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After crying basically every day for the last week I realised I’m not coping and that my partner has been letting me down, I have finally asked for more help. Looking after a baby basically by yourself 24 hours a day and being sleep deprived is hard.
I was trying to be the perfect mum, partner, housewife… I had this idea that if I did all the chores and cooking etc, partner would have more time to take baby when he’s home. Guess what he did instead? Play Zelda all day. Lol.
Well I’ve asked him to step it up. We have a sleep consultant coming to help with baby’s sleep. I’m going to hold MIL to her promise to come help out more. I’m considering trying to get baby into daycare earlier than we thought for a day a week so I can reclaim some sanity… we shall see.
Good on you for asking for help. I remember the early days when my husband would come home and say "I've worked all day. I'm tired. I need to relax" and I said to him "that's fine. That's understandable but when is it my time to relax because you've clocked off now when do I get to". He thought about it for about 3 seconds and went "ah let's work something out". Sometimes we don't realise what others are going through until it's pointed out. Compromise and compassion is the key here.
Yes that’s exactly it. He works long and hard at a job he wants to leave so I totally get it. But I’ve had to really start articulating that I am up every 2-3 hours at night PLUS looking after baby all day. A baby who is much harder work than the sleepy little newborn he got to know on his parental leave! We are just in this awkward phase where baby has a lot more needs so the load is heavier and we haven’t quite figured out how to distribute it.
I only just discovered the other week that if I hold baby facing away from me (not towards me) he won’t scream bloody murder. Sometimes you gotta adapt and overcome.
I can only tell you how we did it but everyone has different needs. When my husband came home he had about a half an hour to detox then he took over baby duties. That gave me time to prepare dinner, go shopping, etc. When it was bath time I'd wash baby then he took over dressing her and feeding I then was able to wash and care for myself. On the weekends he took one day I took the other to get stuff done uninterrupted. Housework, self care, shopping whatever needed to be done. What we did is communicate what important things need to get done and everything else is flexible. Baby's needs always comes first.
That is helpful, thank you for sharing! I have been considering proposing a full day each type system for the weekends. Right now it’s hodge podge and it ends up I’m still doing most of the work. He never says no if I ask him to take the baby but it’s annoying to even have to ask and not know when/if I’ll get my “me” time. Usually it ends up happening right at the end of the day when I’m too tired to then do anything I actually want to do.
That happens a lot. We get to the end of the day and we're too exhausted to do anything else. I would advise to write a list of important things that need to be done so you don't forget them. I did point out to my husband that he is a grown arse man who can feed and care for himself. My baby can not so my priority is for her. He then admitted that he would not want it any other way.
It took me so long to learn this. My ex was just as passive aggressive and emotion driven as I am, so we were just in an echo chamber of passive-aggressiveness and expecting the other to read our minds. I made the effort to anticipate his needs but he never did the same for me.
It wasn’t until I got in a relationship with mr. Omoikiri that I realised how irrational that mindset is. Maybe it’s because he’s an engineer and very solutions-driven or maybe it’s because English is his second language and just didn’t pick up on the cues I was throwing out, but eventually he was like “this isn’t working. I can’t read your mind. We can’t address problems if you don’t tell me that there’s a problem.” It was like a slap in the face in the best possible way.
Sometimes it’s so frustrating and I just want him to instinctively know what I need because how can he not see it, but only we know what’s going on in our brains and emotions and only we can speak for them. So we need to because otherwise no one else will and you’ll just drown in it.
That last paragraph - yep!!! I was hinting like “I have no time to myself” and then being frustrated when things wouldn’t change enough. I don’t think the sleep deprivation has helped me with clear and rational communication haha.
Then I was like. Ok just ask more explicitly for what I need. I wish I could just have my needs anticipated and taken care of but such is life I suppose.
Well that all sucks. I’m sorry you’re going through it. First of all, avoid working towards perfection. Those Insta mums who sip a magic whilst doing some Dawn seaside yoga have help at home garanteed. Your job is to keep them alive, that should be the only goal.
Second of all, dads on every fucking nappy during the day! What he’s in leave and not doing anything? Bullshit. It’s his kid too!
I have to remind myself multiple times a day the other women I see have family, paid help, etc. It’s so hard! I’m a very driven person and I love looking after my baby but it’s also not intellectually stimulating at all haha. I need my projects!
Yeah it’s so weird because he was really good for ages. I didn’t have to ask for things. He would do things for me and look after me. Then it hit a point somewhere where I’m like, literally having to ask basic things like if he can please do the nappy change or take him so I can sleep in. And I think that’s why it got to a yuck place because I’ve also been confused as to why/how/when things changed. We still need to have a bigger talk about That.
Just got in from work. It's freezing at home - and by that I mean ice on the inside of the toilet window. Come on, ducted heating! Do your stuff!
NB: dumplings in soup for dinner. Might even sneak in some veg into the soup. I have decided that the Massel Pho stock cubes are the best thing since button up sandshoes.
::: spoiler more of my selfish shite
my medication is a long chemical word,
typing it leads to typos, very absurd.
i know depression isn't just sadness manifest
it's much more than that, I surely can attest.
but for a short post, anti-sad works the best
i don't have to describe how it fixes my mess.
but this SNRI levels out my emotions
so I can live life instead of drowning
in a trauma-ocean
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Love 'urgent' emails at 3:30 with an 'action by COB' request.
Read through the chain of comms and it was sitting in someone's inbox for over a week.
I'm tempted to reply with 'Please see comments below' and have the only comments as 'It's not' next to their 'urgent' and 'not gonna happen' next to 'action by COB'
Yeah. I reckon it's because people who commented on the sub articles have nowhere else to go but the dt so there's the angry ones, shit posters and the "carry on. Nothing's going on" bunch. It seems odd.
Glad I'm not the only one who feels that way. It seems to be like the entire vibe of the sub has been killed with all the shit that's been going down recently. The usually angry people are still angry, a bunch of lurkers have come out of the woodwork whining about the sub. A couple of people who I thought were pretty chill seem to have turned angry too. It's so divisive. Feels like some sort of American politics sub with the sheer amount of controversiality everything is getting every post/comment seems to be upvoted, then downvoted, then upoted once more
This morning I am sincerely grateful for the ducted heating outlet in the bathroom. Ambient temp in rest of house is 13, bathroom is 25!!!!! Loving it. Not loving the bill to come but being clean is worth it.
A warm bathroom is a glorious thing. My ducted heating died years ago, but I have a panel heater in the bathroom with a timer so it is always warm in the morning. Which also has the bonus of keeping mould away.
It is fortunately 16 degrees right now inside our apartment with no heating, which I think is the bottom end of the comfortable range - I can imagine how a few degrees colder would be too cold!
Strange melancholy mood today. Started off by me pondering much better life would be if instead of having to be awake at a certain time, you got up when you felt like. Now I’m pondering existence.
That was me yesterday, but instead all I could think was how much life would be better working four days a week (without the reduction in pay). Just… all the things I could do AND NOT BE FUCKING TIRED ALL THE TIME. Shouldn’t be such a tough ask and yet here we are.
I feel you. The thing that always sends me in an existential tailspin with work is the lack of freedom in when you get to wake up, when you get to eat and for how long etc. I hate it.
I'm in Emerald for a couple of days to finally decompress from the absolute bullshit of work of the last 12 months and ngl seeing the choo choo train go past will never get old. Makes it all feel like it's gonna be OK 🚂🚃🚃
I love this! Emerald (and indeed that whole part of Vic) is a lovely place to be in, and having that ability to just be there in the moment during a point which sounds so stressful… that’s awesome.
It has been a long time coming! Very grateful that the weather is holding out, was half expecting to get out here and then be locked indoors by the rain, but it's lovely.
It’s not illegal but it’s very much a social expectation, in the same way that commenting on the weather is the standard way to start a conversation with colleagues or that you don’t wear a skirt so short your bum cheeks show.
I am! It's a little rustic studio (cough cough someone's reno'ed granny flat/shed) super close to town. There seemed to be heaps of options on Airbnb when I was looking. You definitely should! (no such thing as it being too early to teach TinyestBreak how to wave at a train right?)
Crawl into a nice warm bed, Mrs and baby asleep, just about to turn the light off when suddenly there’s a giant wet fart and the baby is screaming, cats are bolting off the bed and it’s on for young and old. This is why I’m getting grey hairs!
I follow a few art and craft type areas on various sites, and find it disturbing how much content now is basically just performance art. It's created to look like an interesting process for people to watch rather than because it actually creates something worthwhile, and it is way too simplistic to be instructional. Sometimes it feels like no one is actually living life any more, they are just watching it or creating content for other people to watch. I really like being able to share in things other people are making and doing, but real content is getting pushed out by this made-for-clicks stuff and its really disapointing.
I feel that. Similarly, every time I see footage of a concert or sporting event, people are just... watching their phones as they film it, rather than enjoying the moment. I find it pretty depressing, and quite surreal.
I will admit I like watching people knit (I'm a knitter myself) because it's very short of... Relaxing almost. Even crochet content too weirdly enough. But I imagine it's a different story for those who are creating drawings or something else. But I also don't delve deep into knitting/crochet content except for the few youtubers I watch.
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So apparently someone is impersonating epicpillowcase and made what I thought was a joke from them but was completely transphobic. Also apparently other fake dupes exist.
reported and blocked, but they'll have another account so it's fucking useless . who ever you are don';t think you'll stop me posting about my amazing journey, and I'll start calling out the fucking terfs and incels again now as well. just when we thought were untouched by the hands of fuckwits
::: spoiler spoiler
He gazes down from great heights
Slow blinking, happy he's got cuddles
He'll beg to be held, my fluffy little light
We'll sit together, he'll purr, drool, for a hug puddle
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::: spoiler old prose from reddit
I could not sleep, awakened afraid
Under the covers, I begged, I prayed,
For dawn, or death, for sleep to come
But mercy ungranted, I knew I was done.
For I committed a most awful crime
One for which we've all done time
Exactly the same or slighty changed,
Have we all made this same mistake?
I went to Woolies to buy a snack,
The cashier smiled, I smiled back
Items scanned, transaction completed
She said the words that have me defeated
Smiles and waves, "Enjoy your coffee and snack!"
"You too!" I regretfully cried back
Unthinking, unblinking, mid-step away
I died there, in Woolies, that very day.
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Urgh mum just called to ask if I can house/dog sit for them for 4 weeks in August/September while they go on another US holiday. Usually I'd go and do it if it's a week or two but now that I'm expected back in the office, I'd have to commute from friggin Melton and leave $2.2k worth of Docklands apartment empty.. the entire reason why I live here is to avoid the shit commute, so I've said no. Besides, I think I might want to go on my own holiday around then but I haven't planned anything.
Are your folks retired? I feel that sometimes those who are retired seem to forget what it’s like to work five days a week and do what we’re doing day in and day out and how exhausting it is. Hopefully yours understands why you said no.
Yeah both retired. Mum only just retired a few months ago from a high level job so she knows all about it. She was fine with me saying no, albeit disappointed because me house/dog sitting is by far the best option for them and the dog.
Its been a while but i did a homeless drop off today yay. The place looks like its expanded staff and is busy af which is nice. The oddest thing ive hoarded to donate is actually the ramen seasoning packets: i dont like the dehydrated veges and chili sachets but i read an article that says homeless ppl do. It feels...strange to hoard such a random thing but the shelter confirmed today they absolutely eat that shit up so 🤷♀️
I mean, a game controller itself isn't that weird to use. A lot of places, including the military, will just use one because it's off the shelf, decently ergonomic, and fairly intuitive.
Good take on it. I guess I'm quite prejudiced against wealthy people paying to do dangerous shit. Having said that I don't wish them any ill. It just looked like a really dumb thing to begin with. The PC controller on the thing is a bit of a joke tbh.
I was listening to Raf on ABC Melbourne just now, he had an interview with a CBS journo who went on this very vessel last year. Apparently anyone who goes on it has to have a special diet for a few days before to minimise the need for using the toilet on board, which is basically a piss bottle and ziplock bags for anything bigger. The 'toilet' is behind a modesty curtain and they turn the music up to cover any noises. Passengers are not allowed to bring any extra food or drink onboard :0/
I'm surprised that they didn't use/have a chemical/camping toilet, or anything quite like that. That seems like a better choice compared to some bottles and a lunch bag.
Holy shit, I'm hardly consuming any news but I heard somewhere there was someone trying to tourist dive the titanic and thought, I got a bad feeling about this.
::: spoiler winter chill
This is my mid-Winter night time ditty
Penned in bed, for this thread, in this city
My core is icy, I'm a chilly witch's titty
This poem is sadly neither warm nor witty
My frozen nose inhales the frosted air
Numb fingers typing, fumbling, pale and fair
The cat 'neath the doona doesn't even care
But if I move he'll bite me, so I shan't dare.
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Put together a brand new desk I ordered from Ikea, and I am enjoying it ever much so. I've been craving more space for quite a while and glad I made the purchase. The extra drawers are quite wonderful too, meaning I can put away and sort things in a more proper manner.
So update on the licence. Went to Warragul, the jobseeker person is really nice. Got my licence done and got a new photo so I am now ready to get drunk on my birthday!
However my paper licence does have miss instead of mx... Oh well. Also the jobseeker person has a refence for a driving instructor who helps people with ADHD and ASD. So I might actually think about getting driving lessons... Wild. Everything's coming up landsharkkidd!
tldr, I wrote this at about 1130. thanks for reading if you can sit through it all.
So reddit seems to truncate comments before 2023. Anyone else have the same problem? Or is possible I was just deleting everything before this?
All g either way my post on Jan 5 was talking about first putting my house on the market so if that's where the journal stretches back it kinda makes sense to me anyway. Its possible that's when I started no deleting things, as I used to delete everything for reasons I can't remember.
Thanks to all of you for your understanding, there was a sense of loss and dissapointment then acceptance. Now it's on my hd and I'll stick it on drive too.
Had an amazing end to the day yesterday and while I didn't think I'd need to do any volunteer work I had to do some things which will have postentially great outcomes and showed me how much good will there is for my community despite all the bullshit we keep reading about in the news and from other countries. Then I have the chance to do more tomorrow Thursday and Saturday.
I finally went to the opshop with the last of my stuff to donate. They didn't take it all, but a big box of cables can just live in the boot till I find somewhere to take it. The place is almost completely set up. It's so easy to keep clean and find things. St Kilda is pretty cool to live in. I hardly need to drive and I'm only spending about ten bucks a week on petrol. There's a great cafe around the corner.
AA is helping me face myself a lot more much than I had to in dealing with being trans, which made completely re-avaluate every moment of my life. Journaling is a part of a part of it so that's pretty good, seeing as its already become a part of my life anyway. There's an online group which runs 24/7 and its been a godsend literally. There's a chapter on agnostics which summed up pretty much my whole spiritual view for the last 25 years. Then the end I'm a long way away from is all about service, which is already a part of life as well. It has a low success rate but I don't have much choice other than take it on with the same gusto as everything I've done in the last 12 months.
Thanks for your constantly kind words Stud. You bring me teary happiness every day! I look up to you. I don't think I do got it yet. I need help. Being strong and thinking for myself almost killed me with the last bender. Lucky a lot the stuff I did this year wasn't destructive. I'm like a child. I used to think it was great to never grow up. But I have a 2nd chance at puberty. This time I'm not going to stop developing as soon as I finish it.
Thanks again Stud. Recognising I'm trans was all about creating better outcomes, setting better boundaries, holding a mirror up to myself and my past and walking in my truth. Recognising I needed help and support despite being a capable person enough to be pretty self sufficient has been part and parcel of my transition. I feel pretty calm and centred, loved and valued at the same time. Allowing myself to be truly vunerable, completely raw and being open to the fact that I didn't have all the answers despite being quite independently successful should see me cruise. The fact that I've always been feminist and female motivated is nothing new though really, my brain just has the right hormomes now to actualise it a lot better than in the past. This is pride!!
Is Lemmy short for lemmings? Like those little guys that follow each other. The walkers, the diggers and the ones that stopped the others from plunging off the cliff.
Yep. Ended up with a crate full of joysticks. Sometimes, if you left them for a while, they'd start working again. Had about 10 in the crate I think, as my older cousin gave me his. There was always one that worked, but it could take a while to find it.
Cool and frustrating trans stories for this pride month. So today I volunteered to help make care packages for older trans and gender diverse people, which was a good way to spend a morning. There's a job fair Transgender Victoria are facilitating tomorrow where I think 13 employers are directly seeking trans and gender diverse staff. It's not a huge number but it's a greatly heartwarming thing regardless.
I was going to wax lyrical about my bank and insurer being super trans positive until I got their email stating they could only reflect my gender as male or female. The super friendly person had mistakenly identified me as non-binary and therefore they couldn't change my gender in their system. I can't reply to that email either as it's unmonitored. Duh, I'm female, not non-binary, dumb dumb. I tried phoning them again now but after five minutes the line dropped. Seems like a simple clerical error but it leaves all non binary completely non-represented and that's not good enough, They've been trained but maybe not that well, still and all at least they use my preferred name and don't treat me any differently but when someone says they're transgender it usually means they're transgender, not non-binary necessarily. A lot of non binary people don't identify as being transgender and don't identify as either male or female. I should add they really went the extra mile to help up until now and are trying to be better. Just when the insurance lady and I had had a great conversation about inclusion I feel kind of deflated now. Two steps forward, one step back.
I also just read the elon musk has now stated cis and cisgender are slurs on twitter. I'll take all the good and feel good rather than dwelling on the bad of course, but its a reminder of how far we have to go. Cis is used as a slur by trans people sometimes for sure but not by everyone and not by cis people who are happy to be identified as such.
Damn house is so cold it's actually woken me up. Going to make a mad dash for my heated blanket on the couch and then return to bed for a little while longer I think.
They're great honestly and often in fantastic places. The ones at woodside beach are pretty cheap at this time of year, quiet and there's nothing to do but walk along the beach or relax in the park opposite. Pretty cold for swimming of course.
I think untimely deaths are tragic inherently. There are certainly degrees to tragedy though, and I agree that this is less tragic than most. It's just a big story because it's quite a spectacular incident.
Nope. Unless the sub has the equivalent of the sun in lights you wouldn’t see shit anyway. It’s all going to be covered in sand and undersea debris. It’s a flex to say you’ve been, no one’s actually interested in seeing shit cause you WONT see much.
Very much anticipating the outcome rubs hands like raccoon so much room for imagination as to what happened. I'm impressed that the oxygen could last them 96 hours though. That's something.
Initial accident trying to stay calm, trying to establish communication, testing all the systems, beginning to blame the CEO, learning about the maximum time they have, rationing the food and drinks they brought, the toilet filling up and god forbid someone needs to poop, REALLY blaming the CEO, maybe some other system failing. I seriously doubt they'll survive but if they do it will be a horror movie. They don't even need to change the crew for extra personalities. The scientist knew the risk. The aviator knows engineering. The CEO has been cutting corners. And two passengers are family.
I knowwwww. I mean it's gonna be a miracle and a half to get them back. I definitely think there may have been a scene where the billionaire goes to the CEO "I'll give you half of my money, get me outta here!!" shaking him violently by the shoulders and then someone tries to stop the billionaire tripping some switch off.
I voted open for the r/melb thing but it seems quite off now. Like you get your car back after it was stolen and even though you've got it back, it's just not quite the same..
In other news, throat is sooooore. Had about 100 lozenges. Hoping it goes away on its own, cbf going doctors :(
I stayed up to watch the Ashes and it was going so slow and I couldn't hang on anymore so I went to bed thinking we are doomed anyway. Woke up and found we WON. We won the first test. Woohoo.
Was a nice way to start the morning. I did the same as you and crashed at about 1am. In hindsight, should've gone to bed early and got up at 3 to watch the end of it.
I reckon you’d get into it if Tinyest was doing that. Imagine his little pads and helmet and bat, swinging for the fences and then running which ever direction he’d end up facing. Adorable.
Ehhh. To be honest I’d still rather watch paint dry. Let me put it this way, I’d rather watch him in an episode of MAFS before I had to go to the g on Boxing Day. I’ll support him 200% but dear god I hope it’s anything BUT cricket!
Oh boo. Where's your team spirit? Hahah. No seriously if Tinyest comes home to announce he's on the cricket team you'll be there with tears in your eyes cheering him on guaranteed.
It's so warm in the office that I'm getting sleepy. This is why I don't like coming here all that much. The heater going full blast + sun from all of the windows. Is there a "one temperature fits all" that can be set? I reckon it's pushing 25 degrees in here, that's way too warm for most people.
I'll have a latte thanks. Miss Meow tells me she is in imminent danger of starvation (despite having just finished breakfast) and would like a seafood platter with a side of chicken.
Good lord. Even the tender process for Myki is a shitshow. Honestly though were any of those providers going to be good anyway? And who were we to think that we deserve a better PT ticketing system?
Car inspection was fine, had all the books and stuff but it's a no because he provided a fake name and was weird about providing contact details when I asked for them so I could have my mechanic set up an inspection with him.
I'm Melbourne born and bred but I'm also a ride or die Queensland supporter in NRL State of Origin! Just wrapped up the 2023 series with an awesome win! I know I'm one of the few who pay attention to this stuff down here but still.. woooo!!
Going to look at another car this arvo, really really hoping this one is actually good. I've had absolutely no luck on my car hunt and it's really bumming me out, I was suppose to have bought one by now but it's just not happened.
I got screwed buying my Mazda 6 too. Though it's in an OK state now, I clearly overpaid for it when I bought it. And this was pre-pandemic car market too. Many regrets
Well that’s good at least, yeah mine hasn’t gone 2 months without some sort of error or cutting out. Nothing can be proven to be wrong with it, but there’s clearly a fault of some kind.
Air is warm and thick in JK.
The toilet is very sophisticated, space age really.. it's got everything. Impressed but not convinced toilet needs a control panel.
It's been a long day of being over tired and somewhat grumpy at work. Trying to rally myself for trivia tonight, but ready to just curl up and go to sleep. But I do love trivia...
Thanks for all the support lovely people. The community grows stronger with solidarity and I'll sleep well tonight. Transphobia is actually becoming less common but more nasty because so many of us call it out. The terf numbers are thinning and I feel safe in women's spaces just like all the women I interact with feel safe with me in them. They won't win and will find some other marginalised group to target as our marginalisation diminishes, which happens every day we show each other support like you all have tonight. Thanks, my cup runeth over!
I want to go camping/hiking, accessible by PT/walking, for 2-7 days, within the next week or two. I'm thinking maybe Great Ocean Walk, but would like some alternative ideas.
If you don't mind cold & wet, then the back end of the Dandenongs might suit. From Emerald, Cockatoo and generally around there. There are some good walks around Kinglake, Toolangi and Flowerdale but you'll freeze your tits off in that area at this time of year. Mind you, the Flowerdale Pub is worth it as an overnighter. Consider the Acheron Way too - wonderful on foot but a serious challenge in a motor vehicle rn.
I would not recommend the Lerderderg Gorge - it's dangerous at the best of times and kills people at this time of year. Got the worst fatality rate of all Vic's national/state parks
Used to train my horse around the Wombat State Park and Lerderderg River for nearly 10 years. I quite tired of being called out to help search for missing hikers - particularly in the cold and rain. Horse was an ex-brumby, and needed to be to handle the conditions. Yes, it's high enough to snow occasionally though not as much as Trentham. Nasty ground in the wet - very slippery. Getting the corpses and their gear out was particularly grim. This sort of thing isn't advertised and you can't really blame Tourism Victoria. For a nice bushwalk in winter, I'd go almost anywhere else.
It's much nicer in summer. Don't get me wrong, I love the area. I just don't love that people seem to think it's tame and safe. It isn't. Still, the fact that it's not safe is at least half the fun. Come summer, try walking up Goodman's Creek from the Lerderderg entrance. It's a fascinating walk, but not signposted and is physically challenging. The creek runs through a deep gully with lots of pools, gold mine tunnels (there's still gold to be found there) and magical plants and wildlife. Zillions of eastern grey kangas and black wallabies. More echidnas than you can shake a stick at. Excellent redfin fishing. Hard to find and no phone coverage but worth it. Ends roughly at the Bacchus Marsh Gisborne road at Bullengarook. Margaret's Corner and the O'Brien crossing are good halfway starting points.
Another place nearby that's not well known is the Antimony range on the eastern side of the road roughly opposite Bullengarook on the northern side of the reservoir. Most southerly outpost of the Mallee scrub and relatively untouched. When the reservoir is low, you can see and explore the old buildings of the previous Coimadai township that was drowned when the reservoir was built. Completely different from the Wombat State forest just over the road even though it's less than a kilometre away. When the black wattle blooms is quite quite magical. Rare orchids too.
Love that. We’ve got magpies and currawongs in our local park and I just love listening to them sing away when we’re walking Procrastidog. Twice during lockdowns we even had a butcher bird singing on the back fence and that was magic.
I don’t get the governments decision to block the tpg (Vodafone) and Telstra regional sharing deal. 3 used to roam onto Telstra, it worked great! The governments position was that it’s anti competition. But I mean, even when Vodafone were owned by Vodafone they had 0 interest in expanding the network regionally. It’s never gonna happen. This isn’t gonna inspire tpg to go spend hundreds of millions building out the network in the bush.
Still in bed, snuggled up w a cat on either side all curled up. Veeeerrrryy hard to get out of the warmth. They also double as weighted blankets which really makes me sleepy 😴😴😴
Saw &Juliet last night, what a fun show!! It was cute to see some die hard fans there, I imagine the singalong show they did last week would have been hilarious. Probably one of most interactive audiences I've seen at a Melbourne show.
I'm kinda excited because my main PC monitor might be dying and that will force me to buy a new toy. I'd been thinking of buying a big, curved gaming-spec monitor for a while but couldn't justify replacing these 32" and 27" 4k 60Hz ones I bought before I started playing games but the 32" might be dyyyyyying!
I'm pretty frugal with spending money in that if I have something which works, I generally won't 'waste' money replacing it (why I still drive my perfectly functioning but aging 2009 sexy purple car when I'd love something new) but when I do buy something I'll throw a bunch of money at it to buy top tier stuff.
I'll have to do a bunch of troubleshooting before I go breaking out the cash, to figure out if the monitor is dying or if it's just a stupid cable or potentially even my fairly new graphics card but still.. potential new toy wooo!
I've got complicated feelings about 6, it's one of my favorite RPGs ever, and since it's always seemingly in the shadow of FF7 in some ways a full 3D version would give it the attention it deserves.
However it's absolutely not a story that needs a "remake". Everything from the character designs (kefka is brilliant) to the scenes cough opera cough and subplots are near perfect, they would just benefit from getting a full glow up. (I do love ATB but using the recent battle systems from Remake would likely be very fun... I can just imagine fighting Atma Weapon would be awesome)
Do I trust current square to do this though? Nope. Not at all.
Car dropped off for replacement of suspension and mounts. Will the price be what was quoted, or will the find something else massively wrong...find out later on I Have No Money to Pay For This.
Saw an article over on ![email protected], which suggested the possibility of cash going extinct. I hope that we at least have some low cost/free method of dealing with it that doesn't have processing fees and surcharges if that's the case.
Related to the minor gripe of the day: went to a cafe in the city that didn't take cash, but also had a 5-10% card surcharge. Isn't that just a markup pretending to not be a markup at that point?}
For an interesting fact of the day, discovered a song on Spotify that seems to rehash Billy Joel's "Uptown Girl", but with a different lyrics, in a different language, claiming to be an original song, which is interesting.
I received the grade for the final assignment of my uni subject. I did good 😁
Hell yeah you did!! Well done!!
Yay! Congratulations 👏
Aww yis! Good on ya Raven!
5ivesos reporting for duty! Hadn't checked r*ddit for a while and just saw a couple messages from regulars letting me know about this place, thanks @[email protected] and @[email protected] !
After crying basically every day for the last week I realised I’m not coping and that my partner has been letting me down, I have finally asked for more help. Looking after a baby basically by yourself 24 hours a day and being sleep deprived is hard.
I was trying to be the perfect mum, partner, housewife… I had this idea that if I did all the chores and cooking etc, partner would have more time to take baby when he’s home. Guess what he did instead? Play Zelda all day. Lol.
Well I’ve asked him to step it up. We have a sleep consultant coming to help with baby’s sleep. I’m going to hold MIL to her promise to come help out more. I’m considering trying to get baby into daycare earlier than we thought for a day a week so I can reclaim some sanity… we shall see.
Good on you for asking for help. I remember the early days when my husband would come home and say "I've worked all day. I'm tired. I need to relax" and I said to him "that's fine. That's understandable but when is it my time to relax because you've clocked off now when do I get to". He thought about it for about 3 seconds and went "ah let's work something out". Sometimes we don't realise what others are going through until it's pointed out. Compromise and compassion is the key here.
Yes that’s exactly it. He works long and hard at a job he wants to leave so I totally get it. But I’ve had to really start articulating that I am up every 2-3 hours at night PLUS looking after baby all day. A baby who is much harder work than the sleepy little newborn he got to know on his parental leave! We are just in this awkward phase where baby has a lot more needs so the load is heavier and we haven’t quite figured out how to distribute it.
I only just discovered the other week that if I hold baby facing away from me (not towards me) he won’t scream bloody murder. Sometimes you gotta adapt and overcome.
LOL funny and random trick but hey if it works it works
I can only tell you how we did it but everyone has different needs. When my husband came home he had about a half an hour to detox then he took over baby duties. That gave me time to prepare dinner, go shopping, etc. When it was bath time I'd wash baby then he took over dressing her and feeding I then was able to wash and care for myself. On the weekends he took one day I took the other to get stuff done uninterrupted. Housework, self care, shopping whatever needed to be done. What we did is communicate what important things need to get done and everything else is flexible. Baby's needs always comes first.
That is helpful, thank you for sharing! I have been considering proposing a full day each type system for the weekends. Right now it’s hodge podge and it ends up I’m still doing most of the work. He never says no if I ask him to take the baby but it’s annoying to even have to ask and not know when/if I’ll get my “me” time. Usually it ends up happening right at the end of the day when I’m too tired to then do anything I actually want to do.
That happens a lot. We get to the end of the day and we're too exhausted to do anything else. I would advise to write a list of important things that need to be done so you don't forget them. I did point out to my husband that he is a grown arse man who can feed and care for himself. My baby can not so my priority is for her. He then admitted that he would not want it any other way.
big hugs
and yes, we can't rely on people reading our minds, if you want something you have to say it
It took me so long to learn this. My ex was just as passive aggressive and emotion driven as I am, so we were just in an echo chamber of passive-aggressiveness and expecting the other to read our minds. I made the effort to anticipate his needs but he never did the same for me.
It wasn’t until I got in a relationship with mr. Omoikiri that I realised how irrational that mindset is. Maybe it’s because he’s an engineer and very solutions-driven or maybe it’s because English is his second language and just didn’t pick up on the cues I was throwing out, but eventually he was like “this isn’t working. I can’t read your mind. We can’t address problems if you don’t tell me that there’s a problem.” It was like a slap in the face in the best possible way.
Sometimes it’s so frustrating and I just want him to instinctively know what I need because how can he not see it, but only we know what’s going on in our brains and emotions and only we can speak for them. So we need to because otherwise no one else will and you’ll just drown in it.
That last paragraph - yep!!! I was hinting like “I have no time to myself” and then being frustrated when things wouldn’t change enough. I don’t think the sleep deprivation has helped me with clear and rational communication haha.
Then I was like. Ok just ask more explicitly for what I need. I wish I could just have my needs anticipated and taken care of but such is life I suppose.
Well that all sucks. I’m sorry you’re going through it. First of all, avoid working towards perfection. Those Insta mums who sip a magic whilst doing some Dawn seaside yoga have help at home garanteed. Your job is to keep them alive, that should be the only goal.
Second of all, dads on every fucking nappy during the day! What he’s in leave and not doing anything? Bullshit. It’s his kid too!
I have to remind myself multiple times a day the other women I see have family, paid help, etc. It’s so hard! I’m a very driven person and I love looking after my baby but it’s also not intellectually stimulating at all haha. I need my projects!
Yeah it’s so weird because he was really good for ages. I didn’t have to ask for things. He would do things for me and look after me. Then it hit a point somewhere where I’m like, literally having to ask basic things like if he can please do the nappy change or take him so I can sleep in. And I think that’s why it got to a yuck place because I’ve also been confused as to why/how/when things changed. We still need to have a bigger talk about That.
I'm staying. I like it here.
Just got in from work. It's freezing at home - and by that I mean ice on the inside of the toilet window. Come on, ducted heating! Do your stuff! NB: dumplings in soup for dinner. Might even sneak in some veg into the soup. I have decided that the Massel Pho stock cubes are the best thing since button up sandshoes.
Anti sads what a great name 😅
::: spoiler more of my selfish shite my medication is a long chemical word,
typing it leads to typos, very absurd.
i know depression isn't just sadness manifest
it's much more than that, I surely can attest.
but for a short post, anti-sad works the best
i don't have to describe how it fixes my mess.
but this SNRI levels out my emotions
so I can live life instead of drowning
in a trauma-ocean :::
gentle hugs, you're not alone
I love that for you
edit: the better half bit, not the tanking and terrifying bit. sorry
Hey mate, look after yourself. You can get through this.
Anti-sads is great. I call mine my happy pills. I have my mum get mine if I can't. 💖💖💖
Thank you @[email protected] for making this thread 🙂
Love 'urgent' emails at 3:30 with an 'action by COB' request.
Read through the chain of comms and it was sitting in someone's inbox for over a week.
I'm tempted to reply with 'Please see comments below' and have the only comments as 'It's not' next to their 'urgent' and 'not gonna happen' next to 'action by COB'
SO TEMPTED
I wish, but there's too many important people involved. One day though...one day.....
Nah, chickened out. Just didn't reply at all
A new app for Lemmy has been announced by Sync dev. (Sync is a Reddit 3P app for Android)
https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36405939
Yes! That's my man. Go you good thing.
Whenever I see you good peeps recruiting on the OG dt I upvote you. ⬆️
Me too. The old thread seems busy, but dead at the same time.
Yeah. I reckon it's because people who commented on the sub articles have nowhere else to go but the dt so there's the angry ones, shit posters and the "carry on. Nothing's going on" bunch. It seems odd.
It does feel like the grumpy club stayed, and the fun club came here. At least that's what it feels like to me.
Glad I'm not the only one who feels that way. It seems to be like the entire vibe of the sub has been killed with all the shit that's been going down recently. The usually angry people are still angry, a bunch of lurkers have come out of the woodwork whining about the sub. A couple of people who I thought were pretty chill seem to have turned angry too. It's so divisive. Feels like some sort of American politics sub with the sheer amount of controversiality everything is getting every post/comment seems to be upvoted, then downvoted, then upoted once more
There’s nothing in there I want to comment on, that’s for sure. Dunno about you but my reddit app is glitchy af anyway.
Made it to indo we're in da area.
Bit wasted so was just having a durry and saying hello to every one who walked in out the front with my new security man fren.
was a big day. with some delay.
This morning I am sincerely grateful for the ducted heating outlet in the bathroom. Ambient temp in rest of house is 13, bathroom is 25!!!!! Loving it. Not loving the bill to come but being clean is worth it.
A warm bathroom is a glorious thing. My ducted heating died years ago, but I have a panel heater in the bathroom with a timer so it is always warm in the morning. Which also has the bonus of keeping mould away.
It is fortunately 16 degrees right now inside our apartment with no heating, which I think is the bottom end of the comfortable range - I can imagine how a few degrees colder would be too cold!
Strange melancholy mood today. Started off by me pondering much better life would be if instead of having to be awake at a certain time, you got up when you felt like. Now I’m pondering existence.
Life might be better OR it might lead you to get into an unregulated sub and dive in the ocean, never to be seen again.
Still a better success rate than the Russian navy.
But Russia stronk, yes?
master strategist said Ukraine is no longer using its weapons! Russia has won!
That was me yesterday, but instead all I could think was how much life would be better working four days a week (without the reduction in pay). Just… all the things I could do AND NOT BE FUCKING TIRED ALL THE TIME. Shouldn’t be such a tough ask and yet here we are.
Yes, god yes!!!!
I feel you. The thing that always sends me in an existential tailspin with work is the lack of freedom in when you get to wake up, when you get to eat and for how long etc. I hate it.
Yeah normally I don’t feel much, it just frustrates me. But today it’s got me on a mood.
I'm in Emerald for a couple of days to finally decompress from the absolute bullshit of work of the last 12 months and ngl seeing the choo choo train go past will never get old. Makes it all feel like it's gonna be OK 🚂🚃🚃
I love this! Emerald (and indeed that whole part of Vic) is a lovely place to be in, and having that ability to just be there in the moment during a point which sounds so stressful… that’s awesome.
It has been a long time coming! Very grateful that the weather is holding out, was half expecting to get out here and then be locked indoors by the rain, but it's lovely.
Did you wave to the little choo-choo?
Oh 100%! Thought it was illegal not to? 😂
It’s not illegal but it’s very much a social expectation, in the same way that commenting on the weather is the standard way to start a conversation with colleagues or that you don’t wear a skirt so short your bum cheeks show.
I like your Daily Thread title bye the way.
Chef kiss.
Bloody love emerald! Are you staying at an airbnb? I’d love to do a night or 2 away up there.
I am! It's a little rustic studio (cough cough someone's reno'ed granny flat/shed) super close to town. There seemed to be heaps of options on Airbnb when I was looking. You definitely should! (no such thing as it being too early to teach TinyestBreak how to wave at a train right?)
We were there about 2 weeks before he was born and I said to the Mrs I’m super duper excited to take him on it when he is old enough!
My chicken katsu
::: spoiler spoiler
:::
I don't know if it worked properly.
Crawl into a nice warm bed, Mrs and baby asleep, just about to turn the light off when suddenly there’s a giant wet fart and the baby is screaming, cats are bolting off the bed and it’s on for young and old. This is why I’m getting grey hairs!
Heheheh 🤣
I follow a few art and craft type areas on various sites, and find it disturbing how much content now is basically just performance art. It's created to look like an interesting process for people to watch rather than because it actually creates something worthwhile, and it is way too simplistic to be instructional. Sometimes it feels like no one is actually living life any more, they are just watching it or creating content for other people to watch. I really like being able to share in things other people are making and doing, but real content is getting pushed out by this made-for-clicks stuff and its really disapointing.
I feel that. Similarly, every time I see footage of a concert or sporting event, people are just... watching their phones as they film it, rather than enjoying the moment. I find it pretty depressing, and quite surreal.
I will admit I like watching people knit (I'm a knitter myself) because it's very short of... Relaxing almost. Even crochet content too weirdly enough. But I imagine it's a different story for those who are creating drawings or something else. But I also don't delve deep into knitting/crochet content except for the few youtubers I watch.
Good to see the daily threads still going strong.
Have a look here to find more communities to add to your aussie.zone account. You can copy/paste the full html link into aussie.zone/search and it will find it within 10+ seconds.
Meeting the future SIL's fam bam tonight eeee..
Apparently they're loose units and no topic is out of bounds.
We'll see!
So apparently someone is impersonating epicpillowcase and made what I thought was a joke from them but was completely transphobic. Also apparently other fake dupes exist. reported and blocked, but they'll have another account so it's fucking useless . who ever you are don';t think you'll stop me posting about my amazing journey, and I'll start calling out the fucking terfs and incels again now as well. just when we thought were untouched by the hands of fuckwits
hey, Seagoon here, it's been the devil to try to log in so I made a new account 👍
::: spoiler spoiler He gazes down from great heights
Slow blinking, happy he's got cuddles
He'll beg to be held, my fluffy little light
We'll sit together, he'll purr, drool, for a hug puddle :::
did ya write that yourself? :o
i like em! what do you think is your best?
Yeah please save them!
::: spoiler old prose from reddit I could not sleep, awakened afraid
Under the covers, I begged, I prayed,
For dawn, or death, for sleep to come
But mercy ungranted, I knew I was done.
For I committed a most awful crime
One for which we've all done time
Exactly the same or slighty changed,
Have we all made this same mistake?
I went to Woolies to buy a snack,
The cashier smiled, I smiled back
Items scanned, transaction completed
She said the words that have me defeated
Smiles and waves, "Enjoy your coffee and snack!"
"You too!" I regretfully cried back
Unthinking, unblinking, mid-step away
I died there, in Woolies, that very day. :::
ehehe, thats great.
Urgh mum just called to ask if I can house/dog sit for them for 4 weeks in August/September while they go on another US holiday. Usually I'd go and do it if it's a week or two but now that I'm expected back in the office, I'd have to commute from friggin Melton and leave $2.2k worth of Docklands apartment empty.. the entire reason why I live here is to avoid the shit commute, so I've said no. Besides, I think I might want to go on my own holiday around then but I haven't planned anything.
Are your folks retired? I feel that sometimes those who are retired seem to forget what it’s like to work five days a week and do what we’re doing day in and day out and how exhausting it is. Hopefully yours understands why you said no.
Yeah both retired. Mum only just retired a few months ago from a high level job so she knows all about it. She was fine with me saying no, albeit disappointed because me house/dog sitting is by far the best option for them and the dog.
The dog can’t come and stay with you?
Nah he wouldn't do well in my apartment. He's used to being able to go outside whenever he needs to and would probably freak out when I went to work.
::: spoiler spoiler Don't mind me I'm just playing
:::
Trivia ended up being a total blast and my team finally won!! How exciting!
Its been a while but i did a homeless drop off today yay. The place looks like its expanded staff and is busy af which is nice. The oddest thing ive hoarded to donate is actually the ramen seasoning packets: i dont like the dehydrated veges and chili sachets but i read an article that says homeless ppl do. It feels...strange to hoard such a random thing but the shelter confirmed today they absolutely eat that shit up so 🤷♀️
The NTSB investigation into the Billionaires Titanic Submersible is going to be interesting.
I remember when the kursk went down, felt so bad for those kids, dying for the hubris of their country. I read all the reports. 😔 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FLTxA-1JI3M&ab_channel=monkmus
"Who might know of this, The notes we left, Our final thoughts, And we knew they'd get us out...
There was a podcast episode on this. It explained what went wrong and what they did when they knew they weren't get out. I think it was on Casefile.
When you consider they were depending on Starlink for communications ....
Steering was done using Logitech G F710 game controllers as well.
I use the USB version of it on my PC. It ain't the best for games. Probably not great for operating underwater craft either
WTF
I mean, a game controller itself isn't that weird to use. A lot of places, including the military, will just use one because it's off the shelf, decently ergonomic, and fairly intuitive.
Using a wireless one, let alone a wireless one known for having connection problems doesn't seem like the best idea, though. I would have expected a wired one, or something along those lines.
What happens if someone forgot to charge it, and didn't bring any replacement batteries? Would they just be sunk?
No way! Really?
Maybe on the support ship, but not on the sub. Starlink frequency can't penetrate water.
Would this warrant an investigation? It's a private operation in international waters (AFAIK) that was 100% voluntary.
I'm sure there's a myriad (or plethora) of things that were wrong with the vessel.
insurance companies will want an investigation
and I think navys and coast guards, to be pragmatic missions like this are a valuable learning tool and good practice
Fair points.
There were paying customers, on a ship built in the United States, departing from Canada.
Both NTSB and the TSB in Canada will want to investigate, as it was commercial.
Good take on it. I guess I'm quite prejudiced against wealthy people paying to do dangerous shit. Having said that I don't wish them any ill. It just looked like a really dumb thing to begin with. The PC controller on the thing is a bit of a joke tbh.
Wealthy paying to die in ways reserved for workers as a result of an employees negligence.
I would imagine that being wealthy, one would go above and beyond to ensure one's safety. Especially when it's a highly dangerous situation.
Definitely would rather be in an Airbus though.
With triple redundancies on all steering and control related systems, and almost all software will be mathematically proven for correctness.
All this is hard and expensive though (Software in this environment cannot use dynamic memory at all), hence I can see a startup taking shortcuts.
I was listening to Raf on ABC Melbourne just now, he had an interview with a CBS journo who went on this very vessel last year. Apparently anyone who goes on it has to have a special diet for a few days before to minimise the need for using the toilet on board, which is basically a piss bottle and ziplock bags for anything bigger. The 'toilet' is behind a modesty curtain and they turn the music up to cover any noises. Passengers are not allowed to bring any extra food or drink onboard :0/
It sounds like Colonoscopy prep. Which is done so that your bowels don't explode due to a gas build up during the operation.
I'm surprised that they didn't use/have a chemical/camping toilet, or anything quite like that. That seems like a better choice compared to some bottles and a lunch bag.
Holy shit, I'm hardly consuming any news but I heard somewhere there was someone trying to tourist dive the titanic and thought, I got a bad feeling about this.
::: spoiler winter chill This is my mid-Winter night time ditty
Penned in bed, for this thread, in this city
My core is icy, I'm a chilly witch's titty
This poem is sadly neither warm nor witty
My frozen nose inhales the frosted air
Numb fingers typing, fumbling, pale and fair
The cat 'neath the doona doesn't even care
But if I move he'll bite me, so I shan't dare. :::
Nice reflection poem
Put together a brand new desk I ordered from Ikea, and I am enjoying it ever much so. I've been craving more space for quite a while and glad I made the purchase. The extra drawers are quite wonderful too, meaning I can put away and sort things in a more proper manner.
So update on the licence. Went to Warragul, the jobseeker person is really nice. Got my licence done and got a new photo so I am now ready to get drunk on my birthday!
However my paper licence does have miss instead of mx... Oh well. Also the jobseeker person has a refence for a driving instructor who helps people with ADHD and ASD. So I might actually think about getting driving lessons... Wild. Everything's coming up landsharkkidd!
Aww thank you! I'm excited for me too. Just not excited for how much a car upkeep will cost... Haha
tldr, I wrote this at about 1130. thanks for reading if you can sit through it all.
So reddit seems to truncate comments before 2023. Anyone else have the same problem? Or is possible I was just deleting everything before this?
All g either way my post on Jan 5 was talking about first putting my house on the market so if that's where the journal stretches back it kinda makes sense to me anyway. Its possible that's when I started no deleting things, as I used to delete everything for reasons I can't remember.
Thanks to all of you for your understanding, there was a sense of loss and dissapointment then acceptance. Now it's on my hd and I'll stick it on drive too.
Had an amazing end to the day yesterday and while I didn't think I'd need to do any volunteer work I had to do some things which will have postentially great outcomes and showed me how much good will there is for my community despite all the bullshit we keep reading about in the news and from other countries. Then I have the chance to do more tomorrow Thursday and Saturday.
I finally went to the opshop with the last of my stuff to donate. They didn't take it all, but a big box of cables can just live in the boot till I find somewhere to take it. The place is almost completely set up. It's so easy to keep clean and find things. St Kilda is pretty cool to live in. I hardly need to drive and I'm only spending about ten bucks a week on petrol. There's a great cafe around the corner.
AA is helping me face myself a lot more much than I had to in dealing with being trans, which made completely re-avaluate every moment of my life. Journaling is a part of a part of it so that's pretty good, seeing as its already become a part of my life anyway. There's an online group which runs 24/7 and its been a godsend literally. There's a chapter on agnostics which summed up pretty much my whole spiritual view for the last 25 years. Then the end I'm a long way away from is all about service, which is already a part of life as well. It has a low success rate but I don't have much choice other than take it on with the same gusto as everything I've done in the last 12 months.
Thanks for your constantly kind words Stud. You bring me teary happiness every day! I look up to you. I don't think I do got it yet. I need help. Being strong and thinking for myself almost killed me with the last bender. Lucky a lot the stuff I did this year wasn't destructive. I'm like a child. I used to think it was great to never grow up. But I have a 2nd chance at puberty. This time I'm not going to stop developing as soon as I finish it.
Thanks again Stud. Recognising I'm trans was all about creating better outcomes, setting better boundaries, holding a mirror up to myself and my past and walking in my truth. Recognising I needed help and support despite being a capable person enough to be pretty self sufficient has been part and parcel of my transition. I feel pretty calm and centred, loved and valued at the same time. Allowing myself to be truly vunerable, completely raw and being open to the fact that I didn't have all the answers despite being quite independently successful should see me cruise. The fact that I've always been feminist and female motivated is nothing new though really, my brain just has the right hormomes now to actualise it a lot better than in the past. This is pride!!
Thanks Stud, I love you <3
Is Lemmy short for lemmings? Like those little guys that follow each other. The walkers, the diggers and the ones that stopped the others from plunging off the cliff.
I thought lemmy was the guy from motorhead
This is their logo
::: spoiler Image: Lemmy logo :::
Ah so it is a lemming but a different lemming. I think it might be tongue in cheek though. Haha.
One of my favourite games. I had it on Commodore 64 first I think. On tape.
Haha. That tape extension was expensive. We had some formula 1 game and cricket.
Also I remember skateboarding, PGA golf and the Summer Olympics. ☺
I broke so many joysticks playing Summer Olympics.
Haha. If I can remember correctly you had to slam that joystick left and right a million times just make your athlete run fast.
Yep. Ended up with a crate full of joysticks. Sometimes, if you left them for a while, they'd start working again. Had about 10 in the crate I think, as my older cousin gave me his. There was always one that worked, but it could take a while to find it.
Same for Motorhead. Lemme a quid til Friday.
Cool and frustrating trans stories for this pride month. So today I volunteered to help make care packages for older trans and gender diverse people, which was a good way to spend a morning. There's a job fair Transgender Victoria are facilitating tomorrow where I think 13 employers are directly seeking trans and gender diverse staff. It's not a huge number but it's a greatly heartwarming thing regardless.
I was going to wax lyrical about my bank and insurer being super trans positive until I got their email stating they could only reflect my gender as male or female. The super friendly person had mistakenly identified me as non-binary and therefore they couldn't change my gender in their system. I can't reply to that email either as it's unmonitored. Duh, I'm female, not non-binary, dumb dumb. I tried phoning them again now but after five minutes the line dropped. Seems like a simple clerical error but it leaves all non binary completely non-represented and that's not good enough, They've been trained but maybe not that well, still and all at least they use my preferred name and don't treat me any differently but when someone says they're transgender it usually means they're transgender, not non-binary necessarily. A lot of non binary people don't identify as being transgender and don't identify as either male or female. I should add they really went the extra mile to help up until now and are trying to be better. Just when the insurance lady and I had had a great conversation about inclusion I feel kind of deflated now. Two steps forward, one step back.
I also just read the elon musk has now stated cis and cisgender are slurs on twitter. I'll take all the good and feel good rather than dwelling on the bad of course, but its a reminder of how far we have to go. Cis is used as a slur by trans people sometimes for sure but not by everyone and not by cis people who are happy to be identified as such.
It be dark, yo. (happy mid winter everyone!)
Damn house is so cold it's actually woken me up. Going to make a mad dash for my heated blanket on the couch and then return to bed for a little while longer I think.
It’s currently 5C but feels like 2.6C sounds about right 🙃
I’m looking forward to a holiday. Sadly I think the only holidays in my future are a cabin in a caravan park, but you know what I’ll take it!
They're great honestly and often in fantastic places. The ones at woodside beach are pretty cheap at this time of year, quiet and there's nothing to do but walk along the beach or relax in the park opposite. Pretty cold for swimming of course.
Yeah we went down to Walkerville earlier this year and had a great time. Sadly we only have a tent though so it’s a bit incompatible with a baby haha.
Walkerville is kind of a perfect place yep.
The body is sore, the mind is unwilling but the coffee is strong.
Let's see how much fuckery I get to deal with at work today.
ohhh bayswater hong kong cafe has hotpot
Perfect weather for hot pot… just saying
I'm quite far from it so I'd have to make a special trip there. Maybe this weekend.
Take some photos, write a review. Post it on the main. Watch those internet points rain down on you.⬆️⬆️😎
Do it or go to a different hot pot place. Whatever you decide: hot pot. Heck buy ingredients and have it at home even
Do a pre-order of some pastries from Dröm as well
ohhhhh
Those carbs aren't going to eat themselves
Very tempted to go for a swim at the (seemingly nice) hotel pool but absolutely no has gone in there.
Don't want to be 'that tourist'.. but it's so hot..
Milk was a bad choice.
Everyone's waiting for the first one. Be the leader you were born to be.
Jesus Christ everyone on r/Melbourne is losing their fucking shit. It's like a gigantic mess of everyone going off at everyone else. It's horrible.
Dark thought for literally the darkest day of the year: if the Titanic submarine guests killed the CEO, they could extend oxygen for another day.
Am I the only person that doesn't see this as a tragedy? A voluntary dangerous venture to satisfy someone's ego.
Same with people dying on Mt Everest. No one is forcing them to do the climb.
Mt Everest is way worse. That's littering.
I think untimely deaths are tragic inherently. There are certainly degrees to tragedy though, and I agree that this is less tragic than most. It's just a big story because it's quite a spectacular incident.
Oh for sure. It's a high profile event, but I can't seem to see it past 'play stupid games, win stupid prizes'
Nope. Unless the sub has the equivalent of the sun in lights you wouldn’t see shit anyway. It’s all going to be covered in sand and undersea debris. It’s a flex to say you’ve been, no one’s actually interested in seeing shit cause you WONT see much.
Hamish Harding has quite the resume. Bit of legend.
He is the second Blue Origin passenger to die. The first one was Glen de Vries in a small plane crash.
Why stop at killing one? Survival of the fittest!
the 19 year old might need the knowledge of the scientist
Good point. I can see you've thought this through
I'd be concerned that a rotting body might consume more oxygen.
That's why you eat it
Preferably before the rotting
Very much anticipating the outcome rubs hands like raccoon so much room for imagination as to what happened. I'm impressed that the oxygen could last them 96 hours though. That's something.
Initial accident trying to stay calm, trying to establish communication, testing all the systems, beginning to blame the CEO, learning about the maximum time they have, rationing the food and drinks they brought, the toilet filling up and god forbid someone needs to poop, REALLY blaming the CEO, maybe some other system failing. I seriously doubt they'll survive but if they do it will be a horror movie. They don't even need to change the crew for extra personalities. The scientist knew the risk. The aviator knows engineering. The CEO has been cutting corners. And two passengers are family.
I knowwwww. I mean it's gonna be a miracle and a half to get them back. I definitely think there may have been a scene where the billionaire goes to the CEO "I'll give you half of my money, get me outta here!!" shaking him violently by the shoulders and then someone tries to stop the billionaire tripping some switch off.
And the sub is so tiny they cannot even stand in it. It'll be a core muscles-straining half bend half crawl over to the CEO.
I voted open for the r/melb thing but it seems quite off now. Like you get your car back after it was stolen and even though you've got it back, it's just not quite the same..
In other news, throat is sooooore. Had about 100 lozenges. Hoping it goes away on its own, cbf going doctors :(
I stayed up to watch the Ashes and it was going so slow and I couldn't hang on anymore so I went to bed thinking we are doomed anyway. Woke up and found we WON. We won the first test. Woohoo.
Was a nice way to start the morning. I did the same as you and crashed at about 1am. In hindsight, should've gone to bed early and got up at 3 to watch the end of it.
Yeah I just thought this is not going good. Woke up and was very surprised.
This is why I’ve sworn I’ll support tinyest in ANYTHING he chooses to do, but if it’s cricket I’ll be phoning that support in hard. I cannot stand it!
I reckon you’d get into it if Tinyest was doing that. Imagine his little pads and helmet and bat, swinging for the fences and then running which ever direction he’d end up facing. Adorable.
Ehhh. To be honest I’d still rather watch paint dry. Let me put it this way, I’d rather watch him in an episode of MAFS before I had to go to the g on Boxing Day. I’ll support him 200% but dear god I hope it’s anything BUT cricket!
Oh boo. Where's your team spirit? Hahah. No seriously if Tinyest comes home to announce he's on the cricket team you'll be there with tears in your eyes cheering him on guaranteed.
Weighted blanket is actually pretty good at keeping you warm.
Ooo that wind be icy… How is everyone this PM?
Slightly grumpy but house is warm at least....until the sun dips that is.
Can't stop yawning!
It's so warm in the office that I'm getting sleepy. This is why I don't like coming here all that much. The heater going full blast + sun from all of the windows. Is there a "one temperature fits all" that can be set? I reckon it's pushing 25 degrees in here, that's way too warm for most people.
18-20 °C is the perfect winter temp for the office.
In the summer I don't mind when it's 22-23
25 is just madness
Feels like such a sin to have cake and ice cream on the same day but...
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I'll have a latte thanks. Miss Meow tells me she is in imminent danger of starvation (despite having just finished breakfast) and would like a seafood platter with a side of chicken.
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Thankyou. The household is now all
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Some healthy porridge with fruit and yoghurt, a cup of tea and LOTS AND LOTS OF CHOCOLATE please.
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Thanks! Just what I need to get through this day. EOFY crazies at work are next level this year. All the world and their dog are going nuts.
I concur. Everyone is NUTS atm
Morning, Bacon! Could I please have corned beef, potatoes, cauliflower and white sauce? Was a childhood fave and I’m feeling nostalgic.
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Just like mum used to make, thanks!
Overcooked snag on some white bread with onions mustard and tomato sauce, and a can of coke Zero thanks
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I'll go back to my uni days and I'll grab a coffee and a breakfast burrito. Please and thankyou!
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Yummo!
The police helicopter is getting a bit of a workout at the moment over the Whitehorse area.
Was over Mentone/Parkdale earlier on.
Good lord. Even the tender process for Myki is a shitshow. Honestly though were any of those providers going to be good anyway? And who were we to think that we deserve a better PT ticketing system?
Car inspection was fine, had all the books and stuff but it's a no because he provided a fake name and was weird about providing contact details when I asked for them so I could have my mechanic set up an inspection with him.
I'm Melbourne born and bred but I'm also a ride or die Queensland supporter in NRL State of Origin! Just wrapped up the 2023 series with an awesome win! I know I'm one of the few who pay attention to this stuff down here but still.. woooo!!
Going to look at another car this arvo, really really hoping this one is actually good. I've had absolutely no luck on my car hunt and it's really bumming me out, I was suppose to have bought one by now but it's just not happened.
You should buy my Mazda 6 wagon off me! But you can’t come around today, it’s… hanging out… with a friend…. (Who’s also a mechanic)
You joke but people really do be acting like that.
I know. I only brought it in January and got screwed. Now I’ve got no choice but to screw someone else. Not fun.
Oh damn, good luck! The car market has always sucked but it's extremely shit at the minute, no one's even subtly dodgy anymore.
I got screwed buying my Mazda 6 too. Though it's in an OK state now, I clearly overpaid for it when I bought it. And this was pre-pandemic car market too. Many regrets
Well that’s good at least, yeah mine hasn’t gone 2 months without some sort of error or cutting out. Nothing can be proven to be wrong with it, but there’s clearly a fault of some kind.
Air is warm and thick in JK. The toilet is very sophisticated, space age really.. it's got everything. Impressed but not convinced toilet needs a control panel.
Ooh space age toilets, very cool
https://www.frontiertouring.com/current-tours/taylorswift/melbourne
Yay Yay Tay Tay
The Frontier pre-sale being on pay day for me is the closest thing to a miracle I've ever experienced.
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It's been a long day of being over tired and somewhat grumpy at work. Trying to rally myself for trivia tonight, but ready to just curl up and go to sleep. But I do love trivia...
Called off early from work which I never have done, this cold is slowly coming in waves 🤒
Thanks! The cold and flu season this year is certainly something
I think someone is doing drunken karaoke on a microphone somewhere. No judgement. Been there done that.
we are jealous
Thanks for all the support lovely people. The community grows stronger with solidarity and I'll sleep well tonight. Transphobia is actually becoming less common but more nasty because so many of us call it out. The terf numbers are thinning and I feel safe in women's spaces just like all the women I interact with feel safe with me in them. They won't win and will find some other marginalised group to target as our marginalisation diminishes, which happens every day we show each other support like you all have tonight. Thanks, my cup runeth over!
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I want to go camping/hiking, accessible by PT/walking, for 2-7 days, within the next week or two. I'm thinking maybe Great Ocean Walk, but would like some alternative ideas.
If you don't mind cold & wet, then the back end of the Dandenongs might suit. From Emerald, Cockatoo and generally around there. There are some good walks around Kinglake, Toolangi and Flowerdale but you'll freeze your tits off in that area at this time of year. Mind you, the Flowerdale Pub is worth it as an overnighter. Consider the Acheron Way too - wonderful on foot but a serious challenge in a motor vehicle rn.
I would not recommend the Lerderderg Gorge - it's dangerous at the best of times and kills people at this time of year. Got the worst fatality rate of all Vic's national/state parks
You are the best to ever do it 🥰
Used to train my horse around the Wombat State Park and Lerderderg River for nearly 10 years. I quite tired of being called out to help search for missing hikers - particularly in the cold and rain. Horse was an ex-brumby, and needed to be to handle the conditions. Yes, it's high enough to snow occasionally though not as much as Trentham. Nasty ground in the wet - very slippery. Getting the corpses and their gear out was particularly grim. This sort of thing isn't advertised and you can't really blame Tourism Victoria. For a nice bushwalk in winter, I'd go almost anywhere else.
Damn, that's intense. You have successfully convinced me to stay far away from Lerderberg, in winter at least!
It's much nicer in summer. Don't get me wrong, I love the area. I just don't love that people seem to think it's tame and safe. It isn't. Still, the fact that it's not safe is at least half the fun. Come summer, try walking up Goodman's Creek from the Lerderderg entrance. It's a fascinating walk, but not signposted and is physically challenging. The creek runs through a deep gully with lots of pools, gold mine tunnels (there's still gold to be found there) and magical plants and wildlife. Zillions of eastern grey kangas and black wallabies. More echidnas than you can shake a stick at. Excellent redfin fishing. Hard to find and no phone coverage but worth it. Ends roughly at the Bacchus Marsh Gisborne road at Bullengarook. Margaret's Corner and the O'Brien crossing are good halfway starting points.
Another place nearby that's not well known is the Antimony range on the eastern side of the road roughly opposite Bullengarook on the northern side of the reservoir. Most southerly outpost of the Mallee scrub and relatively untouched. When the reservoir is low, you can see and explore the old buildings of the previous Coimadai township that was drowned when the reservoir was built. Completely different from the Wombat State forest just over the road even though it's less than a kilometre away. When the black wattle blooms is quite quite magical. Rare orchids too.
I think you can get to the Macedon Ranges by PT but I'm not 100% sure.
Also Lerderderg Gorge I definitely know you can get to by PT.
I love you 😚
You're the second one to say that to me today. ♥
Are you cheating on me?
I'm taking the love from whoever's givin' it.
Saw lots of birds on my walk this morning, mostly native birds in the native trees. This makes me happy, watching their busy little lives.
Love that. We’ve got magpies and currawongs in our local park and I just love listening to them sing away when we’re walking Procrastidog. Twice during lockdowns we even had a butcher bird singing on the back fence and that was magic.
I don’t get the governments decision to block the tpg (Vodafone) and Telstra regional sharing deal. 3 used to roam onto Telstra, it worked great! The governments position was that it’s anti competition. But I mean, even when Vodafone were owned by Vodafone they had 0 interest in expanding the network regionally. It’s never gonna happen. This isn’t gonna inspire tpg to go spend hundreds of millions building out the network in the bush.
Still in bed, snuggled up w a cat on either side all curled up. Veeeerrrryy hard to get out of the warmth. They also double as weighted blankets which really makes me sleepy 😴😴😴
I had the same problem 😂
Lucky!
Quite a good write up, I thought
https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2023/jun/20/how-john-oliver-became-a-weapon-in-reddits-civil-war?CMP=Share_AndroidApp_Other
If anyone has read and enjoyed “The Three Body Problem” trilogy by Liu Cixin, Netflix will release a movie based on the first book.
https://youtu.be/5lj99Uz1d50
An outstanding sci-fi piece of work.
I haven't but I've heard about it and it sounds intriguing.
Saw &Juliet last night, what a fun show!! It was cute to see some die hard fans there, I imagine the singalong show they did last week would have been hilarious. Probably one of most interactive audiences I've seen at a Melbourne show.
One of my friends has seen it three times at this point. Die hard is right!
There were people that came dressed up! So cute!
I'm kinda excited because my main PC monitor might be dying and that will force me to buy a new toy. I'd been thinking of buying a big, curved gaming-spec monitor for a while but couldn't justify replacing these 32" and 27" 4k 60Hz ones I bought before I started playing games but the 32" might be dyyyyyying!
I'm pretty frugal with spending money in that if I have something which works, I generally won't 'waste' money replacing it (why I still drive my perfectly functioning but aging 2009 sexy purple car when I'd love something new) but when I do buy something I'll throw a bunch of money at it to buy top tier stuff.
I'll have to do a bunch of troubleshooting before I go breaking out the cash, to figure out if the monitor is dying or if it's just a stupid cable or potentially even my fairly new graphics card but still.. potential new toy wooo!
I'm unboxing my new curved monitor this morning :)
I got a new one last week too! Must be monitor upgrading time....
Didn’t think much of secret invasion tbh.
Can someone please explain how to do a spoiler like I'm a toddler otherwise I'm going to spam your lovely website page with my chicken katsu?
My gawd pinot is very expensive here in indo.
They must tax wine by volume.
365Lemmys with that guy from tism and tony whatshisface the comedian
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xEMzA_dVbsM&ab_channel=DAMIANCOWELL%27SDISCOMACHINE-Topic
The Brad Battin my reflection on Sky News post is so memeable.
What’s happening?
Like a selfie in the mirror, but on the Sky News Peta Credlin Set.
Can photoshop a demon in.
Sushi for lunch. Yummy yummy
Oooh sushi is so great! I had lettuce and eggs
I hope you had some bread with that too? I do like a good egg sandwich.
Not this time! I had some hoisin sauce tho that was nice :)
I've got complicated feelings about 6, it's one of my favorite RPGs ever, and since it's always seemingly in the shadow of FF7 in some ways a full 3D version would give it the attention it deserves.
However it's absolutely not a story that needs a "remake". Everything from the character designs (kefka is brilliant) to the scenes cough opera cough and subplots are near perfect, they would just benefit from getting a full glow up. (I do love ATB but using the recent battle systems from Remake would likely be very fun... I can just imagine fighting Atma Weapon would be awesome)
Do I trust current square to do this though? Nope. Not at all.
Did anyone here have to coach their kid on how to swallow tablets?... Not something I thought I would need to do with kidcalhoon1, so far, no dice.
Car dropped off for replacement of suspension and mounts. Will the price be what was quoted, or will the find something else massively wrong...find out later on I Have No Money to Pay For This.
Freezing today.
Saw an article over on ![email protected], which suggested the possibility of cash going extinct. I hope that we at least have some low cost/free method of dealing with it that doesn't have processing fees and surcharges if that's the case.
Related to the minor gripe of the day: went to a cafe in the city that didn't take cash, but also had a 5-10% card surcharge. Isn't that just a markup pretending to not be a markup at that point?}
For an interesting fact of the day, discovered a song on Spotify that seems to rehash Billy Joel's "Uptown Girl", but with a different lyrics, in a different language, claiming to be an original song, which is interesting.