Wrote my resignation letter ahead of sending it tomorrow (employer already knows it’s coming). That’s probably the most enjoyable letter that I’ve ever written. A little bit of sentiment thrown in there, thank you for the opportunity yadda yadda.
So so glad this day has come. The shit they put me through since asking me to move on, honestly I don’t remember a time I had to face so many situations so quickly where I felt like throwing up from nerves and anxiety each time. But I got through it.
There’s talk of putting me on gardening leave, which I think I’m ok with. They were saying they were happy for me to finish early so I can start my contractor role sooner, but I’d have to agree to shorten my notice pay. I think I’ll take the pay for doing nothing.
Today I did what I had to do
For my sanity.
Told my father all my feelings;
"I'm a travesty".
He wasn't there when I was small,
"Are you here for me?"
Does he care for me?
We barely speak.
But he said he is proud of me,
And my journey.
That he'd support me always,
And that he does love me.
I told my work I'm done;
I won't be coming in
Ever again, I'm through with phones
I live for me.
I applied for a course
In a career I've never been in;
If I want change it's up to me,
I can't keep going on like this.
One of my visitors asked why you can't get period specific pain relief medication in Australia, like Panadol Menstrual - I dug up an ABC article on the 2015 Reckitt Benkeiser/Nurofen lawsuit, and it had an old clip from the Checkout c. 2013.
I felt so proud at that moment for Australia having the ACCC (defanged as it has been over the years) and consumer affairs shows like Gruen and The Checkout (I learned so much about marketing tactics that I take for granted now, even if Will Anderson is chronically unfunny).
The lack of shows like The Checkout these days is sad. Are there any well-researched contemporary Aus successors I wonder. My niece is rather sheltered so I'd like her to learn some of this stuff and understand that you can fight back against bullies. We come from a place that is still so overwhelmingly anti-consumer that it's not funny
I have survived, slightly moistened but otherwise uninjured. Mr Woof is now safely out of the bath and in his robe, attempting to recover from the trauma by drying himself off on the carpet.
I remember as a kid, I was the one usually assigned dog bath duty. We had a Samoyed...
At least when he was soaked right through both layers of his coat, the extra weight made him so heavy that resisting was too much effort and he just chilled out.
Mr Woof is fortunately much smaller and while he has long hair it is not that thick. I also have a nice setup with a raised bath and a collar that clips to the side of the tub so he can't jump out. It's primarily the dog shakes that are the problem, Mr Woof wants to make sure if he has to be wet I do too.
It's been a big day for Mr Woof - first a bath, then a meet and greet with a new pet sitter. He's decided to stick his head under the pillow and hide from the world for a while.
May I ask what kind of dry dog food Mr Woof prefers and also how old he is. I'm looking for a new dry food for my little dog because I don't think he's into Vetalogica any more.
Mr Woof is 12 years old and prefers Optimum small breed food for it's small pieces. Miss Meow is also a bit partial to it when given any opportunity to get her gums on leftovers.
I get the Royal Canin Small Adult 8kg, but I'm looking to move to something with a consideration to joint health. A fish oil pill squirted on the kibble wasn't appreciated.
Late to this but if it's helpful - some pet foods contain green lipped mussels which are good for joint health, or you can buy dried ones for treats. That might be less controversial.
Melbcat has also gone onto Solensia to slow progression and ease the pain of arthritis
I was looking at that one and Ivory Coat. I'm looking for a small or softer, grain free biscuit with at least 65% meat. Vetalogica hits all those except for the softer bit. I think he's over the flavour though.
I really feel like kibble has got a lot harder. I saw a marked change. Maybe manufacturers are baking the pieces bone dry like pottery to overcompensate against the risk of mould
Me! The disc bit, at least. I have a disc issue in my lower back that flares up occasionally and it hurts so much when it happens. On bad days, I'm unable to get out of bed.
I fight it by being stupidly active, offsetting the fact that I sit at a desk 8 hours a day. But yeah, if I don't run for 5+ days in a row, my back starts hurting.
After being away regional since xmas and back in the melbs.. I've said accidentally hello to 2 random strangers whilst walking. Felt like an axe murderer with the stares I got.
Holy fuck. If anyone remembers a nu metal band from high school called "Kittie", they just released a new song after like, 13 years of nothing. And it's awesome!!!
The ABC having the headline "The rental property sector is not a net taxpayer" is a little misleading IMO.
In many European countries rental properties are taxpayer subsidised. However in turn for getting the subsidies, the property is subject to rent control or a long term lease.
So the Australian women's cricket team is in the process of destroying South Africa.
The current score is 8/55, which is a pretty ominous start for a five-day test. I suspect it may not go the full five days. Given that it's also 40° here, that may not be such a bad thing.
Went out to the dentist for a clean this morning. Apparently my brushing technique is great and also I smell great (nurse liked my cologne) so that was a nice start to the day. Decided it was such a nice day I'd drive out to get lunch in Kyneton which was spectacular, then drove back to the city and got home in time for my afternoon meetings.
OH and some car went flying past me on City Link and then about 30 seconds later I see a cop car flying up behind me flashing its lights. I move out of its way quickly and it takes off and pulls that other car over. Always a nice thing to see.
If I had to pick a highlight from this morning I'd say maybe the vanilla slice and Farmers Union iced coffee combo after my pie.
Spent 3 hours on the phone getting Centrelink to update my TFN. I've noticed calling Services Australia on their regular line just gets you hung up on because they can't handle the volume of calls. Try the Department of Social Services switchboard instead and ask for the area you need: 1300 653 227
Who was it who was making patchwork cushions/chair covers?
Brilliant idea that I will steal. :) I'm going to buy lots of different tapestry cushions and table runners from op shops to make some interesting /less formal chair covers for my dining setting.
OH was home sick today, and I came home to find him watching train videos on YouTube. We’ve now got someone’s amateur version of that SBS Ghan train vid, going from Albury to Southern Cross. It’s actually quite relaxing.
Another night, another fight. I'm almost 100% certain this one wasn't my fault.
Fellow lemmyers (Lemmings?), who the hell do I talk to about problems in my relationship? I can't talk to her about it, because it seems to start fights the second I bring a concern up, and I can't afford therapy right now. I don't want to drag a friend or a coworker into this shit.
To preface, breaking up is not on the table for a fucktonne of different reasons. I believe she will get better, she's just really stressed lately.
I'm going to talk from my experience. First of all I find out if it's me my husband is upset with or someone else. If it's me then I remind him that I'm not the enemy and we need to discuss things in a civilised manner. If it's got nothing to do with me then I let him vent while I listen.
My partner and I used to do the "another night, another fight" until I realised the immense stress both of us were under. Not saying where to lay blame, but I changed jobs, she also moved into different industry and haven't seen the same levels of hostility.
Make a throwaway account WITH your partner and put both sides on r/relationship_advice and see what they have to say? Even as a brainstorming idea it'll give you both some outside perspective.
Argh... One of those social things tonight where you're treated like you're invisible and yet feel like you're expected to perform at the same time. I hate having been the very tail end of my generation. Special punishment if you live alone with no partner or kids, it feels like.
We are going regional this weekend to stay with another relative, but I'll be ducking out for a good part of it - and then the adults are gone and I'll be back to my own life and not feeling like I should pretend to be someone else to be the ideal auntie figure. I'll do it my way, fuckyas.
I don’t know what the deal with this batch of pins is. Have had over a dozen bend to 90 or have the heads shatter in the past few days. Bloody annoying.
Are they blunt or thick? Sometimes resistance going in can make them bend. I'm not sure about the heads though. I know the little emery strawberry was used to smooth or sharpen needles but I don't know if they would work right with modern anti rust pins.
Dressmakers pins would possible be thinner, stronger and sharper
Pretty sure the sand filled strawberries still work. It’s dress pins that are dying, and yes I’m being somewhat mean to them. The quilting pins are coping much better despite previous abuse with coir and spray paint. Another box of those to the shopping list.
Coffee is good. Sleeping like shit the last couple of days, I sleep, but Im not getting a ton of energy from it, and I keep waking up wide awake in the middle of the night.
Random. I was listening to 'Say My Name' from the Beetlejuice musical... and at one point when they were song-arguing there was a short part where it sounded like Lydia and Beetlejuice might be singing the same melody - except him in major and her in minor. And he lilted down on the last note of a few phrases while she was tending to lilt up, further emphasising their disagreement.
I have no idea if the up and down was by a full note or just sharp and flat, and the sheet music seems to be paywalled to get the second page so I can't even try to puzzle that note out.
I don't know much about music theory and can't really read sheet music. Sometimes my brain just decides to have shower thoughts
Everyday I can stand up a little straighter. :) Slow but sure progress.
Wrote my resignation letter ahead of sending it tomorrow (employer already knows it’s coming). That’s probably the most enjoyable letter that I’ve ever written. A little bit of sentiment thrown in there, thank you for the opportunity yadda yadda.
So so glad this day has come. The shit they put me through since asking me to move on, honestly I don’t remember a time I had to face so many situations so quickly where I felt like throwing up from nerves and anxiety each time. But I got through it.
There’s talk of putting me on gardening leave, which I think I’m ok with. They were saying they were happy for me to finish early so I can start my contractor role sooner, but I’d have to agree to shorten my notice pay. I think I’ll take the pay for doing nothing.
Good luck and best wishes. 🤗
Today I did what I had to do
For my sanity.
Told my father all my feelings;
"I'm a travesty".
He wasn't there when I was small,
"Are you here for me?"
Does he care for me?
We barely speak.
But he said he is proud of me,
And my journey.
That he'd support me always,
And that he does love me.
I told my work I'm done;
I won't be coming in
Ever again, I'm through with phones
I live for me.
I applied for a course
In a career I've never been in;
If I want change it's up to me,
I can't keep going on like this.
✊
Pathological work liar is in full force today, gods give me strength and patience.
Can you lean in to the stories and toy with them?
I know it’s a bad idea - just the devil in me would be tempted
Oh, I do, and I absolutely call them out once I've had enough.
One of my visitors asked why you can't get period specific pain relief medication in Australia, like Panadol Menstrual - I dug up an ABC article on the 2015 Reckitt Benkeiser/Nurofen lawsuit, and it had an old clip from the Checkout c. 2013.
I felt so proud at that moment for Australia having the ACCC (defanged as it has been over the years) and consumer affairs shows like Gruen and The Checkout (I learned so much about marketing tactics that I take for granted now, even if Will Anderson is chronically unfunny).
The lack of shows like The Checkout these days is sad. Are there any well-researched contemporary Aus successors I wonder. My niece is rather sheltered so I'd like her to learn some of this stuff and understand that you can fight back against bullies. We come from a place that is still so overwhelmingly anti-consumer that it's not funny
I am about to put Mr Woof through the terrible torment know as "a bath". Wish me luck.
RIP in peace
I have survived, slightly moistened but otherwise uninjured. Mr Woof is now safely out of the bath and in his robe, attempting to recover from the trauma by drying himself off on the carpet.
Phew!!
I remember as a kid, I was the one usually assigned dog bath duty. We had a Samoyed...
At least when he was soaked right through both layers of his coat, the extra weight made him so heavy that resisting was too much effort and he just chilled out.
Mr Woof is fortunately much smaller and while he has long hair it is not that thick. I also have a nice setup with a raised bath and a collar that clips to the side of the tub so he can't jump out. It's primarily the dog shakes that are the problem, Mr Woof wants to make sure if he has to be wet I do too.
It's been a big day for Mr Woof - first a bath, then a meet and greet with a new pet sitter. He's decided to stick his head under the pillow and hide from the world for a while.
May I ask what kind of dry dog food Mr Woof prefers and also how old he is. I'm looking for a new dry food for my little dog because I don't think he's into Vetalogica any more.
Mr Woof is 12 years old and prefers Optimum small breed food for it's small pieces. Miss Meow is also a bit partial to it when given any opportunity to get her gums on leftovers.
Thank you.
Miss Meow you're a little scab.
I get the Royal Canin Small Adult 8kg, but I'm looking to move to something with a consideration to joint health. A fish oil pill squirted on the kibble wasn't appreciated.
Late to this but if it's helpful - some pet foods contain green lipped mussels which are good for joint health, or you can buy dried ones for treats. That might be less controversial.
Melbcat has also gone onto Solensia to slow progression and ease the pain of arthritis
I was looking at that one and Ivory Coat. I'm looking for a small or softer, grain free biscuit with at least 65% meat. Vetalogica hits all those except for the softer bit. I think he's over the flavour though.
I really feel like kibble has got a lot harder. I saw a marked change. Maybe manufacturers are baking the pieces bone dry like pottery to overcompensate against the risk of mould
I think I might go for a 5 minute walk in the sun. First time out in 5 weeks 😭
Yay!! It's a very excellent day for a little sunshine
I survived, was a little shaky, it was nice to feel the sun for more than a few seconds.
😎 that's enough. Well done!
who knew a cracked back and a squished disc would be so debilitating
Me! The disc bit, at least. I have a disc issue in my lower back that flares up occasionally and it hurts so much when it happens. On bad days, I'm unable to get out of bed.
I fight it by being stupidly active, offsetting the fact that I sit at a desk 8 hours a day. But yeah, if I don't run for 5+ days in a row, my back starts hurting.
Well it's already happened twice now.
After being away regional since xmas and back in the melbs.. I've said accidentally hello to 2 random strangers whilst walking. Felt like an axe murderer with the stares I got.
I always do that too. Fuck em if they want to act like dick bags.
When your cat is sick of your shit:
Hahaha. When your dog watches you eat chicken nuggets on the couch.
Aww I forgot how cute yer wee dug is
Cute and feisty
Awww what a cutie!
Did he get any?
Yes. I cool it down for him first
Oh the stinkeye
What did you do
I complained about how I only get a tiny part of the bed... I'll stay quiet from now on lol
Complaining about your allotted space is the fastest way to get actually pushed out
Holy fuck. If anyone remembers a nu metal band from high school called "Kittie", they just released a new song after like, 13 years of nothing. And it's awesome!!!
I saw them live at a very sweaty Big Day Out! I loved Kittie! I'll check this out!
The ABC having the headline "The rental property sector is not a net taxpayer" is a little misleading IMO.
In many European countries rental properties are taxpayer subsidised. However in turn for getting the subsidies, the property is subject to rent control or a long term lease.
So the Australian women's cricket team is in the process of destroying South Africa.
The current score is 8/55, which is a pretty ominous start for a five-day test. I suspect it may not go the full five days. Given that it's also 40° here, that may not be such a bad thing.
time for pain meds and a heat pack 😫
sky prettied
Breakfast 🍏🍎🍐🍊🍋🍈🫐🍓🍇🍉🍌🍒🍑🥭🍍🥥🥦🥑🫛🍆🍅🥝🥬🥒🌽🥕🥐🍠🫚🥔🧅🥯🍞🥖🥨🧀🧇🥞🧈🍳🥚🥓🥩🍗🍖🫓🍕🍟🍔🌭🥙🧆🌮🌯🥗🍲🍜🍝🥘🍛🍣🍱🥟🦪🍥🍘🍚🍙🐠🍤🪼🦀🐙 🍗🥮🍢🍡🍧🍰🧁🥧🍦🍨🎂🍮🍭🍬🍫🥜🌰🍪🍿🍯🥛☕️🍵🍺🍶🥤🧋🧃🥂🍷🥃🍸🍹🧉🔋
Eggs Benedict this morning, please.
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🥚
🥓
🥯
Bacon and eggs please kind sir.
🥓🍳🍳
Smoked salmon and cream cheese bagel please
💨🐟🧀🥯
G’morning
Went out to the dentist for a clean this morning. Apparently my brushing technique is great and also I smell great (nurse liked my cologne) so that was a nice start to the day. Decided it was such a nice day I'd drive out to get lunch in Kyneton which was spectacular, then drove back to the city and got home in time for my afternoon meetings.
OH and some car went flying past me on City Link and then about 30 seconds later I see a cop car flying up behind me flashing its lights. I move out of its way quickly and it takes off and pulls that other car over. Always a nice thing to see.
If I had to pick a highlight from this morning I'd say maybe the vanilla slice and Farmers Union iced coffee combo after my pie.
Lunch in Kyneton today? I am envious!
Goeie nag
Spent 3 hours on the phone getting Centrelink to update my TFN. I've noticed calling Services Australia on their regular line just gets you hung up on because they can't handle the volume of calls. Try the Department of Social Services switchboard instead and ask for the area you need: 1300 653 227
Not your TFN. They sent us a letter in November and you need to reply with another letter so it's on a legal document.
Centrelink received that letter but nothing was done from there it seems like
Who was it who was making patchwork cushions/chair covers?
Brilliant idea that I will steal. :) I'm going to buy lots of different tapestry cushions and table runners from op shops to make some interesting /less formal chair covers for my dining setting.
Me 😺 I’ve also got a friend who did some pretty fab stuff rescuing the embroidered bits of old doilies etc and frankensteining them together.
Cool. Thank you for the inspiration. I'll show pics when I'm finished. :)
Please do. Mine will be a while yet. Sofas are large, awkward, and prone to feline occupation.
Today I came home to SEVEN (7) pakidges. It's like Christmas.
That makes my single package seem really insignifigant.
Are you going to share your excitement on opening them with us? 🤓
Books! A dress! A top! P2 masks! An embroidery kit! Such riches 😊
OH was home sick today, and I came home to find him watching train videos on YouTube. We’ve now got someone’s amateur version of that SBS Ghan train vid, going from Albury to Southern Cross. It’s actually quite relaxing.
OH: ooh, we’re just coming in to Wodonga…
Trains are wonderful. 😊
also hugs, hope you are feeling better
Thanks! He rested all day and is on the mend now
Another night, another fight. I'm almost 100% certain this one wasn't my fault.
Fellow lemmyers (Lemmings?), who the hell do I talk to about problems in my relationship? I can't talk to her about it, because it seems to start fights the second I bring a concern up, and I can't afford therapy right now. I don't want to drag a friend or a coworker into this shit.
To preface, breaking up is not on the table for a fucktonne of different reasons. I believe she will get better, she's just really stressed lately.
I'm going to talk from my experience. First of all I find out if it's me my husband is upset with or someone else. If it's me then I remind him that I'm not the enemy and we need to discuss things in a civilised manner. If it's got nothing to do with me then I let him vent while I listen.
That's appreciated, thank you
My partner and I used to do the "another night, another fight" until I realised the immense stress both of us were under. Not saying where to lay blame, but I changed jobs, she also moved into different industry and haven't seen the same levels of hostility.
Maybe just listen to her for now.
And for you, a diary might be a good idea.
Thank you, I will
Make a throwaway account WITH your partner and put both sides on r/relationship_advice and see what they have to say? Even as a brainstorming idea it'll give you both some outside perspective.
I am a bit late to the party but I just finished binging the first series of The Bear. Holy crap! That was amazing
I agree. Probably brings up some ptsd for anyone that's worked in the kitchen before though!
For sure!
I reckon S2 got even better - excluding a few bits that got a bit annoying
Got a mate who's a chef: yes. Yes it did.
That Christmas episode needs to come with a therapy voucher
Argh... One of those social things tonight where you're treated like you're invisible and yet feel like you're expected to perform at the same time. I hate having been the very tail end of my generation. Special punishment if you live alone with no partner or kids, it feels like.
We are going regional this weekend to stay with another relative, but I'll be ducking out for a good part of it - and then the adults are gone and I'll be back to my own life and not feeling like I should pretend to be someone else to be the ideal auntie figure. I'll do it my way, fuckyas.
Haha. I was testing something out but it didn't work so I had to delete it.
That's weird the giraffe there looks different to the emoji I put there.
That nerve-wracking 3% battery will appear in my nightmares
Mrs Moo won't finish her supper
I don’t know what the deal with this batch of pins is. Have had over a dozen bend to 90 or have the heads shatter in the past few days. Bloody annoying.
cheap
Are they blunt or thick? Sometimes resistance going in can make them bend. I'm not sure about the heads though. I know the little emery strawberry was used to smooth or sharpen needles but I don't know if they would work right with modern anti rust pins.
Dressmakers pins would possible be thinner, stronger and sharper
Pretty sure the sand filled strawberries still work. It’s dress pins that are dying, and yes I’m being somewhat mean to them. The quilting pins are coping much better despite previous abuse with coir and spray paint. Another box of those to the shopping list.
Coffee is good. Sleeping like shit the last couple of days, I sleep, but Im not getting a ton of energy from it, and I keep waking up wide awake in the middle of the night.
I totally agree. Miss Seagoon became quite ill when in Thailand recently and her health insurance meant she had the best of care.
Swatched the paint last night onto strips of paper. It's thin and patchy so I might do another coat to get a good solid colour
It was valentines day. I imagine there was a bit of that going on.
Yep. Not sure if earthquake or cat shaking the mattress
Random. I was listening to 'Say My Name' from the Beetlejuice musical... and at one point when they were song-arguing there was a short part where it sounded like Lydia and Beetlejuice might be singing the same melody - except him in major and her in minor. And he lilted down on the last note of a few phrases while she was tending to lilt up, further emphasising their disagreement.
I have no idea if the up and down was by a full note or just sharp and flat, and the sheet music seems to be paywalled to get the second page so I can't even try to puzzle that note out.
I don't know much about music theory and can't really read sheet music. Sometimes my brain just decides to have shower thoughts
Hot air balloons so close. 🎈🎈🎈Pretty. :)