So I went to see friends last night, I always look forward to seeing the wife of the couple, she's becoming a good friend and I hope I am a friend to her. The guy is a childhood friend of my husband.
And the guys grew up being the smartest person at school and they are both pretty successful in their sci or math respective fields.
here's the thing, the men both treat me like an idiot, or should I say, they both expend quite a bit of energy to keep me in my place
and I really don't give a shit,
but I noticed the guy treats his wife just as poorly as he treats me, worse since it's all the time. At first I thought it was just explaining a difficult scientific subject but it's everything she does.
She's a highly educated and experienced lawyer who is fluent in 3 languages. She's no idiot. And even if she was you don't talk to people like that.
It just saddens me.
and doesn't surprise me, rude men tend to hang with other rude men
I agree and insecurity is crazy. This guy has a phd in sciences. What would it take to make him feel secure.
I suppose I can answer that. Controlling and keeping intelligent women in their place.
So why doesn't he marry uneducated women? I suppose because it makes him feel smart to control a smart woman and he wouldn't feel smart to control an uneducated woman.
Always, always there's an undercurrent of physical intimidation in these cases. 😡 It's subtle tho.
Despite everything that's happened, I miss my friend.
We've known each other about 5 years, and been through thick and thin. We referred to each other as family. I was there for him, and he was there for me.
It all turned to shit pretty quickly once he got together with a new partner. We went from chatting a couple of times a week on the phone, to radio silence.
And then all the spiteful stuff that came afterwards. ie: telling me to give up trying to get an IT gig, withdrawing his reference (knowing full well at the time that I'd be fucked without it) almost like he wants me to fail.
I'm hurt. Deeply. And I know his new partner has something to do with it. But at the end of the day, they are his choices.
There's no coming back from what's happened. The door is shut from my end.
And so life goes on. My ability to trust in people a little more shaken.
Some people just aren't who we think they are, or they change. And it sucks when they're dickheads, it hurts.
Having said that, and experienced it, I think most people are good and kind hearted. But when we ourselves have traumatic pasts, we attract those who seek to harm us.
You know the house is too cold when a shower makes your fingers & toes feel like they caught fire. Surprised the bathmat hasn’t grown moss. Must finish this mortgage paperwork and escape!
I wish, I have so much to do. Gotta finish cleaning up the cat bathroom , got a few loads of washing to fold and put away, pies to make for dinners and lunches and I want to start on my sewing.
Went to Missy Higgins at the Palais last night, probably one of the best gigs I've been to in the last 10 years. 13 year old me and 33 year old me were stoked.
Melbcat is having a rough go of it, the cold has flared her arthritis but the nausea from antibiotics means she won’t eat her meals with her regular pain meds in.
She’s been having shots of both pain/anti nausea medication at the vet to break the cycle and I’m giving wafers/liquid meds orally every 12 hours at home. She’s now eaten a little bit twice and takes treats but is still refusing almost every wet meal.
Me, I’ve got some serious health stuff going on and am deeply pissed off about it
My scotch bonnet looks like it might be permanently done after gifting me a bounty in April (it did survive falling down and having half of it torn off), might be the last year for the insanely hot Thai chilli too. But I have a tomato plant that refuses to die and still is attempting to put out flowers like what the hell bro. You can rest now
Fried up some chicken, mixed it with the leftover savoury rice mix and made parcels out of it, some with flatbread and some with leftover pizza dough. Did more laundry, very nearly finished it too lol. Watched some wrestling with Elder minipeeler. He said he wants to be a pro wrestler when he grows up. I think he's partly been inspired by how accessible, friendly and cool the guys at Lucha Fantastica are. I could picture him as a luchador in a travelling show, and I don't know exactly how I feel about that. Not that it makes any difference, it's his dream not mine. Miniest wants to be 10 different things and doesn't know which thing to pick. I said why pick one? You can be an artist and a vet and a cake decorator and run an animal refuge and design gardens etc. Look at Leonardo da Vinci, he was lots of things.
I used to work with guys who did pro-wrestling, there was a scene for it in Melbourne. If they won't take kids, else see if you can get him to try some gymnastics to build a useful foundation.
I love this advice. So much of what we hear at schools and in the workplace and society in general is that people can be only one thing. To be many things , but mainly being your own true self following all your dreams and talents , is a really good thing. 🥰
The sore throat I was developing seems to be nearly gone already, without having developed into anything too severe. The cold also progressed to my nose, where it has managed nothing more dramatic than making one nostril slightly runny. I feared much worse.
Yeah.. my wife and I both had the vaccine. Both got sick 2 or 3 weeks later but was relatively mild compared to previous years. (never took a vaccine until 2020ish)
I have been having flu vaccines for over a decade and have never become ill afterwards. I think trying to link a cold which is currently circulating at work to a flu vaccine two months ago is a bit of a stretch.
Bleh. After yesterday’s nap I somehow managed to strain or pull something and some area of my neck or back shoulder is sore which unfortunately is leading to pain when I move my head.
Taken some Panadol and nurofen but I hope it’s only an minor strain and not anything serious.
You don't need to memorize everything. It's enough to know what's possible. Once you know one language really well, all you really need to do is learn the way another language does the same thing. Google is your friend.
It was my niece's dance thingo today. Her first time on stage. Her and 3 other pre-school aged kids and it was just as you'd imagine it to be.
When they were led out onto the stage by their teacher at the start of the song, one of the little girls immediately jumped off the stage, ran to her grandma in the front row and opted out. This was after she'd been having a great time rolling around on the stage before the event started. There was a little boy who just stood on the stage and stared at his family looking mildly upset. Another little girl at least had a go but wasn't paying much attention to the teacher who was leading them and then finally my niece was actually trying her hardest to follow the teacher's moves. She was the best!
We stayed for about half a dozen or so more music students' performances who were older and did things like play guitar, play drums along to Metallica/ACDC/RHCP songs, sing and play piano. A little boy played the first 3rd of Bohemian Rhapsody on the grand piano almost flawlessly. Kid would have been like 8 tops I think, but I'm not great with guessing ages. Super impressive. The whole thing was to get the kids performing in front of people so they all messed up at various points, which is fine. They pushed through and got to the end of their performances.
Then my niece decided that she wanted to leave so we ducked out of there before she could really passionately start stating her intentions for the exit.
Remind my of my first theatrical performance, in a school nativity play. I had the role of a wise man's camel. I got distracted by everything happening and missed my cue, so instead of my wise man "riding" a camel he got to walk in whilst his camel belatedly scurried behind.🤣
Caught Perfect Days with a friend, I went in wanting to diss it tbh but came out generally enjoying it, it didn't romanticise menial worker life in Japan as much as I expected it to and I enjoy that it didn't infantilise the viewers. Good one to watch on the big screen and soak up the Vibes.
Procrastinating big time on some study items that I have to put my big girl pants on and do because nobody else will and it's self structured so up to me to figure out... So of course I end up mopping the floors which I've been putting off for months. It's good though, because the house has now got a real clean energy.
Dinner, and then I'm going to just sit in front of my laptop and force myself to read some journal articles to get the ball rolling at least.
I'm going to watch Inside Out 2 tomorrow, I've decided. To prepare I just rewatched Inside Out at home and honestly every time I fall in love with it all over again. It's one of the best ever films I've watched, period.
This is no mere kid's film, it's a goddamn psychology class and therapy rolled into one. It brings me to tears, every time (and this must be the fifth time at least). And every time i notice new details, and events of the film have new meaning...
::: spoiler rambling because seriously guys i love this film
This is the first time I've watched it post lockdown and I was honestly ugly crying at the point when Joy realises Sadness needed to take over. I mean i cry at that point every time anyway (also when Sadness sits next to Bing Bong and just listens). But this time it hit so much harder after the huge events of past years: the loss of friends, the irreversible life changes, isolation, the realisation that some joyful parts of the past are truly over and can't drive us any more, and have to be let go to move on to new joy, the sadness taking over happy memories, the rebuilding of new networks by letting emotions blend, and of course one of the big morals of the story - don't keep trying to push through and be happy all the time, embrace the difficult feelings or everything starts breaking down. Deny sadness and you get locked out of your brain with depression.
This film has meant so much to me over the years because I've always been Sadness - Negative Nelly, Debbie Downer, the character in the film to a tee - and both hated and defended that fact fiercely growing up. This was honestly the first film that gave me the permission to embrace it and be proud of it - especially the mum having Sadness running the show with empathy, it was the first time I truly understood who I could become rather than forcing myself to be someone else.
I can't get over how the creators weaved these personal experiences we've all had and actual psychological concepts into such vivid, coherent, playful imagery that doesn't just track as a very entertaining kid's adventure film but also as an incredibly creative and powerful metaphoric film for all ages. I could watch it every year til I die, honestly.
:::
Of course I don't have such high hopes for the sequel. But I can't not watch it when the original means so much to me. ❤️🩹
Went to Fairfield boathouse this weekend. Haven’t been before. Very Old Timey style. Had decent scones and a some very nice walking tracks next to the Yarra. Would be amazing if they gave it a renno like Studley park, but keeping the heritage. I think the location is actually nicer than Studley park, due to the walks and views. Would go again.
It's a lovely place to chill on a sunny summer morning. Next to it is a mini greek amphitheatre - stand on the bronze disk and speak normally and your voice is magnified by the surrounding walls. There was often performances there in summer pre-covid - and I expect these will start up again fairly soon. A beautiful space.
Attended a performance of Euripides' The Bacchae there. Powerful and strange. Especially in the kind of setting the play was intended to be performed in. I really got it then that theatre had its roots in religious ritual.
That second one sounds like it could be a description of Rocky Horror Picture Show, which is not really horror but definitely involves weird people singing.
Mickey says "zzzzz"
Really nice swim tonight. Didn't hit too hard.
Also first open fire of the year:
Been waiting for this.
bliss.
Ugh. Want. Miss open fires a lot. Therapeutic, mesmerising, beats being on a screen for sure.
I should really set more things on fire. It's so lovely.
that looks lovely 🔥🥰
So I went to see friends last night, I always look forward to seeing the wife of the couple, she's becoming a good friend and I hope I am a friend to her. The guy is a childhood friend of my husband.
And the guys grew up being the smartest person at school and they are both pretty successful in their sci or math respective fields.
here's the thing, the men both treat me like an idiot, or should I say, they both expend quite a bit of energy to keep me in my place
and I really don't give a shit,
but I noticed the guy treats his wife just as poorly as he treats me, worse since it's all the time. At first I thought it was just explaining a difficult scientific subject but it's everything she does.
She's a highly educated and experienced lawyer who is fluent in 3 languages. She's no idiot. And even if she was you don't talk to people like that.
It just saddens me.
and doesn't surprise me, rude men tend to hang with other rude men
all I can do is continue be a friend with her
You're witnessing a dick swinging competition.
But I have no dick???
These can be purchased in entertaining colours and improbable sizes from certain establishments should you wish to windmill somebody in the eye.
He's swinging his dick in the presence of another male
Insecurity can be repugnant.
I agree and insecurity is crazy. This guy has a phd in sciences. What would it take to make him feel secure.
I suppose I can answer that. Controlling and keeping intelligent women in their place.
So why doesn't he marry uneducated women? I suppose because it makes him feel smart to control a smart woman and he wouldn't feel smart to control an uneducated woman.
Always, always there's an undercurrent of physical intimidation in these cases. 😡 It's subtle tho.
Men like that are the worst form of coward. I've encountered them before, and they quickly receed when challenged by another man.
Disgusting.
Those guys sound very unpleasant to hang around with.
I hate people who look down on others and do that, it’s yucky and demeaning.
They probably bask in their own superiority and have known nothing else through their life and thus treat everyone else like that.
Not much you can do about it since one of them are married to your friend but it’s yucky.
Despite everything that's happened, I miss my friend.
We've known each other about 5 years, and been through thick and thin. We referred to each other as family. I was there for him, and he was there for me.
It all turned to shit pretty quickly once he got together with a new partner. We went from chatting a couple of times a week on the phone, to radio silence.
And then all the spiteful stuff that came afterwards. ie: telling me to give up trying to get an IT gig, withdrawing his reference (knowing full well at the time that I'd be fucked without it) almost like he wants me to fail.
I'm hurt. Deeply. And I know his new partner has something to do with it. But at the end of the day, they are his choices.
There's no coming back from what's happened. The door is shut from my end.
And so life goes on. My ability to trust in people a little more shaken.
Some people just aren't who we think they are, or they change. And it sucks when they're dickheads, it hurts.
Having said that, and experienced it, I think most people are good and kind hearted. But when we ourselves have traumatic pasts, we attract those who seek to harm us.
Drop the turd and thrive, king 💜
So many hugs.
It's him, really, None of what he did and said was anything like what a friend does. Not even a good ex friend would ever want you to fail.
And about still missing him.
that's because you remember the good times you had together.
so don't feel guilty , hugs
You know the house is too cold when a shower makes your fingers & toes feel like they caught fire. Surprised the bathmat hasn’t grown moss. Must finish this mortgage paperwork and escape!
cold. Bill Cat crawled in the big humans bed
My brain is mush. Reading in bed and early night I think.
I wish, I have so much to do. Gotta finish cleaning up the cat bathroom , got a few loads of washing to fold and put away, pies to make for dinners and lunches and I want to start on my sewing.
1 doz pies made. That's good for a few days and then I can freeze some too
Went to Missy Higgins at the Palais last night, probably one of the best gigs I've been to in the last 10 years. 13 year old me and 33 year old me were stoked.
Oh man, I’m going through it.
Melbcat is having a rough go of it, the cold has flared her arthritis but the nausea from antibiotics means she won’t eat her meals with her regular pain meds in.
She’s been having shots of both pain/anti nausea medication at the vet to break the cycle and I’m giving wafers/liquid meds orally every 12 hours at home. She’s now eaten a little bit twice and takes treats but is still refusing almost every wet meal.
Me, I’ve got some serious health stuff going on and am deeply pissed off about it
Still punching out chillies late june!
had to clear a metric fucktonne of oxalis (again) to find them heh.
I guess the great thing about these things being near the coast is there's little frost.
Envy!
That is a lot of chilies 🔥
Woah, nice haul. Sauce or powder?
My scotch bonnet looks like it might be permanently done after gifting me a bounty in April (it did survive falling down and having half of it torn off), might be the last year for the insanely hot Thai chilli too. But I have a tomato plant that refuses to die and still is attempting to put out flowers like what the hell bro. You can rest now
Ooh was thinking powder maybe. Would love to do something like hot honey or chilli jam though.
My rando tomato plant is also doing the same thing as yours! heh. So late to the party. I don't have the heart to pull it out.
i want to stay in bed but i need to pee what do
Teleport your bladder to an alternate dimension
This is the answer.
instructions unclear, urine in abdomen, sepsis commences
So much for the taco truck, alas.
If you get up and go potty mummy will give you a reward.
mother i have urinated into the toilet bowl and only the toilet bowl, please present commendation
Good job! 🍭
much appreciated mother
Fried up some chicken, mixed it with the leftover savoury rice mix and made parcels out of it, some with flatbread and some with leftover pizza dough. Did more laundry, very nearly finished it too lol. Watched some wrestling with Elder minipeeler. He said he wants to be a pro wrestler when he grows up. I think he's partly been inspired by how accessible, friendly and cool the guys at Lucha Fantastica are. I could picture him as a luchador in a travelling show, and I don't know exactly how I feel about that. Not that it makes any difference, it's his dream not mine. Miniest wants to be 10 different things and doesn't know which thing to pick. I said why pick one? You can be an artist and a vet and a cake decorator and run an animal refuge and design gardens etc. Look at Leonardo da Vinci, he was lots of things.
You're the best Mum 😘
Aim high, kids ♥
I used to work with guys who did pro-wrestling, there was a scene for it in Melbourne. If they won't take kids, else see if you can get him to try some gymnastics to build a useful foundation.
Sound advice, thanks for that!
I love this advice. So much of what we hear at schools and in the workplace and society in general is that people can be only one thing. To be many things , but mainly being your own true self following all your dreams and talents , is a really good thing. 🥰
The sore throat I was developing seems to be nearly gone already, without having developed into anything too severe. The cold also progressed to my nose, where it has managed nothing more dramatic than making one nostril slightly runny. I feared much worse.
You got the flu vaccine recently?
Not recently. A month or two ago.
There has been a cold type thingy going around at work, I assume it is that.
Yeah.. my wife and I both had the vaccine. Both got sick 2 or 3 weeks later but was relatively mild compared to previous years. (never took a vaccine until 2020ish)
I have been having flu vaccines for over a decade and have never become ill afterwards. I think trying to link a cold which is currently circulating at work to a flu vaccine two months ago is a bit of a stretch.
Ah no, I was mainly referring to the fact that you had a cold that didn't develop beyond mild symptoms.
My wife and I both used to have lots of symptoms before starting flu vaccines. After that, our illnesses have been milder than before.
hey all 😀
I saw a friend's possum that she feeds , it was so cuuute
The aliens are in control of the daily thread! Well, they probably know what they're doing.
In other news the cat is cuddly. What a baby
Cat tax please 🙏
I actually feel alive today. It's a Christmas miracle. Might even give the floors a lick with the mop later for something exciting to do.
Bleh. After yesterday’s nap I somehow managed to strain or pull something and some area of my neck or back shoulder is sore which unfortunately is leading to pain when I move my head.
Taken some Panadol and nurofen but I hope it’s only an minor strain and not anything serious.
It’s a day of keeping warm and resting today.
Moon pretty. And very bright. And shining through my window onto my face.
I see now why people avoid going into programming 😔
Is it the programming aspect?
Absolutely lol. Or more so the amount of knowledge you need to memorize.
You don't need to memorize everything. It's enough to know what's possible. Once you know one language really well, all you really need to do is learn the way another language does the same thing. Google is your friend.
I think I get confused with programming because I mainly work with the Microsoft stack, so this is somewhat new to me.
A new way of thinking I guess.
It was my niece's dance thingo today. Her first time on stage. Her and 3 other pre-school aged kids and it was just as you'd imagine it to be.
When they were led out onto the stage by their teacher at the start of the song, one of the little girls immediately jumped off the stage, ran to her grandma in the front row and opted out. This was after she'd been having a great time rolling around on the stage before the event started. There was a little boy who just stood on the stage and stared at his family looking mildly upset. Another little girl at least had a go but wasn't paying much attention to the teacher who was leading them and then finally my niece was actually trying her hardest to follow the teacher's moves. She was the best!
We stayed for about half a dozen or so more music students' performances who were older and did things like play guitar, play drums along to Metallica/ACDC/RHCP songs, sing and play piano. A little boy played the first 3rd of Bohemian Rhapsody on the grand piano almost flawlessly. Kid would have been like 8 tops I think, but I'm not great with guessing ages. Super impressive. The whole thing was to get the kids performing in front of people so they all messed up at various points, which is fine. They pushed through and got to the end of their performances.
Then my niece decided that she wanted to leave so we ducked out of there before she could really passionately start stating her intentions for the exit.
Remind my of my first theatrical performance, in a school nativity play. I had the role of a wise man's camel. I got distracted by everything happening and missed my cue, so instead of my wise man "riding" a camel he got to walk in whilst his camel belatedly scurried behind.🤣
Caught Perfect Days with a friend, I went in wanting to diss it tbh but came out generally enjoying it, it didn't romanticise menial worker life in Japan as much as I expected it to and I enjoy that it didn't infantilise the viewers. Good one to watch on the big screen and soak up the Vibes.
Procrastinating big time on some study items that I have to put my big girl pants on and do because nobody else will and it's self structured so up to me to figure out... So of course I end up mopping the floors which I've been putting off for months. It's good though, because the house has now got a real clean energy.
Dinner, and then I'm going to just sit in front of my laptop and force myself to read some journal articles to get the ball rolling at least.
Breakfast 🍏🍎🍐🍊🍋🍈🫐🍓🍇🍉🍌🍒🍑🥭🍍🥥🥦🥑🫛🍆🍅🥝🥬🥒🌽🥕🥐🍠🫚🥔🧅🥯🍞🥖🥨🧀🧇🥞🧈🍳🥚🥓🥩🍗🍖🫓🍕🍟🍔🌭🥙🧆🌮🌯🥗🍲🍜🍝🥘🍛🍣🍱🥟🦪🍥🍘🍚🍙🐠🍤🪼🦀🐙 🍗🥮🍢🍡🍧🍰🧁🥧🍦🍨🎂🍮🍭🍬🍫🥜🌰🍪🍿🍯🥛☕️🍵🍺🍶🥤🧋🧃🥂🍷🥃🍸🍹🧉🔋
Coconut & pretzel curry please, and an extra couple of hours of sleep. And tea please Bacon.
🥥🥨🥘🛏️🛏️☕️
Thanks!
Impossible Pie please
🥣
But that's... Impossible!!??
have you looked inside
I daren't
it’s not eight yet it’s safe for mortals
Might get blinded by the coconut
Some kind of chicken tomato pasta please
🍗🍅🍝
Randomly watching Lethal Weapon. Very very 80s. Especially the mood setting sax....
Edit
.. make that sax with accompanying guitar solo
The interplay between Gibson and Glover is pure 80s.
Edit.... Danny Glover was ripped as
I'm going to watch Inside Out 2 tomorrow, I've decided. To prepare I just rewatched Inside Out at home and honestly every time I fall in love with it all over again. It's one of the best ever films I've watched, period.
This is no mere kid's film, it's a goddamn psychology class and therapy rolled into one. It brings me to tears, every time (and this must be the fifth time at least). And every time i notice new details, and events of the film have new meaning...
::: spoiler rambling because seriously guys i love this film
This is the first time I've watched it post lockdown and I was honestly ugly crying at the point when Joy realises Sadness needed to take over. I mean i cry at that point every time anyway (also when Sadness sits next to Bing Bong and just listens). But this time it hit so much harder after the huge events of past years: the loss of friends, the irreversible life changes, isolation, the realisation that some joyful parts of the past are truly over and can't drive us any more, and have to be let go to move on to new joy, the sadness taking over happy memories, the rebuilding of new networks by letting emotions blend, and of course one of the big morals of the story - don't keep trying to push through and be happy all the time, embrace the difficult feelings or everything starts breaking down. Deny sadness and you get locked out of your brain with depression.
This film has meant so much to me over the years because I've always been Sadness - Negative Nelly, Debbie Downer, the character in the film to a tee - and both hated and defended that fact fiercely growing up. This was honestly the first film that gave me the permission to embrace it and be proud of it - especially the mum having Sadness running the show with empathy, it was the first time I truly understood who I could become rather than forcing myself to be someone else.
I can't get over how the creators weaved these personal experiences we've all had and actual psychological concepts into such vivid, coherent, playful imagery that doesn't just track as a very entertaining kid's adventure film but also as an incredibly creative and powerful metaphoric film for all ages. I could watch it every year til I die, honestly.
:::
Of course I don't have such high hopes for the sequel. But I can't not watch it when the original means so much to me. ❤️🩹
so many hugs, just reading your experience made me cry
It's on my watchlist now💗
Went to Fairfield boathouse this weekend. Haven’t been before. Very Old Timey style. Had decent scones and a some very nice walking tracks next to the Yarra. Would be amazing if they gave it a renno like Studley park, but keeping the heritage. I think the location is actually nicer than Studley park, due to the walks and views. Would go again.
Gave my dad haircut there back in COVID days as it was in between both our lock down distances ... Oppa-covid-style....
It's a lovely place to chill on a sunny summer morning. Next to it is a mini greek amphitheatre - stand on the bronze disk and speak normally and your voice is magnified by the surrounding walls. There was often performances there in summer pre-covid - and I expect these will start up again fairly soon. A beautiful space.
I did wonder if the amphitheatre was ever used! Hopefully they reinstate it.
Attended a performance of Euripides' The Bacchae there. Powerful and strange. Especially in the kind of setting the play was intended to be performed in. I really got it then that theatre had its roots in religious ritual.
The sun is so beautiful today I will be outside doing some more repotting.🌞
Oooof we ikea'd mightily today. I got fuck all done around the house
That second one sounds like it could be a description of Rocky Horror Picture Show, which is not really horror but definitely involves weird people singing.