It has been 4 weeks since we had to help our little dog sleep for the last time. We had 18 extra healthy and happy months with him because of chemotherapy.. when we were told to expect a couple of weeks if we didn't get chemo. It comes and goes in waves but I miss his tiny little furry body and his chatter. We made those 18 months count, he even went on a 2 week roadtrip adventure with us when we drove to WA
Image: A smiling Pomeranian pleased with his new haircut.
Thank you.. especially when he was so loud and had such a big personality. We have an almost 14y/o Kelpie who is super chill and very quiet so the little dog's absence is very noticeable. We have discovered the Kelpie only barked because the Pom instigated it lol. The postie can now enter undetected.
Thank you.. He was very cute. He got a thrill out of being a pest and loved a good prank, especially involving toilet paper and underpants ☺️ our furry friends could live our entire lives and if still wouldn't be enough. We were lucky to have this little guy in our lives for almost 12 years. He only did things he wanted to do so we seek a bit of solace in knowing he only would have chosen this moment because he was ready ❤️
Thankyou all for your responses yesterday, they were too many and varied in nature to respond to individually in the detail I would have liked to give, but thankyou for taking the time and for your support.
I arrived home last night to be greeted by a very humbled, remorseful and apologetic Mr Peeler. The fine gave him a big shock, and when I saw it I could see why. A good mate of his had ripped into him about it before I got home, saying 2 kmph more and he would have lost his licence and gotten an $800 fine.. and then I probably would have pretty understandable grounds for a separation.
He has been seeing a psychologist about his depression & anxiety, which he was considering discontinuing due to the emotions it was dredging up. It was on the way home from one of these sessions that the speeding occurred. At my insistence he will continue the therapy and discuss what has happened and talk more productively about strategies to manage those feelings, but take time out after the session and sit in the park or take a walk before he gets behind the wheel, take time to decompress.
Today he will arrange for installments to be taken out of his fortnightly money, and I made it clear that, given all the other support ihave already given I am drawing the line very firmly on this one.
I also made it clear how disgusted I was about the drink before picking up the kids, and he knew given the circumstances there was no point arguing. The friend he visited is a flagrant alcoholic with a death wish, and he can visit that person after he's dropped the kids at home or on the weekend, but absolutely not during the day. He also needs to discuss this with the therapist. Visiting this guy is like a trap, everyone ends up drinking there. It's why I don't visit him anymore either, and I used to count him as a friend.
Finally, I asked if he felt I was being unreasonable in any of this, and he said no. I then told him that, given he agreed its fair and reasonable, if any of these things are not done, then I will end the relationship. Let's see how it goes.
Oh by the way I did my exercises, day 26 and I think 9 or 10 of tummy, I lost track. And I'm still off the grog. Have a lovely day everyone!
I also made it clear how disgusted I was about the drink before picking up the kids, and he knew given the circumstances there was no point arguing. The friend he visited is a flagrant alcoholic with a death wish, and he can visit that person after he’s dropped the kids at home or on the weekend, but absolutely not during the day. He also needs to discuss this with the therapist. Visiting this guy is like a trap, everyone ends up drinking there. It’s why I don’t visit him anymore either, and I used to count him as a friend.
Good on you for trying to move forward. I'm not sure i could given this.
Battling mental health I can stick with, shooting yourself in the foot whilst you already wounded I can not.
Dont expect him to pull himself up by his boot straps, but I would expect him to avoid triggers.
That spiral of self sabotage is a real dark and slippery one. Especially with brains that gravitate towards self destruction to deal with overwhelming emotions such as stuff dredged up after therapy. But I agree, others have gotta draw a line at people going out of the way to get sucked into that vortex, especially when such actions directly impact the safety and welfare of dependents. Guy needs to be more forthright about his tendencies and get help on how to hold space after therapy/emotional spirals.
You have handled this with a level of dignity, clarity and patience that I wouldn't have been able to manage, especially with kids in the picture. May you continue to access that strength and groundedness for whatever comes next.
Good on you, it sounds like you've dealt with the situation really well. Fingers crossed for both your sakes that he takes the opportunity to improve himself.
Well done sister! I'm glad he's trying to get better. He'd do well to avoid said friend until he stops drinking. AA has helped me realise how alcohol is at the core of so many problems. Other people's drinking can have terrible repercussions on those around them.
Alcohol really messes your brain up in ways it is really hard to see when being influenced by it. I'm at about 18 months sober, and in hindsight I can really see how much of my depression and other problems was being caused by the alcohol, but at the time I really could not see it. So i spent years stuck in this endless spiral of drinking to relieve the depression and anxiety, which was being mostly fueled by the alcohol. I knew I should stop drinking, but trying to deal with the depression without it seemed impossible.
I only managed to stop because I told myself it was temporary - just a few weeks so I didn't have the covid vaccine side effects at the same time, then a couple of weeks more because it was nearly Christmas and I didn't want to be hungover at the family gathering. Then I aimed for three months because some articles said that's how long it took to reverse most of the damage of long term drinking. I guess they were right, because by then I was not feeling like I needed to drink to deal with things.
Great work. I needed help from aa but have reached the same conclusions. A lot of shitty positions I found myself in, poor life outcomes and terrible decisions I made were due to alcohol. I have no idea if I could have stayed sober without aa but doing it alone has not worked in the past. I'd have long sober periods but always ended up having another bender. I'm only just over a month sober this time and finally my anxiety has abated. It really fucks with me. Getting a thorough organ health check next month. Hopefully I didn't do too much damage this time.
It's surreal thinking about cousins being friends. I see my cousins maybe at Christmas and then at the occasional funeral or wedding. It sounds nice though.
I wish we were closer, but I'm an only child and they are the eldest of 3 siblings. So they're close to each other, tho the middle one just moved interstate. We're the kids of 2 of 4 siblings as well, so Sunday lunch at nanandopas has always had aunts, uncle, and a subset of cousins.
I do see them individually, as mates, occasionally. This is one of those occasions.
It's always annoying whenever you tell people that and they're always like "don't think like that!". But when you have so many interviews and get nothing... you can't help but think that.
It's fucking demeaning when people tell you how to think. Seriously. Intrusive thoughts are very hard to deal with without being condescended to by people close to us.
Hugs and sympathies to all those feelin a bit down tonight. Seems like there’s a few that need a Friday night under the covers watching tv. Look after yourselves.
I'm starting to get sick of online communities (present company excluded) - namely how much people are willing to complain about something while continually consuming it. Two recent cases come to mind:
Diablo IV - people were upset with Blizzard that it was online only, and then they were upset about it being so heavily monetised, then they were upset with its recent updates (sending the user score on Metacritic below 5). And yet they STILL continue to play it, constantly. Blizzard won't give a shit about your complaints if people are still consuming it.
and
Reddit - particularly, the new r/Places that has opened up. The complaints in there about how it seems that bots are destroying the very essence of the "game", and that mods are sabotaging anything against u/spez... as if they didn't think this would happen anyway after the last few months. And yet people still continually use the platform.
It is not just online platforms. I have quite a few people at work who will constantly complain that the conditions are dreadful compared to everywhere else, who seem to believe they could earn more money stacking shelves at the supermarket or doing some other "easier" job. And yet they have been working there for years and show no signs they ever plan to leave.
And prisoners - they apparently have such a wonderful time in there it astounds me that these people aren't going out and committing crimes so they can get in on the easy life too. Strangely the same people seemed to be very upset at how horribly restricted they were when told to stay within 5km from home for a few months.
God, isn't the the truth. Everyone has a soap box (and I realise the irony give my complaint), and seems like complaining about certain things while doing absolutely nothing about it is not only a right but a responsibility.
Perhaps more people will leave when constantly bombarded with whinging commentary on the reddits. I still try and recruit now and then on Reddit through various techniques.
I need to get myself out of the habit of defaulting to Reddit. I use it for some news sources on particular areas I love, but ultimately maybe 12% of the content is useful while the rest is just rage bait, or click bait, or our-right false information. If others want to keep using Reddit then fine, but I really need to take a good hard look at what benefit I actually get from it.
People complaining about Diablo IV while continuing to play it are fucking idiots. You're right, Acti-Blizz won't change anything as long as people keeping playing and paying. It shits me up the wall, Stephanie Sterling fucking called it years ago, that microtransactions were awful and would become a cancer, and it has. I am tired of Acti-Blizz games, I am tired of fanboys defending Acti-Blizz; if they weren't going to boycott bc of the sexual harassment issues in the company, then they were never going to boycott over MX.\
I bought Dave the Diver last night and was having a blast with it. I switched over to Rimworld after a spell and had more fun. Then I realised I'm having so much fun with these more "indie" titles, and that things like Diablo IV are purely FOMO when it comes to wanting the game. I think it's an exercise in avoiding the online hype (although in saying that, holy shit Baldurs Gate 3 looks fucking incredible).
Also, fuck MXs. The day they became an industry standard was the day AAA videogames took a turn for the worse.
I haven’t look too closely into Diablo 4 despite being a huge fan of the previous entries but the slippery slope could be seen with Diablo 3 then the Immortals game.
No surprise that they’ll fine a way to generate income beyond the game release itself.
Normally we drink Pure Blondes but tonight we thought we'd give Aldi's Natural Blondes a go and it's turned out to be a big big fucking no no. It tastes like it's been filtered through hay. Luckily we have back ups. This is a PSA. Don't make the same mistake guys.
Quite a few in agreement with you according to this review site (not sure why it's in the cider category?). I tried the Rivet lager before and was disappointed.
I've got just over 2 full days left before the big move. It's a lot easier to cope with now that I've been to the house a few times, know it's not a shithole and I've met the lead tenant mentor people and know they're alright. I'm still a bit annoyed by the whole being forced to move in before I'm ready thing, but I'm trying not to think about it too much because it's kinda just a waste of energy and emotion
There's 1 other kid there at the moment, and he was meant to move to a different place today, but then the supreme beings of child protection changed the date yesterday, because of course they did. So my move in was pulled a week forward, and his move-out was pushed a week back, but from what I've been told (I haven't been able to meet him), he seems chill and does stuff most of the day, so things should be alright. But if worse comes to worse, he's only there for 4 days after I move in anyway
I hope so. I got to pick out all new furniture for this place, so I'm not taking the furniture from my current place. I also get 2 bedrooms rather than just 1, though they are on the smaller side. I think it should fit though
Yeah, I was planning on turning the 2nd one into a sort of private living room for having people over. I was going to chuck a workbench for my various electronic tinkering projects and a bookshelf and couch for a bit of atmosphere. It will all fit, but it's more about positioning things without it feeling cramped
Hi, have seen some of your posts and hope you’re ok. Is it ok if I ask what you mean by being forced to move? What kind of living arrangement needs a tenant mentor, and what is a mentor? Maybe I have missed some of your updates but also I don’t mean to ask anything intrusive. Just hoping to increase my understanding of the system.
Oh, please don't apologise. It's okay. A small part of the reason why I do share my updates here is to educate people a little, and I could yammer on about this for the rest of the night. I'm not sure exactly which of my posts you've seen, and how much you already know about the system, so forgive me if I say some things you already know
Basically I currently live in residential care, so rather than living with my parents I live in state care (it's essentially a modernised and lower capacity version of an orphanage). There are workers here 24/7 who do most things, cooking, cleaning, washing, dishes, etc, etc.
Lead tenant is for people in residential (or in some cases, kinship/foster care) care 16+ to essentially act as a transition from residential care (where everything is done for you) and total independence (18, when most support ceases). There's a "lead tenant" (although some organisations just call them "mentors", but I call them both) who are volunteers that live there and are supposed to guide/mentor you to build independence. They are more like helpful roommates, rather than full on workers. Dinner, washing, dishes and the rest are all left up to resident.
Technically lead tenant is optional, although as soon as I brought it up, they'd already started packing my bags (metaphorically). What I meant from being forced to move before I was ready was essentially just the above. The first meeting I had with the lead tenant program leader was on the 14th of June, and on the 2nd meeting a week later I was told CP wanted me in there by the 14th of July. 3rd meeting, I was sick, and I couldn't make it. I asked for an extension until at least the 1st of August, and they got back to me saying that the best they would do was the 24th of July. I didn't end up seeing the house until a couple of weeks ago. It also wasn't really about the date, more about my control over the situation being taken
Hope this helps, let me know if you had anymore questions
Thanks for the information! Hopefully it’ll be a positive place where you’re moving to, and you can get good support from the lead tenant. And of course, the DT never fails with life task info, if ever you need any!
I’m so excited for you!! I know it’s nerve wracking right now, but I can’t wait till you’re past the scary change, and you’re loving your new life. It’s gonna be fantastic 🖤
I'm doing some of tomorrow's cooking today. 12 home made naans and a big apricot layer cake. Tonight's dinner is already done. Sometimes cooking mass quantities is a time and mind saver.
I'm trying to defend Bluey on r/place but next door someone's turning MY LITTLE PONY into SLIMY LITTLE PENIS which I'm finding funny but also disturbing.
Never hurt to have a breather and disregarding notifications for a little while unless super urgent. It helps mentally. Sometimes you just need the quiet for a little while. You’re doing the right thing
Except when you’re sitting in the chair getting the haircut and the horrible overhead lighting makes you uglier than you ever have been in your entire life.
I got my hair done today as well. Speaking from experience.
Does the reverse apply? I haven't had a haircut on years, I'm hoping that is not a source of evil in the world. How many hairs do you think I need to cut to ward off evil? I'd hate to be the cause of something horrible happening in the world. Like Trump being re-elected or something.
I think it's only when you look in the mirror and the first thought is "I really need a haircut" and then you start to see the things a little brighter.
The university system to let you connect with other students in not working properly to upload photos for my avatar, so I have had to use the system to draw my own.
::: spoiler This is now me.
Image: A really bad drawing that looks nothing like me.
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It is still better than the default avatar it gave me, which looked a bit like Donald Trump.
Edit: I've been saved! I discovered it has an AI art generator.
::: spoiler This is the new me
Image: Dog in a straw hat, doing some gardening in a flower filled garden.
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Going to Port Melb in the arvo for this interview, via Southern Cross. Will prolly end up finding a place to have a quick drink afterwards in the cbd looool healthy coping strategies whoo!
I was just sitting here thinking about what I'll do this weekend. I might go dust off my golf clubs and hit a driving range. I haven't even looked at my golf clubs for... I honestly don't even know how long. Has to be approaching a decade though. There's probably going to be spiders in the bag....
Pool is something that you just don’t forget skill wise. As long as I have had a few drinks and a bit tipsy it just all comes back and I play great. I had a work outing that had a pool table and my colleagues playing were asking me how often I played, I was like like I last played before Covid so 2 or so years? They didn’t believe me.
Just got an email from a colleague congratulating me on my Quarterly Awards nomination at work.. HR have put my name as the nominee when I was the one nominated my teammate :(
Now everybody who would have seen the bulletin would think I did something cool. I've sent an email to HR to fix it but nobody is going back to check updates to a bulletin. For absolute fucks sake. I know both of our names start with B (I'm Brad, he's Ben) but that's about whether the similarities end!
That's hilarious 😂 if you win and have to do an acceptance speech or something, you should 100% say that you nominated yourself by accident, tried to fix it, couldn't, and then hand the gift over to Ben
Wakey wakey everyone! It's Friday! And even though it's cold, there's only a slight chance of a shower and the wind will be light. So with a bit of luck we won't freeze today.
Very good news - although the original forecast for a sunny day today would be better. It looks like that has been put off to tomorrow (which is good news for those who work standard days) so I will put off my garden work to tomorrow too.
Yeah, I feel like as consumers we're slowly starting to see issues with streaming services. I have my own gripes, especially with the amount of It's Always Sunny episodes that are missing on Disney+.
Bonus points though for calling out Hans Zimmerman's best work, in my most biased opinion. Fuck me that sound track slaps. It adds an incredible amount to a movie that is already so rich with content, while playing such a pivotal role in setting the overall tone alongside the visuals.
Would highly recommend seeing it at IMAX if you ever get the chance - from the opening scene - https://youtu.be/u9L0pord5jE?t=68 - the sound and cinematography at that scale was just mind-blowing
Its a rare two coffee kind of day but I realise it sometimes is like trying to change gears or pedal response or one of those things that make you zoom faster... but the low fuel light is still on and your oil filter is clogged 🤪
I just need to make it to the servo (weekend) after doing all my deliveries (stupid damn emails) ... Even if I'm limping along at the end. I don't want to think of this shit for the next two days. Still need to work out a way forward with my boss too
My phone number whenever I sign up for anything stupid is always 0412345678. If they want to reach me, they can reach me by email where I can just mark as spam.
that is the BIGGEST problem with iphone compared to my wifes Galaxy. her call filtering is second to none. My call filtering is 0. It filters nothing. Crap!
Also set up DND/Sleep mode.
I love this concept. But it wasn’t my phone that rang. Boyo has genuine work need to have unknown numbers on at hours I consider obscene. Working on that changing.
I really like that Google Pixels can decipher what's a spam call, and if not they have a screen call which I appreciate. But it's always funny when there's a genuine call and people think it's voicemail.
I have one a serve the other night. They Called the emergency work number that I monitor, claiming they were doing a survey about tv. For the second time, I hung up on the the week before.
Well I think I may have to resign myself to letting my partner just discharge herself though I’m worried about how she’s going to make her way home by herself in such a fragile state
Arguably there are some downsides to having someone who is slightly stubborn and a strong will even if it does seem broken at the moment.
Been trying to convince her not to discharge herself because I think we lose all the aid of home services we organised but it might be for the best.
sigh
For context she’s been stuck in hospital for 3 years or more and she was about to go home but got told she has to stay another week and got her hopes dashed again of going home so she’s been very emotional today after having the high of going home then having it crushed to deal with another medical problem where we’re not I a position to treat it at home due to cost.
Edit: a nurse overheard a phone conversation we had and has organised for my partner to wear a security bracelet so she can’t leave.
Far out, you're a great human for being there for someone through all of that. I had a partner many years ago who at times became a ward of the state. It's pretty tough to witness. I can understand her venting at the very person who cares the most.
I wish I had some. Do some venting yourself? I think you're already doing that here though. Take some out to do something for yourself which occupies your thoughts? I used to talk to my partner's family. That helped. She often saw me as the enemy and hated her friends. It was hard.
You think they might have been targeting my bullet point about using power saving features on computers? I guess shooting the screen would be one way to turn it off.
Got some old school dysphoria back last night. Lets just say I used to think I must be an alien. Cried like shit. I was around 21 then. It's still affirming to know I've always been like this, but sometimes it bashes into my brain in unexpected ways. Today feel amazing though, walked 10ks and realised my boobs have got a nice boob shape. 143 days hrt, I kinda hope they don't grow too big but most of my family aren't small breasted women. Still, euphoria quickly replaces dysphoria.
If you don't mind my suggestion, I don't know if you're at the stage where you need support but some sports bras may be a comfy and worthy investment. I got frustrated with bras at work and the dreaded bra strap slippage which occurs when one's active, as you are with all your walking and activities. The women I work with suggested I try sports bras and it was a game changer.
Thanks so much, yeah I have a bunch, two adidas ones which are padded I kinda live in. I have a bunch of other ones which I bought early on for modesty and wore because I just loved playing with the straps. Eventually I'll get some fancy ones, but they're going to keep growing for 2-5 years
Thought I was going to have peaceful day and rest and relax.
Nope. All fell to pieces when my partner was given news of not a great sort.
Have run out of money and wasting on my tax return to come in, which would have been here if work didn’t screw it up.
Can’t pay for the injections she needs and now have to cop an emotional beating from her because the universe hates her and will everything it can to fuck up her life.
Edit: my tax return will come within 3 business days from yesterday from a text message from the ATO
Can’t pay for the injections she needs and now have to cop an emotional beating from her because the universe hates her and will everything it can to fuck up her life.
Dont mean this to be rude, but I cant think of a more polite way to say it.
That just sounds exhausting as all shit. And whilst we should always support our partners, that doesnt mean we have to be their emotional punching bag all the time.
I’ll be honest. I can’t even begin to understand how she’s feeling and I often don’t know what to say to someone who feels the weight of the world is against them and and that they want to give up after fighting for so long.
It is. I’m stressed and when it comes to her stuff. When it rains, it pours.
I was also not good either with my response because I lashed out because of the financial stress when I should have been supportive instead but when she’s in a hopeless mood she doesn’t realise she lashes out herself.
I am doing a terrible job of studying today. It is nice and sunny outside, so I think that I'll go and do some weeding. That will obviously help me get in the right mindset to study and is in no way another avoidance tactic.
Marketplace sale finalised, paid for and in the mail. I really love technology and how much easier it makes these things. Having started off in the days of the Trading Post where everything was slow and difficult I am constantly impressed by how things work now. Being able to take photos of an item, share them with an offer to sell (for free, with no word limit!) and have the item sold, paid for and posted the next day is an amazing advancement. Being able to print a postage paid label at home (from the money the buyer gave me) and provide a tracking number for the buyer to get updates, with services linking together pretty seamlessly, is just icing on the cake.
suspicious timing on a new R/place. Also suspicious is these new Chinese propaganda ads. "People Flee the AUD" with a the CCP flag over parliament house? Disgusting.
That isn't Chinese propaganda. It's implying people are "fleeing" Australian currency holdings because Australia's ties to China are too strong. The implication is that China had excessive influence over the current Australian government, causing people to switch away from holding AUD to other currencies/assets. It's "red scare" propaganda designed to capitalise on distrust of China.
Did my boring but important stuff regarding Medicare claims. Decided I needed a treat after some of the shenanigans of the week so it was a night off cooking and Red Rooster for dinner (our local one isn't too bad and I've been good with eating healthy all week and taking my lunch to work instead of buying something on the way). Mr Peeler sorted installments out for his fine, to be deducted fortnightly. He's been like a quiet little lamb and seems to be coping well without the drink. As long as there are cups of tea to be had.. tea fixes everything. I've always found that if you have a cup of tea as soon as you get home from work you don't get the urge to drink alcohol. I've got so many different types of tea that I'm almost scared to count. Ok, I will.. (goes to kitchen and counts) well shit, I counted 19 different teas. Admittedly there's some duplication; 3 are different types of green tea, 2 are dandes and about 4 of them probably count as herbal supplements, but still.. that's a lot of tea! And I'd still like to get more!
My partner is away for the night in Brisbane to see a gig with a friend. A bottle of red wine down and considering getting into the Kava that I purchased when in Fiji….
I guess it’s not an easy thing to talk about because there’s so much to it.
I wish I could turn off all my devices to take a break or give myself a break as horrible as it sounds but she’ll only tell me that I was ignoring her and that would be the end to our relationship.
I know she has my best interests when I talk to her about buying things and treating myself or renewing my road side assistance.
If I didn’t do those things I could have paid for her stuff and given her some hope.
This might sound harsh but if a relationship is not 50/50 then it's not a relationship. It's a co-dependency and that's not always healthy. You don't have to explain anything to me or to anybody else. You only need to ask yourself is this fair.
That’s fair enough. The situation doesn’t always allow it to be 50/50. I also do allow for some give and take because it isn’t always ideal to have it 50/50 when it can’t be that way.
excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically one who requires support on account of an illness or addiction.
"the tie that binds most of us together in this trap called co-dependency"
Road side assist doesn’t sound like a luxury to me, it’s peace of mind. It’s a pretty cheap payment for a years worth of anxiety free driving. I’m not sure if I’m interpreting your comment wrong, but sounds like theres conflict about financials? Can you say to your partner you’d like a bit of quiet time for the rest of the day? And then raise it tomorrow and talk through your personal needs with them when it’s a bit calmer?
It’s complicated, there is some conflict with financial things and also some on the emotional side.
I don’t know, I think it’s depend on a bit of timing of when I ask for some time to myself. I have asked for it before but not in the middle of when she’s super emotional.
Im not going to ask for anything specific, but I'm going to give you some emotive words as prompts for your creativity. I trust you.
Lollapalooza, Sasquatch, intensity, reconciliation
Ugh, slept like shit! I kept waking up and then when I was asleep it was that type of sleep where you're dreaming and all but deep down you know you're mildly awake.
I had a pretty crap one too. I went to sleep stressed and with a headache radiating across the entire left side of my head. And then I woke up 3 hours before my alarm but couldn't get back to sleep because the stress didn't evaporate
No tax return for me yet, but I have just sold another Marketplace item. Quite a bit of interest, so the price must be in the fair-low range. Which is good, I find it's not worth the hassle involved in trying for the maximum price, I'd rather have an easy sale than a few extra dollars.
Plans in place to leave at midday when the factory crew wrap up for the day. Technically supposed to leave at 1.30 but meh. Need it after yesterday's shenanigans.
I apparently have a sniper at my place, should I send them over to deal with your helicopter issue? I'm not sure having a helicopter crash nearby will help with your sleeping issues though.
Oh thank god All Stars ended up with the right winner! I was so disappointed at the choices for the final two (well mostly just with one of the choices).
It has been 4 weeks since we had to help our little dog sleep for the last time. We had 18 extra healthy and happy months with him because of chemotherapy.. when we were told to expect a couple of weeks if we didn't get chemo. It comes and goes in waves but I miss his tiny little furry body and his chatter. We made those 18 months count, he even went on a 2 week roadtrip adventure with us when we drove to WA Image: A smiling Pomeranian pleased with his new haircut.
It’s so hard when they must leave, but not having their joy in our lives is insufferable. Best wishes to you.
Thank you.. especially when he was so loud and had such a big personality. We have an almost 14y/o Kelpie who is super chill and very quiet so the little dog's absence is very noticeable. We have discovered the Kelpie only barked because the Pom instigated it lol. The postie can now enter undetected.
What a lovely pup! It's the toughest time, especially when we fight so hard for them to stay with us.
Thank you so true. He was the life of the party - like the very loud, first time wasted kind of mate who you love anyway 😊
He sounds like a bit of a character, and they make the hole left behind so much bigger 🐕
What a beautiful little guy ❤ We will never have enough time with them. I hope you're taking care of yourself.
Thank you.. He was very cute. He got a thrill out of being a pest and loved a good prank, especially involving toilet paper and underpants ☺️ our furry friends could live our entire lives and if still wouldn't be enough. We were lucky to have this little guy in our lives for almost 12 years. He only did things he wanted to do so we seek a bit of solace in knowing he only would have chosen this moment because he was ready ❤️
Good morning all!
Thankyou all for your responses yesterday, they were too many and varied in nature to respond to individually in the detail I would have liked to give, but thankyou for taking the time and for your support.
I arrived home last night to be greeted by a very humbled, remorseful and apologetic Mr Peeler. The fine gave him a big shock, and when I saw it I could see why. A good mate of his had ripped into him about it before I got home, saying 2 kmph more and he would have lost his licence and gotten an $800 fine.. and then I probably would have pretty understandable grounds for a separation.
He has been seeing a psychologist about his depression & anxiety, which he was considering discontinuing due to the emotions it was dredging up. It was on the way home from one of these sessions that the speeding occurred. At my insistence he will continue the therapy and discuss what has happened and talk more productively about strategies to manage those feelings, but take time out after the session and sit in the park or take a walk before he gets behind the wheel, take time to decompress.
Today he will arrange for installments to be taken out of his fortnightly money, and I made it clear that, given all the other support ihave already given I am drawing the line very firmly on this one.
I also made it clear how disgusted I was about the drink before picking up the kids, and he knew given the circumstances there was no point arguing. The friend he visited is a flagrant alcoholic with a death wish, and he can visit that person after he's dropped the kids at home or on the weekend, but absolutely not during the day. He also needs to discuss this with the therapist. Visiting this guy is like a trap, everyone ends up drinking there. It's why I don't visit him anymore either, and I used to count him as a friend.
Finally, I asked if he felt I was being unreasonable in any of this, and he said no. I then told him that, given he agreed its fair and reasonable, if any of these things are not done, then I will end the relationship. Let's see how it goes.
Oh by the way I did my exercises, day 26 and I think 9 or 10 of tummy, I lost track. And I'm still off the grog. Have a lovely day everyone!
Good on you for trying to move forward. I'm not sure i could given this. Battling mental health I can stick with, shooting yourself in the foot whilst you already wounded I can not. Dont expect him to pull himself up by his boot straps, but I would expect him to avoid triggers.
That spiral of self sabotage is a real dark and slippery one. Especially with brains that gravitate towards self destruction to deal with overwhelming emotions such as stuff dredged up after therapy. But I agree, others have gotta draw a line at people going out of the way to get sucked into that vortex, especially when such actions directly impact the safety and welfare of dependents. Guy needs to be more forthright about his tendencies and get help on how to hold space after therapy/emotional spirals.
Good on you for being clear and firm!! Sending you gentle love ❤️
I am so proud of you for standing your ground on this. Sending you love and good vibes, girl! 💜💜💜
Amazing stuff on the exercises too!! 🥰🥰
You have handled this with a level of dignity, clarity and patience that I wouldn't have been able to manage, especially with kids in the picture. May you continue to access that strength and groundedness for whatever comes next.
Buckets of care in whichever form you would prefer it.
Good on you, it sounds like you've dealt with the situation really well. Fingers crossed for both your sakes that he takes the opportunity to improve himself.
Well done sister! I'm glad he's trying to get better. He'd do well to avoid said friend until he stops drinking. AA has helped me realise how alcohol is at the core of so many problems. Other people's drinking can have terrible repercussions on those around them.
Alcohol really messes your brain up in ways it is really hard to see when being influenced by it. I'm at about 18 months sober, and in hindsight I can really see how much of my depression and other problems was being caused by the alcohol, but at the time I really could not see it. So i spent years stuck in this endless spiral of drinking to relieve the depression and anxiety, which was being mostly fueled by the alcohol. I knew I should stop drinking, but trying to deal with the depression without it seemed impossible.
I only managed to stop because I told myself it was temporary - just a few weeks so I didn't have the covid vaccine side effects at the same time, then a couple of weeks more because it was nearly Christmas and I didn't want to be hungover at the family gathering. Then I aimed for three months because some articles said that's how long it took to reverse most of the damage of long term drinking. I guess they were right, because by then I was not feeling like I needed to drink to deal with things.
Great work. I needed help from aa but have reached the same conclusions. A lot of shitty positions I found myself in, poor life outcomes and terrible decisions I made were due to alcohol. I have no idea if I could have stayed sober without aa but doing it alone has not worked in the past. I'd have long sober periods but always ended up having another bender. I'm only just over a month sober this time and finally my anxiety has abated. It really fucks with me. Getting a thorough organ health check next month. Hopefully I didn't do too much damage this time.
Look what my daughter bought me.
Image of 3 Snoopy face washers.
I ♥ Snoopy
I love him. 💗
Oooh these are so cute!!!
The cutest and fluffiest!
Awww!
City thoughts: it smells like cigarettes and it makes me want one gorram it.
Men with long hair, and ponytails 😍🤤
Women are beautiful 😍🤤
Firefly/Serenity fan?
Also thankfully the cig smell isn’t all the time (at least for me today, other side of city)
I’m a fan of Nathan Fillion. Does that count?
Yessum it counts
Big Firefly/Serenity fan. Huge. Not a fan of Joss, just most of the media he stuck his fingers into/created lol
Shows great some of the actors and him not much. Also a fan obvs because I asked you 😅
2am elizabeth st. maccas for a true cross section of society.
That, and elizabeth st Hungry Jacks. Or swanston and elizabeth anytime during the AMs on a Friday and Saturday night 😅
Is your interview happening soon?
Was gonna head out to a gig but I'm not travelling 1.5hrs each way by PT only to buy an $11 melbourne bitter and pretend everything is okay.
Instead I'm doing sushi.
Interview done, I think it went well. Even if it didn't, I was still cute so it's fine (im trying to be positive about my looks ugh).
Cousin invited me to go to the european food market thingy tonight, so I suddenly have Friday night plans yay!!
You smashed it out if the park. They going to offer you 15k more than Ur asking to make sure they got u
Manifest that for me, and I'll think of something nice to gift you 😉😅
Plz be a potato
What else could it have possibly been 👀 🥔
A whole bag of potat? 7 bucks
Bag'o'Potat is the reward for the manifesting to manifest 😉
You got this! Good luck to you. I hope you get a reply by mid next week
It's surreal thinking about cousins being friends. I see my cousins maybe at Christmas and then at the occasional funeral or wedding. It sounds nice though.
I wish we were closer, but I'm an only child and they are the eldest of 3 siblings. So they're close to each other, tho the middle one just moved interstate. We're the kids of 2 of 4 siblings as well, so Sunday lunch at nanandopas has always had aunts, uncle, and a subset of cousins.
I do see them individually, as mates, occasionally. This is one of those occasions.
Yeah. I rarely see then but it only used to be every so often so I’m not sure what it would have been like to have been really close with family.
Maybe not with my cousins specifically but maybe it would have been nice to have spent more time with some members of my family doing things.
Cool andd good luck. 🤞🏻
Yay. Hoping for some good news
Also enjoy the Friday night plans and have fun.
Hope for the best, expecting the worst is what I always say.
Yeee i try to live by that, but the depression usually tips it over to "i am the worst".
But it's a bastard-man, and a liar, hahah
It's always annoying whenever you tell people that and they're always like "don't think like that!". But when you have so many interviews and get nothing... you can't help but think that.
But hey, I believe in you, you'll get it <3
It's fucking demeaning when people tell you how to think. Seriously. Intrusive thoughts are very hard to deal with without being condescended to by people close to us.
Oooh I forgot that was on
Fingers and toes crossed for you!
Good luck! I hope you get the job, and in these situations I tell myself that at least it’s interview practise if I don’t get it
So update on the unplanned emergency chips I did last night.
Didn't have white vinegar to put in the water for parboiling so subbed with apple cider vinegar and it was the same.
Also chicken and cashew is a good emergency main even if you don't have cashews.
I prefer cider for most purposes aside from cleaning. 🤷🏻♀️
Hugs and sympathies to all those feelin a bit down tonight. Seems like there’s a few that need a Friday night under the covers watching tv. Look after yourselves.
5 days. Bots going strong
I have conferred with the bot, who says today marks a full week of successful posting. Good work, bot! 🎉
It has done well, and you too. Thank you
I'm starting to get sick of online communities (present company excluded) - namely how much people are willing to complain about something while continually consuming it. Two recent cases come to mind:
and
It is not just online platforms. I have quite a few people at work who will constantly complain that the conditions are dreadful compared to everywhere else, who seem to believe they could earn more money stacking shelves at the supermarket or doing some other "easier" job. And yet they have been working there for years and show no signs they ever plan to leave.
Those racist people who complain that immigrants and First Australians get privileges and all the government money
but when challenged, when asked if they would swap places, they say no.
And prisoners - they apparently have such a wonderful time in there it astounds me that these people aren't going out and committing crimes so they can get in on the easy life too. Strangely the same people seemed to be very upset at how horribly restricted they were when told to stay within 5km from home for a few months.
God, isn't the the truth. Everyone has a soap box (and I realise the irony give my complaint), and seems like complaining about certain things while doing absolutely nothing about it is not only a right but a responsibility.
Perhaps more people will leave when constantly bombarded with whinging commentary on the reddits. I still try and recruit now and then on Reddit through various techniques.
I need to get myself out of the habit of defaulting to Reddit. I use it for some news sources on particular areas I love, but ultimately maybe 12% of the content is useful while the rest is just rage bait, or click bait, or our-right false information. If others want to keep using Reddit then fine, but I really need to take a good hard look at what benefit I actually get from it.
People complaining about Diablo IV while continuing to play it are fucking idiots. You're right, Acti-Blizz won't change anything as long as people keeping playing and paying. It shits me up the wall, Stephanie Sterling fucking called it years ago, that microtransactions were awful and would become a cancer, and it has. I am tired of Acti-Blizz games, I am tired of fanboys defending Acti-Blizz; if they weren't going to boycott bc of the sexual harassment issues in the company, then they were never going to boycott over MX.\
Ugh!
I bought Dave the Diver last night and was having a blast with it. I switched over to Rimworld after a spell and had more fun. Then I realised I'm having so much fun with these more "indie" titles, and that things like Diablo IV are purely FOMO when it comes to wanting the game. I think it's an exercise in avoiding the online hype (although in saying that, holy shit Baldurs Gate 3 looks fucking incredible).
Also, fuck MXs. The day they became an industry standard was the day AAA videogames took a turn for the worse.
I haven’t look too closely into Diablo 4 despite being a huge fan of the previous entries but the slippery slope could be seen with Diablo 3 then the Immortals game.
No surprise that they’ll fine a way to generate income beyond the game release itself.
Ok but i reserve the right to scream vile invectives at this damned lynel colosseum
Normally we drink Pure Blondes but tonight we thought we'd give Aldi's Natural Blondes a go and it's turned out to be a big big fucking no no. It tastes like it's been filtered through hay. Luckily we have back ups. This is a PSA. Don't make the same mistake guys.
Quite a few in agreement with you according to this review site (not sure why it's in the cider category?). I tried the Rivet lager before and was disappointed.
The after taste wasn't bad but the first bit was like dried grass clippings.
Sounds very yucky. Don’t like any of my drinks filter through grass or hay.
Yeah nah. It wasn't good.
I've got just over 2 full days left before the big move. It's a lot easier to cope with now that I've been to the house a few times, know it's not a shithole and I've met the lead tenant mentor people and know they're alright. I'm still a bit annoyed by the whole being forced to move in before I'm ready thing, but I'm trying not to think about it too much because it's kinda just a waste of energy and emotion
There's 1 other kid there at the moment, and he was meant to move to a different place today, but then the supreme beings of child protection changed the date yesterday, because of course they did. So my move in was pulled a week forward, and his move-out was pushed a week back, but from what I've been told (I haven't been able to meet him), he seems chill and does stuff most of the day, so things should be alright. But if worse comes to worse, he's only there for 4 days after I move in anyway
Seems promising! Is your furniture going to fit?
I hope so. I got to pick out all new furniture for this place, so I'm not taking the furniture from my current place. I also get 2 bedrooms rather than just 1, though they are on the smaller side. I think it should fit though
Oh sweet, two bedrooms?? Is that going to be like a bedroom plus study or what's the plan
Yeah, I was planning on turning the 2nd one into a sort of private living room for having people over. I was going to chuck a workbench for my various electronic tinkering projects and a bookshelf and couch for a bit of atmosphere. It will all fit, but it's more about positioning things without it feeling cramped
Best of luck. Hope this is the start of a great new chapter in your life.
Thanks hongo, I appreciate it
Hi, have seen some of your posts and hope you’re ok. Is it ok if I ask what you mean by being forced to move? What kind of living arrangement needs a tenant mentor, and what is a mentor? Maybe I have missed some of your updates but also I don’t mean to ask anything intrusive. Just hoping to increase my understanding of the system.
Oh, please don't apologise. It's okay. A small part of the reason why I do share my updates here is to educate people a little, and I could yammer on about this for the rest of the night. I'm not sure exactly which of my posts you've seen, and how much you already know about the system, so forgive me if I say some things you already know
Basically I currently live in residential care, so rather than living with my parents I live in state care (it's essentially a modernised and lower capacity version of an orphanage). There are workers here 24/7 who do most things, cooking, cleaning, washing, dishes, etc, etc.
Lead tenant is for people in residential (or in some cases, kinship/foster care) care 16+ to essentially act as a transition from residential care (where everything is done for you) and total independence (18, when most support ceases). There's a "lead tenant" (although some organisations just call them "mentors", but I call them both) who are volunteers that live there and are supposed to guide/mentor you to build independence. They are more like helpful roommates, rather than full on workers. Dinner, washing, dishes and the rest are all left up to resident.
Technically lead tenant is optional, although as soon as I brought it up, they'd already started packing my bags (metaphorically). What I meant from being forced to move before I was ready was essentially just the above. The first meeting I had with the lead tenant program leader was on the 14th of June, and on the 2nd meeting a week later I was told CP wanted me in there by the 14th of July. 3rd meeting, I was sick, and I couldn't make it. I asked for an extension until at least the 1st of August, and they got back to me saying that the best they would do was the 24th of July. I didn't end up seeing the house until a couple of weeks ago. It also wasn't really about the date, more about my control over the situation being taken
Hope this helps, let me know if you had anymore questions
Thanks for the information! Hopefully it’ll be a positive place where you’re moving to, and you can get good support from the lead tenant. And of course, the DT never fails with life task info, if ever you need any!
I’m so excited for you!! I know it’s nerve wracking right now, but I can’t wait till you’re past the scary change, and you’re loving your new life. It’s gonna be fantastic 🖤
I knew this day would happen. Forgot my ADHD meds at home, so now I'm feeling very... Not focused. Ugh.
Good thing it's not too busy at work I suppose.
I'm doing some of tomorrow's cooking today. 12 home made naans and a big apricot layer cake. Tonight's dinner is already done. Sometimes cooking mass quantities is a time and mind saver.
Yes it is. I do wish I still had my storage freezer.
Future me (who doesn’t like cooking) is always pleased when past me has done a batch cook, so it’s just reheat and go
https://img.gifglobe.com/grabs/peepshow/S02E02/gif/krs9nFFjIKQ0.gif
I'm trying to defend Bluey on r/place but next door someone's turning MY LITTLE PONY into SLIMY LITTLE PENIS which I'm finding funny but also disturbing.
Ewwwwwwww penis lol
... a slimy one at that
EWWWWWW
Huge fan personally
Of penis ? Myself also, but hold the slime thanks
😂 Ay, some penis are female hahaha
Female penis is fine! Slimy little penis, less so!
I chip into the void here and there.
Today is shit. Everything is hard
💊 stool softener
🚽 🧻
It took me waay to long in life to realise how clever the naming of Movicol^©^ is.
🤣😭
You need to serve more fibre in breakfasts.
Stewed apple & prunes for all! Do add your plumber to emergency contacts.
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I have got the sads today...just gotta sink sink sink to the imaginary bottom of the ocean where the peace and quiet is....
Hugs. I seem to have found myself there with a headache to boot as well. Just gonna delete the rest of the day tbh.
You can add me to the sads list too. Hugs to you, duneman, and heyhey as well
Big hugs to you. We can get through this!
Thanks heyhey. Username checks out
(also you totally missed the opportunity to just reply with "see username")
I wish I could delete the rest of the day. :(
big hugs
Thank you. I really need some big ones tonight.
Big hugs to you too. I'm absolutely exhausted. Like go and live in the mountains and cut off from the world kinda exhausted.
No no sads please big hugs I hope the sads doesn’t last
Thank you...just need to switch off message notifications on my phone and not get bothered for a while.
Edit: you guys are all exempt. Because you guys are awesome people.
Never hurt to have a breather and disregarding notifications for a little while unless super urgent. It helps mentally. Sometimes you just need the quiet for a little while. You’re doing the right thing
hugs
Thank you!
All is good with the world when one gets a haircut.
How light does one’s hair feels from a cut? Oooo so light!
Refreshing
I’m overdued to go to the hairdressers actually. But it’s been to cold to travel 😅
Except when you’re sitting in the chair getting the haircut and the horrible overhead lighting makes you uglier than you ever have been in your entire life.
I got my hair done today as well. Speaking from experience.
I just close my eyes.
Does the reverse apply? I haven't had a haircut on years, I'm hoping that is not a source of evil in the world. How many hairs do you think I need to cut to ward off evil? I'd hate to be the cause of something horrible happening in the world. Like Trump being re-elected or something.
I think it's only when you look in the mirror and the first thought is "I really need a haircut" and then you start to see the things a little brighter.
Good to know. I will just avoid looking in any mirrors and I will be safe.
Cheers astronauts 🍻 🚀
Woo hoo! 🍷
Don’t know what’s happening but I’ll offer up a glass to that. 🍷
🍻
Cheers!
Where are we going
We're on our way to the andromeda galaxy. Jump aboard.
👽🍻
I’ve had mulled wine, a bratwurst and some cherry strudel with custard. Das ist gut
The university system to let you connect with other students in not working properly to upload photos for my avatar, so I have had to use the system to draw my own.
::: spoiler This is now me.
Image: A really bad drawing that looks nothing like me. :::
It is still better than the default avatar it gave me, which looked a bit like Donald Trump.
Edit: I've been saved! I discovered it has an AI art generator.
::: spoiler This is the new me
Image: Dog in a straw hat, doing some gardening in a flower filled garden. :::
I love new you. You look like you even bury your own shits.
We call that compost in these parts.
I read that as bury your own kids 😵
Going to Port Melb in the arvo for this interview, via Southern Cross. Will prolly end up finding a place to have a quick drink afterwards in the cbd looool healthy coping strategies whoo!
Don't forget to get some good luck RR chips!
Yaaaassss!!
Not a care in the world
::: spoiler spoiler
ALT TEXT: A kitty called kushkie at Glenrowan Ned Kelly museum :::
Mmmmyes I agree with whatever kitty is saying there.
Oh to be a cat! What a fine stripey boi
I was just sitting here thinking about what I'll do this weekend. I might go dust off my golf clubs and hit a driving range. I haven't even looked at my golf clubs for... I honestly don't even know how long. Has to be approaching a decade though. There's probably going to be spiders in the bag....
Play a round likely won't end well but it'll be a nice walk.
Alternatively, I find the longer between my games of golf the better I am. Same goes for pool and table tennis.
Pool is something that you just don’t forget skill wise. As long as I have had a few drinks and a bit tipsy it just all comes back and I play great. I had a work outing that had a pool table and my colleagues playing were asking me how often I played, I was like like I last played before Covid so 2 or so years? They didn’t believe me.
Just got an email from a colleague congratulating me on my Quarterly Awards nomination at work.. HR have put my name as the nominee when I was the one nominated my teammate :(
Now everybody who would have seen the bulletin would think I did something cool. I've sent an email to HR to fix it but nobody is going back to check updates to a bulletin. For absolute fucks sake. I know both of our names start with B (I'm Brad, he's Ben) but that's about whether the similarities end!
That's hilarious 😂 if you win and have to do an acceptance speech or something, you should 100% say that you nominated yourself by accident, tried to fix it, couldn't, and then hand the gift over to Ben
I would pay 10,000 dollars to NOT get an award at work. They call it out in front of EVERYONE, they make you do a little speech. I hate it.
I am scared by sea surface temperature anomalies.
I am a doomer at heart but it's a lot of anomaly.
It’s okay, it won’t be anomalous soon.
LV - Class Lifted Veil Scenario
Wakey wakey everyone! It's Friday! And even though it's cold, there's only a slight chance of a shower and the wind will be light. So with a bit of luck we won't freeze today.
Very good news - although the original forecast for a sunny day today would be better. It looks like that has been put off to tomorrow (which is good news for those who work standard days) so I will put off my garden work to tomorrow too.
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how can an official soundtrack have some songs that aren't available for streaming? - eg. ::: spoiler Bladerunner 2049 ___ :::
Yeah, I feel like as consumers we're slowly starting to see issues with streaming services. I have my own gripes, especially with the amount of It's Always Sunny episodes that are missing on Disney+.
Bonus points though for calling out Hans Zimmerman's best work, in my most biased opinion. Fuck me that sound track slaps. It adds an incredible amount to a movie that is already so rich with content, while playing such a pivotal role in setting the overall tone alongside the visuals.
Would highly recommend seeing it at IMAX if you ever get the chance - from the opening scene - https://youtu.be/u9L0pord5jE?t=68 - the sound and cinematography at that scale was just mind-blowing
Licensing drama or some kind of physical sale bonus.
Good bot. One of these days you'll know how to use these 📌📌📌📌📌📌📌
I'm going to sleep to Eno again tonight. Cleared one out of five work backlog jobs thankfully. Yay!
Sauna ✅
New king sized bed arrives tomorrow. Time to go wash the new sheets in preparation.
Excited!!
So today is essentially Christmas Eve because tomorrow is Christmas for you!
Absolutely! Been wanting one for years now 😁
Its a rare two coffee kind of day but I realise it sometimes is like trying to change gears or pedal response or one of those things that make you zoom faster... but the low fuel light is still on and your oil filter is clogged 🤪
I just need to make it to the servo (weekend) after doing all my deliveries (stupid damn emails) ... Even if I'm limping along at the end. I don't want to think of this shit for the next two days. Still need to work out a way forward with my boss too
Rudely awakened by Spam callers. A plague upon all such scum.
My phone number whenever I sign up for anything stupid is always 0412345678. If they want to reach me, they can reach me by email where I can just mark as spam.
Very wise. Alas, number generators
This is a good idea actually.
that is the BIGGEST problem with iphone compared to my wifes Galaxy. her call filtering is second to none. My call filtering is 0. It filters nothing. Crap! Also set up DND/Sleep mode.
Go to settings --> phone, scroll down a bit, select SILENCE UNKNOWN CALLERS
anyone not in your contact list doesn't ring and goes to vmail
I love this concept. But it wasn’t my phone that rang. Boyo has genuine work need to have unknown numbers on at hours I consider obscene. Working on that changing.
I really like that Google Pixels can decipher what's a spam call, and if not they have a screen call which I appreciate. But it's always funny when there's a genuine call and people think it's voicemail.
I have one a serve the other night. They Called the emergency work number that I monitor, claiming they were doing a survey about tv. For the second time, I hung up on the the week before.
Back when landlines were the only thing, I kept a bosun’s whistle next to the phone
Balcony Cat has returned for another visit!
Yeah, I need a photo of this. Random cats are the best!
She wouldn't stop for a decent photo!
::: spoiler cat :::
Awww, good enough!
Part 2
Well I think I may have to resign myself to letting my partner just discharge herself though I’m worried about how she’s going to make her way home by herself in such a fragile state
Arguably there are some downsides to having someone who is slightly stubborn and a strong will even if it does seem broken at the moment.
Been trying to convince her not to discharge herself because I think we lose all the aid of home services we organised but it might be for the best.
sigh
For context she’s been stuck in hospital for 3 years or more and she was about to go home but got told she has to stay another week and got her hopes dashed again of going home so she’s been very emotional today after having the high of going home then having it crushed to deal with another medical problem where we’re not I a position to treat it at home due to cost.
Edit: a nurse overheard a phone conversation we had and has organised for my partner to wear a security bracelet so she can’t leave.
Far out, you're a great human for being there for someone through all of that. I had a partner many years ago who at times became a ward of the state. It's pretty tough to witness. I can understand her venting at the very person who cares the most.
Any advice for the person receiving the venting?
I wish I had some. Do some venting yourself? I think you're already doing that here though. Take some out to do something for yourself which occupies your thoughts? I used to talk to my partner's family. That helped. She often saw me as the enemy and hated her friends. It was hard.
I guess I’m not verbally venting. I don’t know if that makes a difference.
That must have been a hard situation to go through.
Because of the way this had panned out I don’t really have a lot of people to talk to regarding this.
Counselling and or therapy is a good way to be heard. Just a suggestion obviously.
My tax return can go jump...I knew it was going to be low, but Jesus.... I was counting on a little bit more to help.
Sometimes that broke uni student meal of instant noodles and tinned tuna really hits the spot
Microsoft Word turned one of my dot points red, and I have no idea why. I've just submitted the assignment with one random red dot.
Sure it wasn't a sniper behind you?
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You think they might have been targeting my bullet point about using power saving features on computers? I guess shooting the screen would be one way to turn it off.
Got some old school dysphoria back last night. Lets just say I used to think I must be an alien. Cried like shit. I was around 21 then. It's still affirming to know I've always been like this, but sometimes it bashes into my brain in unexpected ways. Today feel amazing though, walked 10ks and realised my boobs have got a nice boob shape. 143 days hrt, I kinda hope they don't grow too big but most of my family aren't small breasted women. Still, euphoria quickly replaces dysphoria.
hugs
Thanks! Gentle please, my lady lumps hurt all time.
If you don't mind my suggestion, I don't know if you're at the stage where you need support but some sports bras may be a comfy and worthy investment. I got frustrated with bras at work and the dreaded bra strap slippage which occurs when one's active, as you are with all your walking and activities. The women I work with suggested I try sports bras and it was a game changer.
Yeah I've pretty much only been wearing sports bra/bralettes. I CBF dealing with wires and uncomfortable-ness.
Thanks so much, yeah I have a bunch, two adidas ones which are padded I kinda live in. I have a bunch of other ones which I bought early on for modesty and wore because I just loved playing with the straps. Eventually I'll get some fancy ones, but they're going to keep growing for 2-5 years
Finally able to use reddit after weeks of flaky site problems, get suspended for suspicious activity. Seriously, 🤨
You do act rather suspiciously rather often to be fair
👵🏻 I thought my disguise as a harmless lil ol lady was perfect
Make sure you get on r/place and defend Bluey and Bingo.
Suspended? Can you appeal it?
it's all fixed, just had to reply to an email and reset
Ah ok. That was easier than I thought and simple.
Glad you have it resolved.
I've just got an offer for a free month of Stan. I might have to see if there is something I want to watch.
The Great, Nicholas Hoult and Elle Fanning playing Peter the Great and Catherine the Great in a very inaccurate unhistorical comedy.
I mostly use Stan for Drag Race and The Circus, but it's not bad.
Finally got my appetite back after things got a bit better after today.
Said screw it and went to town.
::: spoiler Homemade burger :::
Didn’t quite mail cutting the bun evenly.
Burger consisted of bacon, 2x egg, caramelised onions, tomato slices, beef patty and 2x smokey cheese slices with tomato sauce and aioli.
Thought I was going to have peaceful day and rest and relax.
Nope. All fell to pieces when my partner was given news of not a great sort.
Have run out of money and wasting on my tax return to come in, which would have been here if work didn’t screw it up.
Can’t pay for the injections she needs and now have to cop an emotional beating from her because the universe hates her and will everything it can to fuck up her life.
Edit: my tax return will come within 3 business days from yesterday from a text message from the ATO
Dont mean this to be rude, but I cant think of a more polite way to say it. That just sounds exhausting as all shit. And whilst we should always support our partners, that doesnt mean we have to be their emotional punching bag all the time.
We cannot be our partner's therapists, and they cannot be ours.
Yes! Please let there be one day where the door opening isn’t the instant start of a day dump where everybody else is an idiot.
Cheaper tho.
I’ll be honest. I can’t even begin to understand how she’s feeling and I often don’t know what to say to someone who feels the weight of the world is against them and and that they want to give up after fighting for so long.
Just to add it’s so emotionally exhausting.
It is. I’m stressed and when it comes to her stuff. When it rains, it pours.
I was also not good either with my response because I lashed out because of the financial stress when I should have been supportive instead but when she’s in a hopeless mood she doesn’t realise she lashes out herself.
I am doing a terrible job of studying today. It is nice and sunny outside, so I think that I'll go and do some weeding. That will obviously help me get in the right mindset to study and is in no way another avoidance tactic.
I need that anti-SADs sun
It's still out there! I thought it was going to be absent, but it has been a pretty nice day (cold still, but sunny).
Marketplace sale finalised, paid for and in the mail. I really love technology and how much easier it makes these things. Having started off in the days of the Trading Post where everything was slow and difficult I am constantly impressed by how things work now. Being able to take photos of an item, share them with an offer to sell (for free, with no word limit!) and have the item sold, paid for and posted the next day is an amazing advancement. Being able to print a postage paid label at home (from the money the buyer gave me) and provide a tracking number for the buyer to get updates, with services linking together pretty seamlessly, is just icing on the cake.
suspicious timing on a new R/place. Also suspicious is these new Chinese propaganda ads. "People Flee the AUD" with a the CCP flag over parliament house? Disgusting.
yeah I’m not joining r/place this year
I helped with a line of Fuck Spez. But thats it.
I'm just trying to defend Bluey and Bingo.
I'll always be on team void. In the post-place timelapse gif I find it to be most interesting contribution.
That isn't Chinese propaganda. It's implying people are "fleeing" Australian currency holdings because Australia's ties to China are too strong. The implication is that China had excessive influence over the current Australian government, causing people to switch away from holding AUD to other currencies/assets. It's "red scare" propaganda designed to capitalise on distrust of China.
Did my boring but important stuff regarding Medicare claims. Decided I needed a treat after some of the shenanigans of the week so it was a night off cooking and Red Rooster for dinner (our local one isn't too bad and I've been good with eating healthy all week and taking my lunch to work instead of buying something on the way). Mr Peeler sorted installments out for his fine, to be deducted fortnightly. He's been like a quiet little lamb and seems to be coping well without the drink. As long as there are cups of tea to be had.. tea fixes everything. I've always found that if you have a cup of tea as soon as you get home from work you don't get the urge to drink alcohol. I've got so many different types of tea that I'm almost scared to count. Ok, I will.. (goes to kitchen and counts) well shit, I counted 19 different teas. Admittedly there's some duplication; 3 are different types of green tea, 2 are dandes and about 4 of them probably count as herbal supplements, but still.. that's a lot of tea! And I'd still like to get more!
Some improvement. Some
My partner is away for the night in Brisbane to see a gig with a friend. A bottle of red wine down and considering getting into the Kava that I purchased when in Fiji….
Whoo! Got my tax return today! I was going to get Pikmin 4 tomorrow after my eye test regardless of if I got the tax return, but still.
Woo
Well I've already finished work and am back at home. Don't mind this at all.
Progress has been made to a bratwurst
So you think it’s safe for those salads I got yesterday to leave it till tomorrow?
I have no appetite due to how stressed I am.
The due date is today for those salads.
They'll be fine. Take care of yourself.
Thanks.
Not sure how I can take care of myself at the moment though or what to do
I'm not sure what to do either but I do know you've got us to talk to. ♥
Thank you.
I guess it’s not an easy thing to talk about because there’s so much to it.
I wish I could turn off all my devices to take a break or give myself a break as horrible as it sounds but she’ll only tell me that I was ignoring her and that would be the end to our relationship.
I know she has my best interests when I talk to her about buying things and treating myself or renewing my road side assistance.
If I didn’t do those things I could have paid for her stuff and given her some hope.
This might sound harsh but if a relationship is not 50/50 then it's not a relationship. It's a co-dependency and that's not always healthy. You don't have to explain anything to me or to anybody else. You only need to ask yourself is this fair.
That’s fair enough. The situation doesn’t always allow it to be 50/50. I also do allow for some give and take because it isn’t always ideal to have it 50/50 when it can’t be that way.
What’s a co-dependency?
excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, typically one who requires support on account of an illness or addiction. "the tie that binds most of us together in this trap called co-dependency"
Road side assist doesn’t sound like a luxury to me, it’s peace of mind. It’s a pretty cheap payment for a years worth of anxiety free driving. I’m not sure if I’m interpreting your comment wrong, but sounds like theres conflict about financials? Can you say to your partner you’d like a bit of quiet time for the rest of the day? And then raise it tomorrow and talk through your personal needs with them when it’s a bit calmer?
It’s complicated, there is some conflict with financial things and also some on the emotional side.
I don’t know, I think it’s depend on a bit of timing of when I ask for some time to myself. I have asked for it before but not in the middle of when she’s super emotional.
Sounds rough. I didn’t really mean ask them, I meant just let them know that’s what you need today. You have emotions too. Look after yourself.
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A jar of Nutella and some coffee, please and thank you
This is the true breakfast of champions.
if your tongue is not long enough, there are tongue extensions available 👅
I am still breathing fire after emerging from the microwave. Maybe I am dragon now.
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Im not going to ask for anything specific, but I'm going to give you some emotive words as prompts for your creativity. I trust you.
Lollapalooza, Sasquatch, intensity, reconciliation
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Interesting take chef. Elegant in it's simplicity, understanding of the client. Excellent
One bowl of hot porridge with banana, caramelised apple and yoghurt. Plus a double strenth cappuchino please.
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Hot coffee please, and some hot buttered toast.
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Omelette aux fines herbes s'il vous plaît
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Ugh, slept like shit! I kept waking up and then when I was asleep it was that type of sleep where you're dreaming and all but deep down you know you're mildly awake.
I had a pretty crap one too. I went to sleep stressed and with a headache radiating across the entire left side of my head. And then I woke up 3 hours before my alarm but couldn't get back to sleep because the stress didn't evaporate
No tax return for me yet, but I have just sold another Marketplace item. Quite a bit of interest, so the price must be in the fair-low range. Which is good, I find it's not worth the hassle involved in trying for the maximum price, I'd rather have an easy sale than a few extra dollars.
Just want to go to sleep but I can't be half-arsed in my night shift prep now I'm no longer doing it from home.
Good morning
New audiobook starting now. The Strain, by Guillermo del Toro, performed by Ron Perlman 🍿
Euro market won. Look for the shortass in the Collingwood jumper while I sip my hot cocktail
Sauna gear is by the front door.
Plans in place to leave at midday when the factory crew wrap up for the day. Technically supposed to leave at 1.30 but meh. Need it after yesterday's shenanigans.
Might watch the new Wes Anderson tonight.
Is the new Wes Anderson movie out already?! Omg omg.
Also what kind of sauna? The kind with rocks you pour water over to create steam?
Yeah a nice (almost) proper one. Gets up to 90 degrees and it's glorious.
Very pumped for a bit of Wes action. Didn't like the last one so I'm hoping this one's a bit better
Oh cool. I read an article recently about what is and isn't a sauna. Was ready to bust out some info up in here
I am contemplating finding dinner somewhere else tonight.
Ramen? Euro market? What should I scavenge?
Listen, the wind, it whispers....
euro market
Cake made, dozen naans made. First load dishes done. Washing done. Cat litter done. Just a little more to do and I'm done. 😴
There is a very loud and inconvenient heli hovering around blackburn south
i need to sleep for night shift. grumble gruumble.
I apparently have a sniper at my place, should I send them over to deal with your helicopter issue? I'm not sure having a helicopter crash nearby will help with your sleeping issues though.
Has chef called out sick? Is there a back up roster?
Apologies. It took some time to defrost chef today.
Not in a microwave I hope
I did just emerge from a microwave.
It's fucking cold tonight and we're getting absolutely hammered in the cricket. We're really missing Nathan Lyon.
Sitting next to kidcalhoon2. She's having a great time replaying the Untitled Goose Game - quick sketch with colour - https://pixelfed.au/p/calhoon2005/587934723611458086
That game really needs Steam Workshop support so people can build and share additional areas.
It's a day for I scream, you scream, we all scream.
Screw it, it’s kava time:
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Livin' it up - Limp Bizkit
Hi everyone. Anyone else happy that the fugly pom didn't get 100. Haha
A whole bunch of fireworks went off near my place. It was so loud I'm surprised my mum didn't wake up.
If loser Weiner doesn't make runs he should GO
Oh thank god All Stars ended up with the right winner! I was so disappointed at the choices for the final two (well mostly just with one of the choices).