How did you become a better converser?
I wouldn't say that I am a bad converser. But I have had a hard time talking about topics that I am less interested in. I don't always have a good reason not to be with these people so it's something that is going to have to stay, but when I am less interested I just feel like I don't have anything good to say or anything funny to comment about
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Focus less on the topics and more on what your conversation partner likes to talk about. That way, they'll be more ready to embark on a topic.
I once tried asking someone "when was the last time you cried in public?". The conversation turned to an unexpected direction (in a good way). I got to learn more about that person. Bonus if they get to ask you the same question, which gives you the chance to spontaneously start a topic of your own.