on, she refuses to wear the make-up, comes home, and Hal sees her and becomes feverish.
Isn't that the same episode that Hal and Lois realized they never went more than a day without sex since they met, and spent the entire time avoiding each other?
Different one. In the one I'm talking about a customer solicits Lois, she marches him into her manager's office and makes him confess. She isn't not raging mad, to her it's just proof that the make up is demeaning. After she leaves it turns out the customer is the manager's brother in law.
There's also an episode where Hal and Lois can't have sex for a month. He paints the house, replants the yard, and gets a promotion at work...
The second one was the one I was thinking of. I remember both now that you spelt the plots out
I still softly say "booooobiesssss" around my wife in my perviest voice when she is nekked.
Real talk, is there Arlo and Janice rule 34?
Asking the real questions. I still remember seeing the black underwear in this strip when I was young and thought "... Damn".
It exists, so there is.
Nice
Yup! Very true.
Booooo! Not funny
Classic boomer comic
Slightly off topic but is there a name for this boomer art style? I don’t mean just this artist in particular, but any comic/illustration that is very clearly made by a geriatric.
Andy Capp style
Slightly off topic, but is there a name for this juvenile word crafting style? I don't mean just your words in particular, but any sentence/paragraph that is very clearly made by some kid.
I think the word you’re looking for is Redditor.
She sounds annoyed outside, but inside she’s creaming herself